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Just experienced my first robbery

Lysis

Lysis

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I feel so violated. I was hanging out with a friend last night and my car got broken into. They took my iPod, which was a gift from someone who died 2 years ago. I kinda felt bad crying on this guy's shoulder who couldn't do anything for me. It's not that I lost an iPod. It's just that it was a gift from someone who meant a lot to me, and now he's gone. I know it's just a stupid iPod, but it reminded me of him.

This is exactly why I don't believe in karma or anything like that. I guess I'm just venting a bit. I know it could be worse. The robber forced my window down instead of breaking it, so it could have been worse. Still though, I feel like I was violated and lost a lot of trust in humans. I was kinda the naive girl who thought people are inherently good, but a little trust and love of human beings were lost yesterday. People who do that shit are exactly why people like me can become assholes to others.
 
While I totally understand where your coming from with the IPod as this is an item with sentimental value can't simply just be replaced. I thought I was going to read about a terrible gun point robbery or something so i'm atleast relieved to see thats not the case. I know its obvious that the person did something wrong, but when their petty crimes I like to think the person is just a drug addict looking for a fix(which is still wrong but atleast to me maybe a little closer to home than someone robbing someone at gun point just because they have a nice watch and the person wanted it). So try not to lose trust in everyone(hard to do I personally know) its the worst thing you can do. Just find the positive light of people and bath in it for while to wash the filth of this robbery will wash away.
 
awww that sucks so hard Lysis

I'm sorry to hear about that. You know where we live, it could happen anywhere. That fool will have what's coming to him soon enough.
 
Sorry to hear about that. I'm not sure I've ever had any significant stolen from me, all I can remember is having passed out once at a party and having money missing from my wallet, which was not a good feeling.

I'm similar to you in that I am often overly trusting, and assume that most people have good intentions. Many people do, but I'm learning that it's necessary to see both sides.
 
exactly why I don't believe in karma either. plus we can't ultimately change why people do fucked up shit, so all we can do is not give 'em a chance to do it to us. I've been robbed once at knife-point and once at gun-point, plus burgled a few too. the last time i lost my laptop and spare hard-drive with every picture from the last 15yrs, including many of friends now gone.
the second robbery was the last straw for me, and when I went and got my first CWP. I'm lucky to not have at least been shot from that, cause after they got my wallet one fired twice at me before running off but missed.
i figure its better to have a strong defense & never need it, than to need one & not have it.

kiddo, I'm really glad it was a burglary, not a robbery. both suck bad and leave yeh feeling violated, just being robbed up front is way more dangerous and stressful.

how much data was on your ipod? do you have playlists saved on your computer, so you can at least rebuild your collections?
 
Lysis I'm so sorry to hear this hun!! That absolutely sucks. Losing sentimental items via robbery is so completely unfair :(
Much love <3
 
i become very attached to items sentimentaly, i mean i held onto my first "vics mask" for years heheh gross, but so many memories were there. i also had many hundreds of flyers from '92-'02, but a particular flyer(kimball collins, frankie bones, dj shadow) and the entry bracelet i still wish i had, as i made this a first rave for a reluctant friend and heh, shared that mask with him(his first roll). we wound up going to countless more, he committed suicide in december '09.

i definitely understand the impact of this.
and have too many other personal examples i could relate...

all i can say besides more fucked relations is that; you should grieve, this is good to an extent, you dont have this material connection now, but it was out of your control. having a possession as fragile small and valuable as that, something was bound to happen...
:\

BUT, such an attachment, emotionally or spiritually to the memories of a shared life are what matter the most, and can never be taken, damaged, or misrepresented, they belong forever to you and your friends, they are 100% unique and in a sense alive inside you.
forever.

try and let this make those fond or, not so fond memories and feelings, closer to your heart.


iam sorry this happened, all of it, and hope you understand what i mean.
<3 XX
i dont buy much into karma either, do good to be good, doesnt mean others will give a damn, but your guttywuts will.
 
Shit happens lysis. No sense crying over a piece of plastic. Just be lucky you didnt catch the guy in the act and he whipped out a knife. I know I have done ALOT of violating and I tend to just block that part of my life out of my head. Naive girl that phrase actually makes me smile, I love naive girls. :)

peace.
seedless
 
bagochina said:
Just be lucky you didnt catch the guy in the act and he whipped out a knife.
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yeah.... it takes doing a lot of paperwork, having to explain why the moron tried to bring a knife to a gunfight, got a mozambique for his efforts instead of a highly sentimental iPod, and just ended up leaving a big mess on the ground.

=D
 
that's tough, Lysis. i'm so sorry you had to experience that. i've actually had my car broken into several times and each time it's just so shocking someone can just reach in and take what belongs to you. much like you, what bothered me the most was that they'd take things that probably had little, if any, monetary value - things that i could never replace. i know it's tough but eventually it'll become less raw with time. keep positive and thankful it wasn't worse and chalk it up to one of life's little lessons: if given the opportunity desperate people will take what's yours so keep valuable belongings out of sight.
 
bagochina said:
Shit happens lysis. No sense crying over a piece of plastic. Just be lucky you didnt catch the guy in the act and he whipped out a knife. I know I have done ALOT of violating and I tend to just block that part of my life out of my head. Naive girl that phrase actually makes me smile, I love naive girls. :)

peace.
seedless
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im certain she understands "shit happens", like an untimely death of a friend...

you keep liking naive girls(which i doubt lysis is), and youll find yourself to be someones naive boy, hopefully sooner then later.
 
