life choices

[MíkeySåmmy]

i agree with Komplex about how it sux ass being multi-talented
i agree with rc1n about society placing so many expectations on us
i agree with meth about not EVER listening to your parents
i agree with BayCityRolla about travelling..
and i agree with Decimal Dan - Soma is such a computer nerd... heheh
thats all for now...

 

[Dustoff]

i agree with MikeySammy
Tiggz: you would make a kick ass peter pan chick
i have absolutely no idea what i want to do next month, let alone for the rest of my life, there is so many options open for us in todays world, we no longer have the easy way out of making our own decisions. in years gone by a son followed his fathers line of work, or took on a trade, simple. i still remember my uncle telling me a story of when he was young, quiting one of his jobs cause he didnt get along with the boss, walking next door, asking for some work, and starting straight away. HA, like that will EVER happen again.
I am about to turn 21, i have no ambition, no material goals for the long term, and no idea how i am going to achieve all this. and to be honest, i couldnt care less. i have wonderful friends, money is hard to come by, i love to party, im here in this world and know not what to make of it. Everyone is given this wonderful gift of life, no-one knows what it means, and no-one can tell you what it means to you. You are the one who decides what life and happyness means to you..........ah, i ramble.
*hugz*
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"DJs are like shamans, forging musical paths to other realms....."

 

[funky]

I was in the same position my self and it drove me absolutely nuts

Eventually it will come to you,it has for me finally after 7 years,making the decision to go back to uni and finally finish my degree plus do another new one but I feel I have done so much over those 7 years like all the travelling which is so important to me and all the new friends I've made and every experience I've had,has shaped the person that I am today. We never stop growing or learning as individuals,just don't sweat it too much,learn to live and trust your instincts cause life's too short for regrets

 

[Maxi]

I think i have figured out the reason why i dont know what i want to do....
I have absolutely NO motivation in regards to ANYTHING. At the moment, im trying to get a traineeship, but i keep thinking pppfffttt, it can wait a few days. If i could only focus on something then I think it would all be goods

Maxi

 

[TiggerChic]

Ok so some people seem to be lacking motivation... is this true? I find everyday recently is a struggle to go to work, cause i really don't know what i want to do... (apart from shwashbuckling with captain Hook

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What do you think is causing the lack of motivation - is it that fact that we can't make up our minds as to what we want to do... or is there a deeper problem... i have thought recently that maybe its the lure of the next weekend - i am too busy looking forward to the fun times that i don't really concentrate on the present...
or are there other problems people can see - cause if you can discover a solution to a motivation problem i would love to know!!!

 

[Decimal Dan]

Personally, I've found that you have to have something OUTSIDE of partying and the scene in order to get motivated.
If all you ever look forward to every day of the week is the weekend, then sorry, but you really should be looking at yourself in the mirror and asking, "What do you do?"

Your motivation for living and doing things shouldn't be the weekend's partying antics. What's gonna happen when its all gone? As much as we would all love to be doing this our whole lives, there comes a time (unfortunately) where one day it will have to stop.
I guess what I'm saying is that you need to find something you enjoy doing day-to-day. Otherwise, how can you be motivated if you're doing something you don't enjoy?
Well that's my logic anyways...

 

[Eagleyes]

Ever since i was a kid, I've wanted to be a ballet dancer but my dreams were destroyed in 93' when i was admitted to the emergency ward for what the doctors called a "chronic toe stubbing".
My life was temporarily destroyed.. All the Ballet classes i had been going to, the book's i had read on the subject and the time i had devoted to it had all been stripped from me. It took alot of time and grief to get over my stubbed toe but with help from friends and family (i love you mum and dad) i manage to get my life back.
I realised that you can do anything you want regardless of any disabilities you may have. I now run rehabilitation classes for victims of stubbed toe's and help them get over the pain that i know only too well.
So i bid you good-luck Pekkie with what ever it is you decide to do, be strong, be confident and remember there is NO substitute for persistance!
Dedicated to Eagleyes big toe..... 1979-1993

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[CC]

Well, I really don't know what I want to do with my life. I mean I'm happy now, doing programming, but I don't know if in 5-10 years this is what I want to do (Bad for your eyes). I think you really just have to enjoy what you are doing at the moment, but keep an idea of what you may be working for.
I think I'm happy at the moment cause I'm doing something I genuinly enjoy (programming) and I am also lucky enough to work for someone who treats you more as an equal in a team than a subordinate employee. He goes out of his way to make sure you are happy with what you are doing, and he doesn't like us working too hard cause he wants us to have a life. I also enjoy it cause it is a challenge everyday. Not a day goes by that i don't learn something new.
So yeah, enjoyable but challenging, that's what's keeping me happy

CC
Oh yeah, and Soma, he asked me if I knew anyone that was good with SQL and VB etc, cause he has some work comeing up in the next month or so with Telstra (about 20% maintenance and 80% new development work), so if you get your old programming books out you could get a job with us

and training opportunities galore

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What goes around comes around.
Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like nobody's watching.
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[*jj*]

