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lil sis gettin drunk n high

i'm not sure she doesn't talk to me anymore i talk to my mom occasionally but i'm not sure how that side of my family is doing but i might fly out there soon to spend some time with them and then i'll have an idea of how things are going
 
sadly, i went thru the same thing, technically im still going through it. ill try to make this kinda short. I have a sister ten years my junior, she looks much older than she really is which draws attention from creepy old men, im talking when she was 13 and getting started at my guys my dads age, i wanted to shoot all of them. anyways, while i was dealing with all my demons i wasnt living at home and had limited contact with her. but when id see her, sometimes id smell weed on her or could tell she was high, and one night we smoked together. she was like 15 so i was about 25, pretty bad off into IVing dope and occasiojnally coke. But i always told her just stick to pot, dont drink and dont smoke to excess or it will get the best of you.

few years later she graduates HS and goes to college, where i knew she would party and do everything everyone does their first year in college, what i didnt figure on was her getting addicted to oxy, and having it turn out that she was snorting pills at 15....wasnt hooked, but messing around with them. she didnt really get hooked till sometime her freshman year in college

so she told my parents and they were on the verge of heart attacks, literally, i actually hugged my dad and we both cried, my gf at the time was there too and she started crying it was horrible. i knew what she was in for, my dad had to see another one of his kids, his only daughter go thru all this and it was just terrible..so i talk to her and get the story, turns out shes selling hundreds of oxy 30's and opana 40s. she knew some guy who was getting them shipped in like 500ct heat sealed bags, they had to have come from a pharm or something, but she was selling all these pills, and suddenly when she didnt have anything shed do dope. i about lost it when i found that out. i told her to get on bupe bc she tried kicking and it never worked. so she ended up at the methadone clinic...where i also go. so i have to see my kid sister in there and it breaks my fucking heart to pieces. shes like 99% out of there tapering down. but she still snorts opanas and 30s here and there, does coke here and there, smokes weed all the time, drinks a decent bit, rolls sometimes, basically she sees being clean as just not having a habit.

and the worst part is she landed an internship at a local news station and they want to groom her to end up having her on camera as a reporter. luckily she never hit the needle, at least that i know, but she has this amazing opertunity and she still fucks around with heavy drugs. i try and tell her, fuck, have told her for years, look at me, look what drugs have led me into. im 31 and i feel like im 101. im tapering off my methadone because i want out of that place and i want drugs to be a non issue for both of us. i dont even blaze anymore because im looking for work, just take my rx methadone and xanax. which my sister also takes everyday as well.

since your sister is so young and starting on pot and alchol, it seriously consider sitting her down and being honest with her. dont be all dramatic and give her bs scared str8 stories, but let her know there is a time and place for experimentation, and its called
 
This could lead on to problems but from what I can tell; there isn't one yet?

Do you know how often she drinks?

Live and let live, for now. She's young, and doing what most people do.

Edit - Reading the posts in this thread - It sounds like a lot of you guys are projecting yourselves onto your siblings. Something that could cause problems.

But - Just to add a bit of positivity to this thread (cos come on, it is a bit doom and gloom is the only thing gonna happen, here)

I started drinking at 14. Almost every weekend I would get as pissed as i could.

I started smoking cannabis at 16. I smoked daily for a few years, then not so much.

At 18 I discovered everything else.

I've been addicted to (although not that much of a seriously heavy addiction) amphetamine, MDMA (obviously differently - but every fri - sun, 6 - 20 high quality pills (or .5 to 2g MDMA) guaranteed a weekend for at least a year) and again amphetamine.

I've been properly addicted to alcohol and phenibut.

There were a few occasions where my elder, younger sister would have to call my parents up where she was so drunk.

My younger, younger sister would drink, a lot, a lot. She'd go out partying fri - sat and usually spend sunday in bed with a hangover.

Both of my younger sisters have graduated university (and received top marks, so to speak) and are, for the most part, drug free.
 
