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live with a gay dude,and im not gay

Well, gay men are like anyone else, HUMAN. The problem here is your lying and homophobia. Your problem is you, not him.

I'm trying to not pitch a conniption as a gay man, D's, but you're an asshole.
 
Morphling said:
Well, gay men are like anyone else, HUMAN. The problem here is your lying and homophobia. Your problem is you, not him.

I'm trying to not pitch a conniption as a gay man, D's, but you're an asshole.
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I agree, lying to people and taking advantage of them whether gay, straight whatsoever is never a good thing
 
It sounds to me like both of them are "using" each other for their own selfish reasons. D's is offered a place to stay with the hopes of sexual favors and D's is taking the space while stringing him along. Move out D's it's too strange a situation to stay. Have some dignity for God's sake.
 
I dunno. If you want to whore yourself for a place to live, I can't really say anything if you follow through (place to live for sex).

The difference here is that D's isn't going to follow through. At least I hope he doesn't. Don't need another mugz incident. Stuff like that could mess him up badly. He needs to get out of there.
 
What has Mugz got to do with this? He had a place to live and chose to go to France to binge on MDPV for recreational purposes, both parties being psychologically unstable.

That's neither here not there, I really do hope you find a way out of this though D's.
 
Lysis said:
I dunno. If you want to whore yourself for a place to live, I can't really say anything if you follow through (place to live for sex).

The difference here is that D's isn't going to follow through. At least I hope he doesn't. Don't need another mugz incident. Stuff like that could mess him up badly. He needs to get out of there.
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^ of course I want D's to live, and I want him to be happy. :(

I really think that part of being alive is having a place to call home at the end of the day. I have been homeless twice. It's not fun.

D's: have you considered finding housing through the government? At the needle exchange in my city, if you are legitimately homeless, you can go through detox and then find somewhere to stay for free. If you aren't on drugs I don't think you have to go through detox obviously, but from what I sense, the general person who does accept this help generally is a drug user and is homeless. I don't know what is available in Alabama though, but best of luck to you man. I'd take the advice everyone has brought forth here and find a different place to live.
 
Man you guys are being hard on this poor guy! I've been through a lot of similar situations, staying with gay dudes that even KNEW I was straight just hoping that I'd change my mind...or something, IDK....

Being on drugs, particularly meth, leads to some weird shit happening with living situations....The guy is being cool giving you a place to stay and if it makes you uncomfortable, find another arrangement....

When you have no choice and you're using drugs....give the poor guy a pass on not making mature, well though out decisions.....

I've let people stay with me under weird circumstances knowing it wasn't the best idea and I've done the same thing.....as long as you help somebody else out in the future and you're paying off your karma, I just kinda think it's par for the course!

You could tell the guy, "Look, I'm not gay and I have no interest in engaging in sexual acts with men! I am in a bind right now and I need a place to stay, so if you could help me out for a little while until I sort things out I'd appreciate it..."

That's what I would do.....otherwise, just deal with being hit on everyday! This is a situation a lot of drug-users have been through.....

BTW, there's definitely a lot of gay dudes who have money who look for vulnerable young men to take advantage of....It's pretty common actually, so give poor D's a break! He's doin the best with the hand he was dealt at this point!
 
get off the meth. also find somewhere else to live

this guy is probably looking for sex but you are using him so he probably wants something out of the arrangement other than to be used. from his point of view if you both take advantage of each other then you're even.

find somewhere else and be nice to him until you leave. diplomacy is an art. GET OFF THE DRUGS
 
BlueHues said:
Man you guys are being hard on this poor guy! I've been through a lot of similar situations, staying with gay dudes that even KNEW I was straight just hoping that I'd change my mind...or something, IDK....
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I know a lot of gay guys who are like this. It doesn't matter if the person is straight or not, they always think that they can 'change their mind' with enough persistence.

D's I'd find a new place as soon as you can. Things are only going to get worse where you are.
 
^Yeah, and it's not against gay guys....I've lived in shared living houses where there were gay guys living there....We hung out, talked, got drunk together whatever, but they knew i wasn't gay and they respected that fact....no problem!.....but theres these "certain type" of older gay dudes that seem to just not get it, and they keep trying to get you to fool around with them no matter what! It's usuallyt kind of just a minor annoyance, but fuck!(no pun intended)

Of course, the OP led the guy on in the first place so that's a little bit different! Of course, you think the guy would be smart enough to realize that you just need a place to stay! It's not an ideal situation, really...
 
Yeah I lived with a gay guy in west Hollywood. It sucked. He fell in love with me and called my grandparents and snitched on me cuz I was out with this girl. He told them I spent all there money on pot.

Not to mention he had gay dudes over constantly. Trying to convince me I'm homosexual and all that other weird shit gay ppl do.
 
Odd bit of business, that. I've lived with lots of straight guys and never came onto a one, it would never occur to me to do so. It would be the same to me as coming onto a girl. Guess we're not all sleazebags and 'sissies,' who ever would have thought?
 
^ a snitch is a snitch

gay men trying it on with straight men is desperate but i can tell you from experience, its does get you laid sometimes

it can also ruin a friendship but hey ho.

point is the op is choosing to live with this man and use him for a roof over his head. if your the kind of bang your head on the wall gay its not at all surprising to be tryin it on
 
Let me ask you this: If you had your own place would you let a woman stay at your house and what would you think of her sleeping in the chair and not in the bed with you? Sleeping in a bed with another man does not make you gay, having sex with him kinda does. Now Im not saying dont take advantage of this guy. He offered you a place to live and you accepted. You can take that at face value, but your welcome is running out. Sooner or later your gonna have to pay rent in one way or another or he will be upset. I know if a woman is living in my house she is either paying rent or my sextoy, end of story. So dont be surprised if dude asks you to gtfo. You could pull some you coulda given me a months notice shit. If you wanna be a real dick list that place as your adress. If he calls the cops on you say he hit you and he will have to leave his own house. Thats how you can be a total dick. You are leading him on if he has made his intentions to penetrate or be penentrated known. That being said be ready for whats going to happen. Maybe just have a back up plan. He is not going to like you going on a date with a WOMAN seeing how he wants to be your MAN and you to be his MAN. That being said he might be counting on you being strung out and wanting money. So dont be to surprised if you start detoxing and hes waving some money in front of your face along with his cock.
 
D's I remember you posted about how you are bisexual, and you're not hetero/straight but I can understand why you would not want to have sex with this guy. I'm gay but I can see why you would not want to have sex with a roommate since it's not a good thing to do-except if your partner and you actually live together. I have had actual hetero male roommates before and we didn't have sex or I didn't develop a crush on them and tell them stuff like "oh you're really bisexual/gay have sex with me!" since I wouldn't want a hetero female roommate telling me I'm straight or bi and how I should have sex with her. I have lived with gay men who are my friends but that's all we are and I do not have gay men as roommates who can't take no for an answer or who think that because I live with them that we're gonna have sex. Rest in peace mugz. :\
 
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pofacedhoe said:
^ a snitch is a snitch

gay men trying it on with straight men is desperate but i can tell you from experience, its does get you laid sometimes

it can also ruin a friendship but hey ho.

point is the op is choosing to live with this man and use him for a roof over his head. if your the kind of bang your head on the wall gay its not at all surprising to be tryin it on
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If they have sex with a guy then they're not hetero or straight to begin with. It doesn't make them gay but they're at least bisexual. Some gay men need the fantasy or pipe dream of having sex with an actual hetero/straight guy but these guys have issues with their sexuality and relating to other bi and gay men.
 
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