lack of self control... so what whats wrong with that?

[xxsicknessxx]

Is it wrong admitting a lack of self control and asking my friends and family not to drive me to buy smokes? I need to kick the habit so I can move... it would save me 200 bucks a month easy and it would make finding a place much more easy... not to mention that its a crappy habit and it leaves me dependent on having something every day which is weakness in my eyes... sooo is it lame to ask my folks and people around me not to drive me to buy smokes? I don't think I will regret it and if I really want smokes I can walk but maybe if I have to walk 30min down the road for a pack every time I want one it will help me kick the habit... I know nothing bad can happen from quitting, and I really need the money right now as my rent just went up...

Thoughts? Is it a lack of self control.. I mean it helped me to quit drinking that people around me wouldn't help me get any... I know I would rather be the kind of guy that could just quit and stop when I want and not pick back up but knowing that im not knowing that its better for me to cut my ties to smokes...

seem like a good idea? Tell them don't help me get any more anything wrong with this idea? or will it backfire (though I can't see how)
I know maybe its not dark side feel free to move this but didn't know where else to put it..

I guess this is like calling your dealer and burning your bridge to keep you off drugs, it won't keep you off them if you want it but if you want to quit anyways it can't hurt right?!

 

[RobotRipping]

sounds fine to me, nothing wrong with it. I think it is essential to figure out the triggers that drive you to smoke and learn to cope without smoking in those situations. It's okay to admit you don't have self control, especially with cigarettes, i certainly lack control with them as do many others.

 

[laugh]

its a start op and i can't see it doing any harm...i wouldn't call it lame man. i do think ciggs are lame though, if I'm going to smoke something i want it at least get me high ha.

ime the best way to beat an addiction is to replace it with something else like exercise or whatever. every time you want a smoke get down and do 50 press ups.

seriously good luck with quitting!!

 

[MissNervosa]

I'm a smoker and have no self control either,but I'm not ready to quit yet.

I don't think it's lame at all,you've found a way to help yourself.Quitting is damn hard,so why not utilise every tool you have to kick the habit.Whatever works for you man

 

[LuGoJ]

There is nothing wrong with asking for help as long as you are putting in the effort to remedy the issue that is causing you to ask for help. The responsibility always lies on your shoulders though, even if someone brings you a carton of smokes it is your responsibility to decline. That may make them a bad friend but in the end it is still your fault 100% for lighting up.

Doing what you are asking is fine for the short term but it’s not right to put other people in the middle of your personal battle for more than a few weeks. It’s not their responsibility, it’s yours.

What if you tell your friends you want to go to the store for something else but you really buy smokes? They are going to feel bad because you tricked them and that’s not right.

What if you start getting upset and angry with your friends because they won’t take you get smokes? That would probably make them feel like shit.

 

[DooMMooD]

I'd say asking for that help is putting in some work already. Definitely a good idea! As everyone else says: use any method thats avaiable to you. A contractor for example: if they have the right tool in their toolbox, lets say a saw to cut wood correctly, they'd be retarded to keep trying to cut the wood with a butter knife. Sure they might get it done eventually, but how long would it take?

But LuGoJ is right too: you gotta KEEP working. You cannot now use "oh well you drove me to get them" as an excuse. Just use it as another tool to help you in your fight, not as another justification for when you fuck up.

If you can do that smooth sailing.