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That's literally me, I'm 16 though. I haven't done weed for a while now, since I don't want it to get a bigger influence on my life and I rarely drink. I have done a lot of mistakes drinking alcohol where I couldn't control myself at all. You just have to hope, she'll learn from her mistakes, if she makes bad ones.
My sister would tell my mom I drank and smoked, her friends told her and she went to mom. Of course, it was annoying but I have to admit it helped me. (Having my mom to yell at me,) I didn't want it to happen again and that's why I hold myself back when it comes to such.
 
i need to express the valor of my concern both our dads and our shared mom are addicts when i was a kid it was alcohol and meth now oxy and alcohol other drugs mixed in but these are the big problems also both our dads and our shared mom share a plethora of mental health issues so it's easy for me to be scared that even trying cannabis and alcohol could be detrimental
 
I was drunk and getting high at her age. And I know what it's like having an older brother that you're not close with try and step in and be that "protective brother" randomly. You said you guys don't even talk and she has a 3.8 GPA. I don't understand why it concerns you?
 
I think that many of us are where your lil sis was. It sucks, but I don't think you can control her. The more you push the more she will push back. I think the only way to help her is to be there for her, and to set a good example.
 
bennyZA said:
I think that many of us are where your lil sis was. It sucks, but I don't think you can control her. The more you push the more she will push back. I think the only way to help her is to be there for her, and to set a good example.
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this is the most important thing. if you nag her about it, it's going to upset her and she's going to turn to alcohol/drugs to deal with the stress. be a good sibling to her as much as you can. set an example and try to help her.

Since this thread is old, can you please update us? How is she doing?? Any success in contacting her yet?
 
All this doom and gloom..

As far as we know she isn't an alcoholic.. She smokes cannabis and drinks.. Something most teenagers do. Assuming she's going to become an alcoholic and start a life long addiction because she smokes and drinks now is just nuts.
 
no because she's genetically at risk is why i worry and she hasn't talked to me in almost two years she hates me because i went to live in oaklahoma with my mom sis and bro but left after two months because i couldn't get my meds so she thinks i'm a junkie who chooses drugs over her
 
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no because she's genetically at risk is why i worry and she hasn't talked to me in almost two years she hates me because i went to live in oaklahoma with my mom sis and bro but left after two months because i couldn't get my meds so she thinks i'm a junkie who chooses drugs over her
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I think this just confirms my previous statement that she's going to push back if you push her. You have to let her make her own mistakes. What do you really expect, do you expect a teenage girl to take into consideration the long-term risks of her current lifestyle? That's just asking too much. She's going to do what she's going to do and frankly, you can't stop her. You might damage your relationship further if you talk down to her or lecture her all the time. Just be a good brother; give her gentle advice and encouragement. Hang out with her while you're both sober. Meet her friends. Just be a good bro.
 
i'm a serious drugs addict the only thing i could do is explain how bad it has fucked up my life just from trying to have a little fun as a kid enjoying it turned into an extreme addiction that i'll probably have for my short life
 
i think my sister hates me we haven't talked in 3 years and when i visit my mom sis and bro my sis never spends any time with me i love her so much i just want the best for her and i want to have a good relationship with her
 
Just gotta let things pan out sometimes. I watch as my mother drinks herself to death daily. So much wasted potential. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is nothing at all.
 
Im really sorry to hear all this man:/ But seretonin is right, you gotta think of yourself when you were deep into the experimental/regular use phase at the start. Its a subjective prison that people will need to learn to pull themselves out of
 
Unfortunately, you're gonna just have to wait for her to make her own decisions.

I knew all the "dangers" of drugs when I started, but do you think I cared? Nope. Not at all and whenever someone tried to tell me about it, I just shrugged it off like "whatever, that's what everyone says." Unfortunately she's gonna have to make her own bad decisions, and have her own bad experiences with drugs before you'll change or before she'll listen to even a word of what you have to say.

The best thing you can do at the moment is support her when she needs it and make sure she respects harm reduction. At least that way she can have someone who she can talk to, and you can minimize any harm she might do to herself.
 
well my sis is being a bitch to me wont talk to me and had her military bf threaten me lol like i'm afraid of anyone so i've given up my mom and her family they were never there for me so i won't be for them
 
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