Long distance relationship

[Abcdefg1234567]

This is intended to be SLR material.

Anyways, I'll keep this rather short but understandable.. I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl I love very much, and when I say long distance I'm talking seriously looong distance. I'm just looking for pointers as to how to maintain this relationship from afar. Yes, we do plan on moving in together in the near future and a visit or two will be planned until then. The reason I posted was that I'm concerned because lately she's been showing lack of interest, not saying a whole lot, not wanting to call. I know she loves me very much, this has been going on for months already, the relationship. I just want to keep this relationship thriving.

 

[DivineMmtsofTruth]

I'm currently in a long distance relationship as well, I'm at school a little over 3 hours away from where he's living now. It's rough, we've been going out long distance for over a year now, but at least I get to come home on breaks and whatnot, and it doesn't sound like you have that luxury. The advice I can offer you is this... trust and communication. Trust one another. Trust that you love each other and won't stray from the other, that she's staying true to you and loves you. And for communication... I can't guarantee this will work for you personally, but my boyfriend and I text each other all throughout the day when he's not in work and I'm not in classes and whatnot, and when he's on his break for work he'll call me or right before we go to bed we'll talk to one another on the phone, just to hear each others voice. We'll talk about things going on in his life, things going on in mine, what we're gonna do together next time I come home for break. (Also making the conversations sexual every now and then never hurts and spices it up a bit, haha). You can even do things like send each other cards, notes, letters, gifts, and whatnot, if you're into doing that sort of thing. I know every time I send him a letter it always makes him super happy, he loves reading them.

But basically, all I can say is this. If one of you is way more committed than the other to making the relationship thrive, it never will. Both ends have to be putting in the same effort and have the same amount of desire in keeping it together. It sounds like in your case, she might not be as willing to make it work as much as she once was. I would have a talk with her and ask her what she wants from the relationship, and let her know that she needs to understand that if she truly loves you and wants to be with you then she needs to show more initiative and interest.

Long distance relationships are rough. There are times when I feel I can't handle it, but then I remember that happiness and joy I get from being around him and only him, that no one else in this world can make me feel the way he does... and then I realize, it's all worth it. No distance should be able to tear apart true love.