Limerence Strikes Again

[nepalnt21]

well, i guess this could just be my little e- diary on the matter lol

anyway, now (M) is telling friends of mine that i've been distant/ cold... which is so ironic it's clownish, considering she high- nose snubbed me the first day after i was in the manager's office... i've been TRYING to avoid her like she were a plague rat.

talked to my mom, and we agree this reminds us of someone we used to live with. a manipulative, self- centered, childish, deadbeat mom that i'll only say has been diagnosed with b.p.d. (borderline personality disorder... and yes, i understand it doesn't mean they're a bad person... but this scumbag deadbeat mom was a bad person)... i haven't mentioned, but (M) does also have bpd, and the thing my mom and i agreed on was that thing some ppl do where they flip something to make it your fault:

normal human: (*mild but objectively warranted criticism)

deadbeat mom: "don't ever talk to me again!"

(later)

normal human: "are we ready to talk? there was a lot of animosity earlier"

deadbeat mom: "THE ONLY ANIMOSITY IS COMING FROM YOU!!!"

well, apparently it seems (M) has a little bit in common with deadbeat mom... turns up the nose and then wonders (out loud) why i haven't said hi... real fuckin nutjob.

*edit*

forgot to add, (M) did disclose to me that she has b.p.d... just to thwart any future confusion about my speculation.

and i'm not saying she's evil or some mastermind, just mentioning a pattern we noticed.

 

[Nortika]

Your entire post is a perfect example of how men can’t handle rejection. You were in fact a creepy older dude, pretending to be friends with a woman, “young enough to be your daughter” when you actually had ulterior motives the entire time. Suddenly when she’s turned you down and made it clear she wasn’t interested, she’s a BPD nutjob? Fuck off mate, go back to therapy.

 

[nepalnt21]

interesting that you came to that conclusion, it's your right to think that.

but what exactly makes you say that?

i couldn't be telling the truth because i am a guy? or was there something specific? in that situation YOU'd be the one with ulterior motive, no? or why else do you project that onto a stranger?

again, please be specific.

@Nortika

also, if you have any speculation of your own on why someone (a) would snub someone (b), and then say to someone else (that had just come back from vacation and conveniently missed much of the silliness) that (b) was being cold and distant, i'd really like to read it... not tryna be smart... i really would enjoy it, because i prefer to assume good intentions for everyone, and learn... but i am still a monkey with pattern recognition software baked in real good...

 

[emkee_reinvented]

Limerence, or the overwhelming feeling of infatuation [aka a hopleless limerence]
That you feel around your crush, can throw you out of logical thinking patterns and make you idealize your crush.
The so called spark you feel when eyes meet, and assume the other does too.
Butterflies and re-occuring thoughts through out the day.

So basickly you are talking about the moments preceding falling in love.
Its that about right ? Only then when one of em is allready in a relation.

Yeah had em a lot, 75 % was just my mind playing that trick.
And neurotransmitters doing the rest. Makes you feel real good temporarly.

So its was a one way thing, just after divorce felt Limerence for a girl.
Found out her age 19/ so she could be my daughter, and would make me a pervert.

But also so she was just a very nice girl, i mistakingly interpreted as limerence.
Excused myself for me later. but we had a good conversation the click was there.
Just wrong girl, wrong time and wrong situation. Life is a school.

She had a boyfriend, so att 3 of 4 i am wrong, the 1 i am not sure about was my age.
Eye contact, she was looking back at me to see me looking back at her.
A Belgium tourist never saw her again.

But i am very easy limericed after a 20 year drought.
So expect everyone [or every man ?] to a degree to have it.
It was temp gone when my kids were born,
For a while. But without intimacy with my ex now, it came back eventually.
People need love and limerence probably, just to keep going on.