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Long distance relationship

That would still cause problems in my opinion. When I was just finding out the internet of course I've. Had a long distance relationship and it didn't work at all.
On the other hand my current girlfriend and I live together and our 3 year anniversary is coming up. We have lived together for 2 years almost. I met her out of town about an hour in a half away. Which is too far to go everyday when you work full time but still so close because it was only 45 miles away. We saw each other on weekends and we figured most people have kids within months of knowing each other so we just got sick of seeing each other every weekend or every other and moved in together. Only seeing each other once a month will put a good bit of distance and a lot of women need to be smothered with affection especially for those first few months. Eventually it could get tiring annoying and you won't meet all her needs with that distance emotionally and sexually. It could also cause fights and it's easier to give up on a relationship with so little time together. But in the end it really just depends on what the 2 people are like.
 
I had a LDR for a while where I would only see my partner every few months and between visits we used skype, txt etc to keep in touch - it is not without its problems but with trust and a plan of action it can be done.
 
I've only been in two relationships and both have been somewhat distant at some point. For my first relationship, we went to college two hours apart (met in high school). First relationship was difficult to maintain only seeing each other once a month or so.
My partner and I (now) had a distant relationship at the beginning for half a year, then we ended up in the same city for half a year, then distant for another year. Just how our school / jobs / etc had us. I finished school a year earlier than my partner and moved away from him which didn't exactly make sense but we visited each other generally twice a month but it was hard. Then he moved to the city I was in and we got an apartment together.
Knowing that there is an end to the distance really helps. We were like wow a year of this? That sucks. But only a year.... then he could do whatever he wants. It sucked for a year but we made it through.

I think the most important things of LDRs are:
- knowing there IS an end to the distance. even if it is a while, knowing there is an end and you will be able to be near each other at some point
- visiting each other as often as possible. sometimes monthly isn't possible. every other month? every couple months? whatever is possible
- contacting each other through text message, skype, making phone calls, etc. regularly
 
This is the 10th month of relationship with my girlfriend. She live in 550-600km from me. I think the only way to handle a distance relationship is the trust.. and of course a regular contact. It's hard but if you have found your love you have to bear that distance relationship and wish in a good future.
 
Simple Hatred said:
Yeah. You know her/him and see her/him once a month. Could you go on this situation without problems?
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i would hate the lack of sex and companionship i.e. the whole point of a relationship

why dont you move to be closer? either of you? seriously 10 months and you are not making effort to live closer wtf alarm bells should be ringing
 
pofacedhoe said:
i would hate the lack of sex and companionship i.e. the whole point of a relationship

why dont you move to be closer? either of you? seriously 10 months and you are not making effort to live closer wtf alarm bells should be ringing
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Yeah 10 months, you should be at least figuring out how to be closer more regularly at that point. That's what I would think.
 
I don't know what I would consider what I'm in. There's no label, but we aren't seeing anyone else. She tells me all the time you don't have to wait, it's not fair, and somehow we end up talking for hours every single day (English is a language she has only learned in the last 2 years). When she left she told me I am NOT willing to do long distance because it's not fair to either of us. I figured we had so much fun together, just let it go. We met for a reason, and that situation was only meant to be a short one. After she left, we continued talking. The more we talk the more serious it feels. A little background - we met through a phone app and dated for 7 months. We weren't THAT close when she left, and although we did act like a couple, it was casual because we both knew she was leaving.

I was/am very in love with her. I have never met ANYONE like her. I knew she liked me, but it wasn't as strong as how I felt. She has been gone for 2 months now, and I feel like we have learned more about each other in this shortened time than we did in the 7 months of dating. I am going down there for a month in December for New Years. We plan on going to the biggest music festival in S. America and traveling through a few countries. Her plan is to move back after she finishes University which gives a little bit of light at the end of the tunnel. In a sense it works out because I finish University in a few months and I work full time. Whatever this is, things seem to be working. I think it's because there isn't any pressure, there is no label, and we have moments to look forward to in the future. We both genuinely enjoy each other too, so that helps.
 
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Simple Hatred said:
^ I can't move to be closer at the moment for economy problems and for work... Yeah this tunnel is too long, but I can see the light at the end right now. If I could move to be closer I would do it in this moment.
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If you can see "light at the end of the tunnel" - honestly even if it's over a year from now - it seems worth it. See the person as much as possible.
I mean 10 years down the road seems like a bit much but I don't know the "cutoff" time, it's different for everyone.
:)
 
I was in a LDR with my ex when he went away to school for one year. We had dated for about 5 or 6 months before he went away. It wasn't ideal, but we made it work. Now a days, with technology, people in LDR's have a lot of options for to video chat and keep in touch on a much more personal level. All we had back then was the phone, and snail mail. There are also lots of fun things you can do to feel close to the person, however LDR's require effort from both people.

When my ex returned home, I told him that under no circumstances would I do the long distance thing with him ever again. I made it work, but at the end of the day, it was too hard on me. Fast forward three years later, and he applied to go to school in Texas. He didn't want me to come with him, and he didn't to let me stay in his apartment (he owned the place). He wanted me to move home with my parents and wait for him, just like I did the first time. This was one of the things that ultimately led to our breaking up.
 
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