rufojones
Bluelighter
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- Sep 29, 2023
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To give context , I have 2 kids with my ex . We live in the same town and have been separated for 6 years. Over the years we have been able to move into a co parenting relationship that is effective and peaceful. We are not like friends or anything but we function well together in order to parent the children. We text and communicate regarding the children and school.
I have a new wonderful wife whom I love dearly. We have a great relationship in general but there is a bit of a struggle. My new wife FUCKING HATES my ex!! Like irrationally so. It comes to a head almost weekly during kid exchanges. Its very out of her normal caring nature. I don't want to take sides but for the context of this post, Ill tell you guys right now, my ex doesn't really do anything to deserve her rage. I end up doing a lot of work to settle my wife down and keep the peace. I really don't know what to do, I love my wife but I feel like she wants me to start a war with my ex and I don't really understand why. I have never cheated on her or given her any reason to feel insecure in our relationship. She has had us meet with lawyers to make up written agreements and even the lawyer said if it isn't broken don't fix it / don't poke the bear.
That also made my wife mad. I love her and I want to do something to make her feel heard here but I don't think it is productive to start a fight with my ex. We had a really bad conversation about it last night that ended in her in tears. Im at a loss at to how to fix this situation. any advise is welcome, I know this isn't the normal subject matter here, I just thought someone might have an idea. Thanks all.
I have a new wonderful wife whom I love dearly. We have a great relationship in general but there is a bit of a struggle. My new wife FUCKING HATES my ex!! Like irrationally so. It comes to a head almost weekly during kid exchanges. Its very out of her normal caring nature. I don't want to take sides but for the context of this post, Ill tell you guys right now, my ex doesn't really do anything to deserve her rage. I end up doing a lot of work to settle my wife down and keep the peace. I really don't know what to do, I love my wife but I feel like she wants me to start a war with my ex and I don't really understand why. I have never cheated on her or given her any reason to feel insecure in our relationship. She has had us meet with lawyers to make up written agreements and even the lawyer said if it isn't broken don't fix it / don't poke the bear.
That also made my wife mad. I love her and I want to do something to make her feel heard here but I don't think it is productive to start a fight with my ex. We had a really bad conversation about it last night that ended in her in tears. Im at a loss at to how to fix this situation. any advise is welcome, I know this isn't the normal subject matter here, I just thought someone might have an idea. Thanks all.