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Ladies, how often have you rejected a guy hoping he would come back to pursue you?

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little BIG Pecker

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So, one time long ago a girl I knew rejected me. I was really professional in my approach & courteous. She rejected me, and that was that. I just figured she had no interest and I moved on "No Big Deal." Years later we meet at a party, and she tells me she had a small crush on me during that time, and she would have loved to date me. I asked her why she rejected me, and her response was that she wanting me to keep trying.... I'm just wondering how many girls do this and how often does it happen? I'm guessing this is called, "Playing Hard to Get" or "Prove Yourself Worthy."

I mean for a woman, this is the worst approach to take in choosing a guy to date. Only the creepers, losers, and desperate men keep pursing a particular woman after she rejected him.

I mean, am I right or am I wrong.

If I was a mind reader, this would be no problem.


I'm little BIG Pecker 8)
 
Subconsciously I did it to my ex. I moved on, he didn't, he was trying to win me over. I wanted to know how bad he wanted the relationship with me, so I kept turning him down to see what he'd do next to "prove his love". In hindsight, I feel terrible for it.
 
I like when they play hard to get. And it's fun when there is one in particular. It's like the fishing-tales where there is this one out there you just have to get.
As long as its fun and games

Subconsciously I did it to my ex. I moved on, he didn't, he was trying to win me over. I wanted to know how bad he wanted the relationship with me, so I kept turning him down to see what he'd do next to "prove his love". In hindsight, I feel terrible for it.
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No way
 
Just the 1. first thing that flew to my mind. Tried something similar. But enough about that. Back to lBp wanting to read minds ;)
 
what do you mean "courteous and professional?" like you took her to dinner and the movie like she was a cheap prostitute that would go out with you for some petty shit?
 
so she thought you were cute or something, most likely. when i know i like someone, I KNOW. i have no idea what your idea of 'turning down' means or what this person meant though.

yeah, i really only know fucked up dynamics in terms of power/ being the one to care less/more (and switching) but when it comes down to it i am never confused about what i want and neither are most people.

there are too many creeps out there, a clear rejection should hold meaning and not be a game. and it usually is.
 
I'm inpatient, I'm the sort of person that knows when to cut my loses and move on if I ain't getting anywhere.
 
^ that's not necessarily impatient...it's the healthiest response.
I think if you second-guess really clear signals - rejection is about as clear as it gets - you run the risk of obsession, humiliation and/or a lot of confusion.
People don't tend to play games with the initial stages of a relationship...and if they do, it's probably a giant fucking red flag to stay well away from that!
 
^Glad you agree with me.
I see it as it's the same sort of thing as, I told you once, why are you still hear?
 
I don't play games.
If I like someone and he asks me out then I'll go out with him.
 
Only with one guy. He was a co-worker. Neither of us were particularly interested in a relationship, and we had always been super flirty. I liked being teased though, and so did he, so there was kind of a mutual understanding that we were both interested in one and other.
Long story short: we teased and played hard to get for multiple months. Eventually, we hooked up a few times. We're still good friends, in separate and serious relationships.
I would have never played that game with somebody I was interested in building a serious relationship with though, and never with somebody who didn't understand that there was a game being played in the first place.
 
Nope, never have. (Though I'm shit at actually telling guys when I do like them, admittedly.)
 
spacejunk said:
^ that's not necessarily impatient...it's the healthiest response.
I think if you second-guess really clear signals - rejection is about as clear as it gets - you run the risk of obsession, humiliation and/or a lot of confusion.
People don't tend to play games with the initial stages of a relationship...and if they do, it's probably a giant fucking red flag to stay well away from that!
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this!
 
little BIG Pecker said:
So, one time long ago a girl I knew rejected me.
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Years later we meet at a party, and she tells me she had a small crush on me during that time, and she would have loved to date me. I asked her why she rejected me, and her response was that she wanting me to keep trying....
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Most often when that type of thing occurs, it means that now in the present time, you are for whatever reason (perhaps increase or decrease in social status by one or both of you) more attractive to her at this time than in the long-ago past, and that she would be willing to date you at this point.
 
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