I have one word .... Why?? Why do I have to know what I am goig to be doing in 45 years time??
I have just fisnished year 12, i loved it to bits but at the same time i hated it. I was at a private girls school and shock o horror I didn't want to go to uni. I am in the midst applying for a hairdressing apprentaship and i tell you what i may aswell be applying to go work in a brothel for all my school and peers thought of it. Dont get me wrong my friends all think it's great but my teachers, careers advisers and everyone else that decided to enquire as to what I was going to do with my life post school, tended to frown apon it. WHY??
At the moment I am actually torn, I love hairdressing but am also looking inot other things, ie today I wanted to be an air hostess. I'm technically still a child(14 days to go)

why should I have to know all this??
All I can say is that we should be living today for today, fuck what happens tommorow. As long as you are happy whether it be at uni, or on the doll, or in a ....fishery I don't know, It shouldn't matter squat.
I will leave you with sum words I heard at work on the radio bfore "are you still having fun?"

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[Eagleyes]

I agree with you *jj*
Obviously my Ballet dancing story was a load of shit but to be serious for once.. who cares what you do for a living? As long as it makes you content then fuck what the others think.
There are very few ppl that i know that actually enjoy their jobs so if can do something you enjoy then good luck to you! Too many ppl chase the dollar or prestige but despise doing what they do, very sad indeed.
At the risk of sounding like a mature person, you can do anything you want to. You really can. Take whatever path you want to take in your life, just make sure you enjoy it!
cheers

 

[Mr. Horse]

wow, great thread

I guess i'm at a fairly major crossroad in my life. Just finished year 12, have a fairly good idea about what I want to do, bt dont really know how to achieve it. When you are/want to be involved in an industry such as music/dance/arts in general, the only way to get ahead is to give some (j/k!!) no, they look for experience generally.
I talked to the CEO of Sony Music Australia and do you know how he started? By brooming the floors and getting coffee for people. He did go to uni, but it was because he was involved from the beggining they chose him.
Ultimately, I want to be a producer and own my own record company. I see a huge gap in the market as well, when it comes to company execs of music companies. They know the business end, but rarely know the music side. I love music, its my life and it always will be, but whether i'm a writer, sound tech, producer, dictator of a complete totalitarian society, it doesnt matter, as long as I have music in my life, i'll be a happy camper

How I do this, i dont know. I have applied for soud tech course at RMIT, but I hear its pretty touch to get into. I am applying for a music business management where I can defer and finish of a BA in business which would be good.
but at the moment....I am gonna travel. I love my parents, they have supported my in EVERYTHING ive EVER done. And now they are cool that i nick off overseas for a while. I leave in 9 days

(sorry to rub it in, but i'm fecken excited)
Just keep it real, be true to yourself, and do what make YOO happy, because ultimately, thats all you could ever ask for and want is happiness

 

[rockee]

*jj* your friends probably look at you regarding hairdressing/brothel thing because they know something.... i was offered a hairdressing apprenticeship when i was 16..provided..i had sex with the owner of the store..so i told him to fuck off. this put me off for life, as it wasn't an isolated incident. however, this was in auckland, nz. perhaps things are different here!!!!
but yeah...who cares what your friends think? if they think less of you for what you truly want to do, then are they really friends?
do what you want to do, otherwise you will always look back and wonder.

 

[Finn]

Pekkie,
You have all the time in the world to decide who you wanna be when you grow up. At 19 I was a completely different person to who I am today. I'm 32 now. If I've learnt anything over the years it's that there will be plenty of opportunities to make life choices. Sometimes it seems, too many!
Don't believe the bullshit 'they' tell you about the hsc, uni and having a career. This is just one way of achieving 'success'. There are plenty of other ways, some of them more conventional than others.
What's really important is that you take the time to get to know yourself first. You know, work out what's important to you and what's not,what interests you, what turns you on, whether you have the discipline it takes to get through uni or whether you would be happier growing tomatoes on a farm in the country.
You might acquire this knowledge by journeying to the four corners of the world, by living in other countries and experiencing other cultures or by immersing yourself in the life of your community right here at home.
At 19 you are just beginning an amazing journey. You are beginning to get to know the person that you are and the person that you can be.
Uni and all the rest of it will wait if it has to. If you feel you need to take time to travel and explore now.... then do it. Choosing what to study will be so much easier when you have had the chance to experience life outside the world you live in now.
If however you feel ready to do it now, then jump in and give it all you've got.
I chose the work, then travel, then study, then work route. It worked for me.

I've travelled, lived, loved, studied, made mistakes, done good deeds, been bad, broken hearts, had my heart broken, changed careers...... Over the years I've grown into myself. I really like who I am and where I'm at these days. The life I dream of now is very different to the one I dreamed of when I was 19. But those life changing decsions still have to be made every now and then

I guess ultimately, as Chaos said, it's as simple as doing what is in your heart. Working out what that is is the hard part!
It's taken me a long time to get to where I am now. Sometimes I've cursed myself for doing it the way I have but in the end I'm glad I've done it the way I did. I've got no-one else to blame but myself, I've made every single one of those life changing decisions. And that's strangely satisfying.
Good luck Pekkie.

