I will admit. I like to be in control. Control of myself, control of my emotions, control over how my life is playing out. I am not that interested in controlling other people's actions, but when their actions infringe upon my ability to carry out my plans, I am affected, and upset.
My partner's drug use coming to light explains a lot of the recurring arguments through out our relationship.
I would continually lament about how I felt like I needed to take care of everything, because if I didn't, it wouldn't get done. He would brush it off, saying that of course it would get done, or that it didn't matter. He always failed to see the benefits of a structured life and a clean house. He is only 3 days sober and already he has begun to see that there is good in the simplicity of life. Good in a clean living environment, good in a busy, well organized schedule. At least that is how it seems from the outside. So perhaps part of his childishness was a result of his addiction. Or his addiction was a result of his childishness. In either case, there seems to be a light at the end of the tunnel for him. Which thrills me to no end, I only wonder if the same light will spill over into our relationship.
My partner's drug use coming to light explains a lot of the recurring arguments through out our relationship.
I would continually lament about how I felt like I needed to take care of everything, because if I didn't, it wouldn't get done. He would brush it off, saying that of course it would get done, or that it didn't matter. He always failed to see the benefits of a structured life and a clean house. He is only 3 days sober and already he has begun to see that there is good in the simplicity of life. Good in a clean living environment, good in a busy, well organized schedule. At least that is how it seems from the outside. So perhaps part of his childishness was a result of his addiction. Or his addiction was a result of his childishness. In either case, there seems to be a light at the end of the tunnel for him. Which thrills me to no end, I only wonder if the same light will spill over into our relationship.