I knew somebody would dislike what I had to say. I dont know I guess I could say sorry that happened lysis yet while in truth I am sorry but in reality it just seems like a situation that no one has control over and I guess myself speaking have just been hardened/numb to situations such as this. Probably reminds me of myself when I was sick for a shot and would do whatever was needed to get that shot. Ipods weren't around than but plenty of other things were. Sad and sick. I suppose I shouldnt have commented but I did. I know I have been robbed countless times, the last time that really scared me I was copping dope in the city and was lead onto the 3rd floor of some building and had a shotgun pulled and forced to my neck, gimme your money. He didnt get the cash in my sock just my pocket.

Similar to deaths of friends I dont let myself worry about it or really think about it because after time and time again it just becomes habitual and I have a wall up where I can count with all my fingers and toes of close friends that are gone. Just another day I guess, glad I am out of that lifestyle. But it definitely scarred my thinking.

sorry to hear that lysis just think that things could have been so much different and worse. Things happen for a reason is what I always tell myself.

peace.
seedless
 
bagochina said:
sorry to hear that lysis just think that things could have been so much different and worse. Things happen for a reason is what I always tell myself.

peace.
seedless
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don't worry about what *could* have happened.... plan for the worst, just hope for the best.

very little happens that we don't open ourselves up to in the first place. but that doesn't mean things happen for a reason. the reasoning comes from our own interpretation of an event, and how the aftermath is handled. nothing is true. everything is permitted.
 
Bagochina, I get what you are saying, but thank you for the little kinder clarification. ;)

I'm not a gangsta, not someone who hangs around a lot of criminals, and the worst thing that has ever happened to me as far as cops are concerned is a speeding ticket. LOL So, relatively speaking, this had me shaken up. I am a live and let live type person, and I just feel violated that someone entered my car and took something of mine when I was doing nothing to this dude.

Like I said, I realize it's just a stupid iPod, but it had sentimental value for me. It's not that it's a dumb iPod...it's just that it meant a whole lot to me because of who gave it to me and that the person is dead now. It was like having something that he "touched" at one point, so it was a weird attachment one has when you associate a "thing" with a person.

I get where you are coming from though - it could have been a lot worse. I realize it, and it's helped me get over it, although I am over it much more today than when I posted about this yesterday. I suppose that if this is the worse thing that happens to me, then I should feel really lucky.

Thank you everyone else for the kind words. I just needed to talk. Looking back, I ask myself why I was balling my eyes out over it. It's dumb, I know. Imagine being the poor guy I was crying to? LOL He called me the next day to ask me how I was doing. He earned BF-potential points that day. =D
 
Lysis said:
I'm not a gangsta, not someone who hangs around a lot of criminals, and the worst thing that has ever happened to me as far as cops are concerned is a speeding ticket. LOL So, relatively speaking, this had me shaken up. I am a live and let live type person, and I just feel violated that someone entered my car and took something of mine when I was doing nothing to this dude.
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And thats the cruel reality of the world.... though you may be a live/let-live person, that doesn't mean everyone else is. Bad things happen to good people.... but being able & equipped to protect yourself and your valuables doesn't mean you're a bad person too, greedy, weak, or with violent tendencies. The right to disagree with me, the right of self-protection, the pursuit of happiness, and the freedom to do so without fear or intimidation are yours..... use them!
:)

Thank you everyone else for the kind words. I just needed to talk. Looking back, I ask myself why I was balling my eyes out over it. It's dumb, I know. Imagine being the poor guy I was crying to? LOL He called me the next day to ask me how I was doing. He earned BF-potential points that day. =D
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neh, it aint dumb. I cried and raged after my laptop got gone'd by some tweaker....

You gonna tell your suffering friend what the score is now? take charge! =D
 
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Aww Lysis I'm sorry this happened to you! :(

About a month and a half ago someone broke into my car and stole my stereo. I really thought it was funny because the stereo was actually broken, but it's kinda creepy too. Whoever stole it probably lives on my street, people don't just go driving through this area. I found out yesterday that our next door neighbor's car was broken into and all his cds stolen the night before.

Don't feel dumb, I would have cried over something that had sentimental value too. *hug*
 
Aww Lysis, I'm really sorry to hear about that :( I know *exactly* what you're talking about when you say you've lost your trust in other humans though. I've had things stolen from me and it absolutely tore me up inside. Some of the things I've had taken from me were things that can't be replaced either. Have you thought about getting your window dusted for finger prints? I know it's not much but you could file a police report and have them look at the car maybe? Anyway, I'm sorry this happened! It sucks but I know how you feel... Instead of readily trusting everyone without question, I refuse to trust them until they've proven themselves to me. It has kept me a lot safer I imagine. I've still made mistakes by trusting certain people who ended up screwing me over but I've been able to avoid anything like what happened to me when I was 16.

Part of me thinks it's unfortunate that I can no longer naively believe that everyone is good, and part of me thinks that I'm better off to assume everyone is bad unless they prove otherwise.
 
Lysis, I'm sorry about what happened and understand how you feel so violated. Your friend will forever live in your heart though this may be of little comfort. I believe we will all see each other again.
Must be south Florida crimewave. Tuesday I drove up on about 6 Pembroke Pines police cars, an investigation van plus BSO at the corner apartment buildings. It turns out was a home invasion robbery. The victim was pistol whipped and they were taking him to the hospital, he's gonna be ok.
It's a creepy feeling when stuff like this happens right on my street. I'm glad we have dogs that bark and sound menacing, (not like they could defend us) but I think it's a good deterrent.
 
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