 

[despook]

um, i was going to start a thread of my own. but searched and found this one.
i have just flunked two subjects at uni. one for the second time. i think they may kick me out.
i have too many interests to decide on one thing right now.
1. i love to sail. i used to work on a tall ship and i lived for the rush of the wind at your back and the sun in your face. i really want that feeling again. trying to secure a job on a shit somewhere.
2. love to help people. love to give massages, drive people anywhere (if you need a lift call me), basically i like the hospitality industry or the care type stuff. i currently work as a porter. though would like to do massage stuff.
3. from 2 i want to get into making prosthetics. am doing a double degree, eng/science. boring the hell out of me. not sure that i can take much more of it.
4. used to play the sax. really into musik, can heare chords and beats and stuff really well. can pick most stuff that a DJ is about to do before he does it. would really like to learn how to spin, though don't know where to start and am to afraid to ask people.
5. want to travel. just want to get away from it all for a while and find out a little more about myself.
6. would really like to design things. have ideas in my head just can't put them to paper yet. going to do some short courses in design.
okay so here is my plan, defer uni, or be kicked out. work in the hotel. apply for sailing jobs. do short courses in design and massage, learn to spin.
sound okay? someone please tell me that it is a good idea. my parents, mother especially have just come down on me for wanting to quit uni.
in a state of needing some support. just let me know that i am doing something right.
thanks for the space to put this all down.
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Dancing is the perpendicular reenactment of the horizontal desire

 

[CynaKill]

when i grow up i wanna be a rawk star and chew bubble gum

 

[randomblondeboy]

thought i'd reply to this cos i wanna see what i type

i am never someone who has great problems with what i want to do with my life. i am currently about to finish my degree in industrial design. i currently have a job as an industrial designer, working when i can, and want to. i was offered a full time job there last week, but declined because i want to stay at uni and study more. next year i hope to get into multi media, and then in a few years i see myself working in a job i love and enjoy.
BUT
fuck that shit. thats not life. thats a career. as far as i'm concerned, if you don't know what you want to do for a career, don't fuckin worry about it. the only thing i find a career can be useful for is distracting you from your life. actually i only find that true when you are younger. i think by the time you are 50 or so perhaps your career can envelope quite a lot of your life, and i don't see this as a bad thing.
at the same time i don't think age should be any sort of indicator as to what to do with your life. with this in mind i think its fair to say that most people here are in the stage of finishing shaping themselves before they do....errrr what? (oh yeah..that career thing) i think there are very few people that can escape that pattern...and funnily enough i think these people make the most interesting. so at the moment i am at a point where i am being shaped. i can look behind me and see the shape i have been. i can look ahead and see nothing. i think while most people see nothing as a bad thing, i don't. i know that every move i make, every choice i am fronted with, will greatly affect what i look back on, and the shape it is. on the weekend i was sitting down at recovery at sunny. sitting next to techy playing bongos, watching tom on the didge and ferris spinning i considered how fuckin different all our paths were. at that point i realised that everything is fine this was a fairly major realisation for me, as some of the choices i had made in the previous 48hours were fairly major in terms of how i viewed myself in relation to this 'scene'. so i then figured that perhaps this scene was simply a tool in which to shape myself. i have never let myself be fooled into the thought that this scene is my life, otherwise i think i would find myself longing for the weekends. instead i think it is a fairly major part of my life, one which helps me make decisions, and gives me a different perspective. and ultimately, one that makes me realise that as long as i look ahead and see nothing, i am happy.
so...as my sig says,
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[Tesi]

despook, im not really in any position to advise, I'm an early school leaver, and now... my plan is just to work to live, live to party, and try to enjoy life for a while.
Problem is, without all the lovely qualifications you get at school/uni/college and what not, your options are lessened and lessened...
It's possible to do anything, you really love. Just without the proper qualifications it can be that much harder.
Do what you would enjoy, but at the same time, think of yourself in the future too.
I don't beleive im saying that, cause here i am... about to abandon my chance of finishing highschool (again...), and whats my plan? Just to get some shit wage job that'll pay my way for rent/food/bills and partying...
*sigh*, i dont know...
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[bluegirl]

i was actually looking for another thread (started by horsey i think) about what to do when leaving school but found this instead......
**sighs**
this thread SO describes me at the moment....
bk

 

[Pleonastic]

My situation at the moment? No direction, no worries, no stress, no commitments, no drama...
It's a nice place to be if you can manage to be happy with yourself and your situation - which I am!
{edit}
Oh, and I just read RBB's post a few up from this one - that's so true it scares me to see it worded so damn well. Nice one!
[ 06 January 2002: Message edited by: Pleonastic ]

 

[moonlight_blue]

well...time to bring this old thread back cos its rather inrteresting.
uni is starting again soonish and im still not sure if it's the course i wanna do. i don't mind studying so much but im not sure how long i can maintain interst in my subjects.
but if im not studying what AM i gonna do?!
i dunno, im only 20 and feel i've wasted so much of my time already but i still feel so daym apathetic towards many aspects of my life.
i know it sounds silly but i feel by now i should have achieved something