Advice Long time internet only friendship over in a flash

[Josephine_Morphine]

I met this chick through Facebook, way back in 2017 or 2016 or so. We have a lot in common. I have avoidant personality disorder so it's rare and remarkable I was able to make this friendship. We continued to talk almost daily up until yesterday. I texted a sentence about how I managed to ruin my gaming PC today" which she responded with "Ok. What is Uplift?" , I had to google it and tell her. Next she says "Did you use my number for something? Very suspicious" and then goes silent for well over an hour.

I am wanting badly to know what exactly happened, and what exactly if anything is she accusing me of. Finally I'm convinced she's blocked my number. So i text her from my text me number, to which I said "What exactly are you accusing me of?" and on it went.. she respond with "Calm the fuck down" ... wait what?

She was just a fucking nut after that. She's sensitive, has PTSD , like me, and autism. After that, nothing but rudeness and paranoia. I've never seen her act like this.

It’s a cycle I’m finally realizing I can’t break. With my avoidant personality disorder, it took everything I had to build this bridge over the last eight years. To watch her burn it down over a spam text—and make me the "bad guy" in the process—is more than I can take. I woke up to a barrage of accusatory, smart-ass texts this morning and realized there’s nothing left to say. You can’t reason with a rock, and you certainly can’t be a friend to someone who is determined to see you as an enemy.

So, I’m done. I’ve turned the phone off, and for the first time in years, I’m choosing my own peace over her paranoia. This hurts really bad though. I know her, after the way that played out, there's no way she'll ever think anything but how out of line I was for "freaking out" when I just wanted to know what was going on.

I'm less hurt now, because I don't want to be around or talk to anyone who's not grounded in reality. But still, this really stings. One sided relationship as it seems to have been


Please help me to feel better about this edit: upon further reflection, the thing that hurts the most is that I feel duped. Like a God Damned Fool! Now, it's like none of that friendship was even real. I don't know how to even process it

 

[Jnowhere]

I met this chick through Facebook, way back in 2017 or 2016 or so. We have a lot in common. I have avoidant personality disorder so it's rare and remarkable I was able to make this friendship. We continued to talk almost daily up until yesterday. I texted a sentence about how I managed to ruin my gaming PC today" which she responded with "Ok. What is Uplift?" , I had to google it and tell her. Next she says "Did you use my number for something? Very suspicious" and then goes silent for well over an hour.

I am wanting badly to know what exactly happened, and what exactly if anything is she accusing me of. Finally I'm convinced she's blocked my number. So i text her from my text me number, which she had "What exactly are you accusing me of?" and on it went.. she respond with "Calm the fuck down" ... wait what?

She was just a fucking nut after that. She's sensitive, has PTSD , like me, and autism. After that, nothing but rudeness and paranoia. I've never seen her act like this.

It’s a cycle I’m finally realizing I can’t break. With my avoidant personality disorder, it took everything I had to build this bridge over the last eight years. To watch her burn it down over a spam text—and make me the "bad guy" in the process—is more than I can take. I woke up to a barrage of accusatory, smart-ass texts this morning and realized there’s nothing left to say. You can’t reason with a rock, and you certainly can’t be a friend to someone who is determined to see you as an enemy.

So, I’m done. I’ve turned the phone off, and for the first time in years, I’m choosing my own peace over her paranoia. This hurts really bad though. I know her, after the way that played out, there's no way she'll ever think anything but how out of line I was for "freaking out" when I just wanted to know what was going on.

I'm less hurt now, because I don't want to be around or talk to anyone who's not grounded in reality. But still, this really stings. One sided relationship as it seems to have been


Please help me to feel better about this

Wow Bro, this just seems insane( her recation and the behavior afterwards).

This really reminds me of seeing a woman; who wasn't taking her bi-polar meds, and having a manic episose.

Does she at all bi-polar or have any type of schizo-type disorder?

Basically, could she be off her meds, having a bad episode or possibly be in the middle of adjusting any medications?

This just seems crazy. 8 years of friendship gone? Because you were discussing a video game problem?

Bro, unless I am missing something; this sounds like a whole lotta crazy, pointed in the wrong direction, ( at you).

 

[Josephine_Morphine]

She has PTSD, BI Polar, severe anxiety and has autism, I'm pretty fucked up and she's wayyyy worse than me. I guess she's just losing it. She won't go to a Dr. Won't take meds etc. She's made a few suicidal statements. I am worried but there's nothing I can do, anyone can do. She's really got a big wall built

 

[Jnowhere]

Oh man, their may be nothing you can do.
Honestly, that is a terrible way to lose a long term friendship.

But you gotta protect your self from crazy accusations and possibly worse.

This is full blown mental illness and her not taking her meds is; trouble for all.

 

[M!$TER-ED]

We can't control how other people act. However, we can control how we feel when something, like in your case suddenly changes without warning. It is good you recognize the need to take care of yourself above all else. When something like you mentioned happens we search for answers and where to place the blame, which doesn't really solve the problem but perhaps gives us understanding why things happen the way they do.

Just from reading your post, I feel your pain. I'm sorry you went through that but life does not play fair when it comes to relationships. Don't give up on having friends based on this experience. There are thousands possibly millions of people in the world who are lonely and need a friend. Consider this challenge, make yourself available by reaching out of your comfort zone to 5 people you don't know but would like to know on the basis of friendship. As a matter of fact I'll be your friend and we can see what develops. I must tell you however, I'm not perfect and I'm crazy but in a good way, I think. DM me and we'll see what happens.
There is no reason to feel alone. Believe in yourself and the world will follow.

 

[Zopiclone bandit]

has PTSD

From what?
People toss this term around & it has lost it's actual value, when someone has had to live through something equal to The Siege of Leningrad during WW2 I may buy into you having it.

autism

 

[xoward]

I was in the same boat. I like online dating too