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know any narcassist?

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callmeochoocho88

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I have a friend whose personality troubles me. For his privaacy ill refer to him as D. I haven't known D too long I'd say about a year. We share a mutual friend who i'll call K which has known him about 4 years. This person is still a high school student and lives with K because his parents want nothing to do with him. D is a heavy drug user but does not prefer any drug over any other. He does not work. He spends his time trying to get under your skin, it seems like his main objective is to make people made. He finds its funny when people are pushed to that limit of anger to where they want to fight. He has gotten me mad plenty of times but usually I just let him play his games. On top of his obsession with makig people angry he is also a master manipulator convincing K to steal money from his parents, to rob houses, to miss job interviews, and pretty much anything else that will assist in him getting High. K often tells me that he hates D with a passion, and that he truly believes D is the devil or anti-christ. Since I have spent time with D I admit my life has become worse. Although he does have manipulation power over me I still find myself obligated to help D better himself. I still have not met one person that does not agree that D is a narsissist. Does anyone else have a similar problem to where they want to help someone that is simply no good? (I meant to say that he does not have manipulation powers over me. He can't convince me to steal from my parents or rob houses)
 
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No I have never came across anyone like that, that seems really tuff.

I would honestly turn my back on him he's no good, and id let your other friend realize what D is doing to him is just crazy and wrong. Id tell your friend K he could be in a better place by now without D, he could have a job, lead a happy life without robbing homes (possibly going to jail!). You need a heart to heart with him and get him away fast from D you too. He just a mind fucker.

Please I don't want to see anyone get hurt save yourself and your friend from possible jail time/drug charges even something more sinister than that.
 
Simply no good... I had a friend who was exactly the same to what you described and I also called her a devil. I tried many times to change her and to help her out but I just can't see any kindness in her whatsoever, I am still quite disappointed in myself even up to this time for having her manipulated me against other people to get what she wanted but I realized some people just wouldn't change so I moved away from her and never even bothered contacting her.

I believe what you should do is to help your friend K to be a positive influence and to try to get him away from D as it seems to me that he will be on a verge of self destruction in the long run.
 
I've considered walking away from him many times and I know that K considers it often too, and honestly I would walk away but it seems as D has a control over K making it impossible for K to walk away from this person. Since D cant convince me to do insane things like he so easily does to others I feel like I'm the only person who can help K deal with this struggle and since I'm helping K I may as well try to help D. I've told D he has mental issues and he needs a therapist but he doesn't respond or even acknowledge me when I say things like this. And when I try to convince K to walk away he ALWAYS finds an excuse to keep D around. Its freightening to me how troubled their minds are and I can't find it in my heart to watch them destroy their lives.
 
I know that you are looking out for your friend and trying to do what you can but to be a good friend, you have to really have a strong sense of responsibility and if it means that your friend K will hate you, so be it! I've been in your shoes and sometimes people will not listen until they have learned there lesson. If D does something like rob or steal report it right away, in this way, you can take K away from him slowly even if he starts to hate you and I hope that he will realize that you are doing what you can because you are a true friend.
 
I was involved with a very narcissistic man and after some time, I realized he was a scam artist. He lied, manipulated and ripped people off, not just me. These type of people lack empathy and really don't care who they hurt as long as they get what they want. Your friend D seems self centered and manipulative. Not the kind of guy I would want hanging around my little brother.

I would be really concerned for your friend K too, he's still in high school. Isn't there some family he can stay with? Or even a shelter, like Covenant House would be a better environment. He needs to get away from that creepy guy. I would hate to see the kid get in trouble and go to jail. It's only a matter of time before he gets caught.
 
^Definitely T....This guy is headed straight for prison, might even piss the wrong person off and end up dead, I'd stay as far away as possible before this guy drags you down with him!
 
A true narcissist like that is someone that you have to cut from your life entirely if you can. If you can't, allow them to speak while humming the "Jeopardy!" theme in your head then just mutter "uh huh, mmhmm, yup, ok" and get away from them as soon as you can.

You can't fight/argue/rationalize with a person like that because they're willing to take anything to the full out extent. I was best friends with one for 15 years and almost got into a fistfight because after 4x of asking him for bill money he flipped out on ME, bringing up half sandwich he gave me like 6 weeks beforehand as evidence why i should drop the request for $175 and being totally serious about it. Narcissists are allergic to other people who don't live and breathe their agenda, they're toxic and have to be avoided at all costs. YouTube NPD or narcissistic personality disorder for some really insightful/scary info.

That being said, not every person who is in love with themself or thinks they are better/smarter than others is a true NPD psycho/sociopath.

A true narcissist like the one you describe is someone that can't have meaningful relationships with others, and it's likely that you or your friend won't be able to see the severity of how fucked in the head that person truly is until you separate from them completely, change your phone number, and avoid them at all costs. The good thing is that narcissists are in constant need of 'supply' aka a person to manipulate, so they won't hunt you for too long before they give up and look for another unwitting decent human being to feed off of.
 
Yup absolutely. They want you to bite back. Just dont and act cool and detached. It will drive them crazy and will work in the long run. I was in program that had levels as you move through you eventually become a senior where you have to deal with people coming into the program with all these kinds of behaviours. It worked every time.
 
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