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So the situation is this: I was told at a young age I could not get pregnant. I also developed a nasty heroin and benzo habit in my 20's. When being treated in the er for bronchitis I discovered that to my complete shock I was just over 4 months pregnant. No signs, no symptoms, nothing. I was told at the time not to quit cold turkey but do not want to give birth to a baby addicted to methadone. I did consider replacement therapy, but because of the benzos no clinic would help me. shamefully, taperd back my use but did not stop....not due to lack of love for my baby, but out of fear because nobody would help. At a recent trip to my ob I was told I was best off going cold turkey and getting to the er stat if anything seemed not right. This is specifically what I was told. My last use was 2 1/2 days ago, 2 bags (down from a 2+ bundle a day habit) and I am not feeling great but it's the easiest detox I've been through so far. Is this because my child is absorbing a lot of the detox symptoms? Should I expect to feel worse or better? Should I give in and try to get on methadone? I am scared, already beating myself up and could use any insights you may have. I am currently just over six months and terrified of hurting my so far healthy but unborn child. Advice?
 
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^IMPORTANT!! Do not cease any drug use while pregnant!

Withdrawls will kill the baby. It's no longer a foetus, it's a real life & you need help.

No one Wants to give birth to a drug dependant baby, but doctors are trained to deal with such.

1), don't use swim here

2), get medical help ASAP!!

3), do not CT ❤️

Rtp
 
not here to judge you but not wanting to give birth to a drug dependent baby should be the least of your worries
get to the ER like you were advised by the OB
you need professional help ASAP
 
I can't second-guess your doctor but I feel it's dangerous for the baby to quit heroin cold turkey. Methadone can be a safe alternative so I would go to the hospital and tell them what's happening. You should be monitored even if they don't give you methadone, you will be in good hands. If you're still using benzos, this needs to be addressed as well. I know you're probably scared but in this situation, you have to be your own best advocate.
 
Go to the ER, doctors screw shit up all the time and it's well known that quitting drugs while pregnant can easily cause a miscarriage, go to the ER.

A baby being born drug dependent is one of those make believe problems created to scare people and shame female drug users. A baby being born drug dependent is not a serious problem provided it's handled correctly and using maintenance. Quitting abruptly while pregnant on the hand can be a VERY big problem.

I implore you to seek immediate medical assistance.

And I assure you neither I nor anyone worth listening too is judging you. Judgemental people rarely have any idea what they're judging.
 
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OP, just to add..that is if you're still around & i didn't scare the shit outta you, (not my intention), I was prescribed benzos in my pregnancy.

I also discovered, a fair bit later than you, that I was expecting sweetchildofmine.

Although not a hardcore opiate user, I certainly had issues with substances.

I went into labour early & was flown to a hospital that could cope with an awesome NICU ward.

I wasn't honest with them, I was young, dumb & pretty much alone at the time, but thankfully the hospital could postpone birth. For five wks I was an inpatient there, the best thing I could've done to prevent issues with my baby.

I wasn't dependant like yourself though. Please be honest with the hospital. They'll monitor you & give you whats necessary.

Hopefully without judgement.

Best of luck,

Rtp
 
First of all congratulations on your healthy little bundle of joy.
I'm going to echo what others have said here - do not quit cold turkey. Your baby will be at further risk if you do. You need help and support from your doctor, they will do the utmost best for you and that little baby. Be open and honest sweetheart, you will feel so much better. Stay safe and I'm wishing you the best of luck with these last 3 months of your pregnancy. You'll be over the moon when you give birth and look into that beautiful baby's eyes, you will feel so much overwhelming love for your child that drugs won't even matter. Take care honey.
 
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