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I've been stealing... What should I do?

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Ok so my grandmother just got out of surgery and she has a new prescription of Vicodin but there was an older bottle laying around. I helped myself to about half of it despite telling myself with every pill that it was the last one I'd ever take... Right now I'm trying to decide what I should do about it so I'm not disowned by my entire family and my grandmother. Do you think she will noticed if the bottle sort of just disappeared as in being thrown in the trash? I was thinking about making it look like her dogs got ahold of the bottle and chewed it up/opened it spilling them every but that might look suspicious too. I've also been thinking of flat out coming clean about it and apologizing sincerely and asking if there was any way I could make it up to her but I'm afraid my mother will kick me out of her house if she founds out I stole pills. I've been clean for about a year before this, and I just lost control. My family isn't that aware of my previous addictions, because I was not so bad. I don't know what to do, the guilt is overwhelming me and I don't want to be disowned by everyone I love because I lost control for a little while.
 
I'm going to move this to The Dark Side, but we can't discuss ways of stealing the rest and making it seem like an accident, etc.. We can only give you support and advice about how to deal with the consequences of your actions.

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Tommyboy said:
I'm going to move this to The Dark Side, but we can't discuss ways of stealing the rest and making it seem like an accident, etc.. We can only give you support and advice about how to deal with the consequences of your actions.

Anon --> TDS
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I have no desire to steal the rest for the purpose of abusing them, I just want to make them disappear. I'm entirely not interesting in taking more pain killers and I think it was entirely idiotic what I did. If people could advise me on how to deal with the consequences that would be helpful... I'm really stressing out about this and wondering how my family is going to react. I'm almost 100% certain I'm going to confess to what I did tomorrow.
 
^You have to go with your gut in this situation...Maybe your grandma isn't gonna take them regularly everyday anyway, so maybe nothing will ever come of it. confessing to it if she doesn't know already may open up a huge can of worms and make things harder on you in some ways, but only you know what you should do. It's a good sign that you feel guilty about it and want to make it right. For many people that continue on the path of drug-use, they lose they're conscience over time and lose themselves in addiction. This should definitely be a sign to you that you have an addictive personality and a good chance of developing some major problems in your life related to drug use if you keep going...
 
I'm a straight up klepto. My advice is going to be bad advice, but it's what I think and you asked for opinions...

Forget about it. Has anyone asked you or confronted you about the missing pills? It's one thing if you were going to do this continuously, but basically you want to cover your old tracks. Just go about your business like you never took the pills. Act natural, do your thing. Come up with some lie in the back of your head in case someone asks you, but essentially just say "I have no idea what you are talking about." Or say "Why would I take my grandma's old person pills." Make them think you don't know they're pain killers. My guess is that you will never be confronted. Someone will notice, be curious, and then just move on. I think if you go out of your way and do something drastic, that's when people will get suspicious.
 
Hate to say it but, basically what I would do is what bennyZA is saying. I'm not sure whether I agree that you should do that though. Every time you do something like that it becomes a little easier... You do not want to become a master of lies. It seems harmless at the time, or even that you are preventing pain... But it changes you forever and by the time you realise its too late.
But perhaps just letting this one go is the least harmful to the people around you and yourself - on the condition that you dont plan on making a habit of it.

Think of yourself as lucky that you don't know how to lie believably and when lying is even necessary like some of us do.
 
I hate it too but I agree that a "wait and see what happens" approach might be best. Then if you are confronted maybe decide at that point what you want to say. I don't know if it is ok to say this (per mods comment earlier) but please don't make grandma worry that her dogs ate them and freak her out and her spend money taking them to vet and all that goes with that scenario!
 
Man up or shut up and deny everything. If they suspect they have been stolen and you are likely to be the first one they think of then you have to either lie, deny or admit and take your punishment. What's the worst they could do, never trust you again? Perhaps they have every right to feel that way and you will have to take even longer to earn their trust back
 
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i usually just replace them with tylenols or ibprofins that look alike...never know the difference
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Given that we know nothing about grandma DO NOT do this.

Maybe tylenol would be no big difference, but ibuprofen can cause serious stomach bleeding at regular doses in sensitive people, people who are on certain other things, etc.

Also I think you'll have a hard time matching them exactly enough, unless you replace the whole bottle worth and not just the missing half.

Also agree with thousand words. Dont do the dogs thing. That is a recipe for disaster.
 
bennyZA said:
I'm a straight up klepto. My advice is going to be bad advice, but it's what I think and you asked for opinions...

Forget about it. Has anyone asked you or confronted you about the missing pills? It's one thing if you were going to do this continuously, but basically you want to cover your old tracks. Just go about your business like you never took the pills. Act natural, do your thing. Come up with some lie in the back of your head in case someone asks you, but essentially just say "I have no idea what you are talking about." Or say "Why would I take my grandma's old person pills." Make them think you don't know they're pain killers. My guess is that you will never be confronted. Someone will notice, be curious, and then just move on. I think if you go out of your way and do something drastic, that's when people will get suspicious.
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This. 100 percent.
 
I think you should sit your mother and grandmother down and tell the truth and accept any consequences for your actions. From my experiences with recovery once I start stealing and lying and covering up it just becomes easier to do but the guilt just gets heavier. The guilt is what would keep me in active addiction. I believe that saying of "the truth shall set you free" is very true.
 
Stealing drugs is a symptom of addiction. You need to think about that and decide whether it is time to quit drugs and if you need help to do so.

Once you get sober, you can deal with it when you get to steps 4,5,8, and 9. :)
 
If they have no knowledge of your drug use, then you shouldn't be any more suspect than anyone else.
My GF loves pain killers, and frequently takes her grandmother's. This has been going on for over 4 years, and no one has ever so much as mentioned it.
 
I wouldn't say anything, as many people don't take their painkillers as recommended.
For example, I had a horrible experience with oral surgery last year. I told the oral surgeon that he could remove all of my wisdom teeth without putting me under. The local anesthetics didn't ever deaden two of the teeth, so I felt everything when they had to break off part of my jaw to remove them. Afterwards, my doctor said he would write me a script for hydro 10's instead of 7.5's. I took them for a few days, and stopped because they just made me tired or queasy. I never would have noticed them missing.

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HAHA this thread is funny I love how the OP like has a conscience and everyones telling him to do bad shit... lol but yeah I'd do the same thing fuck I'd lie too. Although i still have my conscience deep inside thats not that big of a deal (stealing pills vs (the worst crime:murder, rape>)) idk, i feel ya tho OP, thats what opiates does to us tho. <snip> hope this post made sense

Also if your like me and been on/off/on/off drugs your whole life and your family knows then your family wont believe you most likely
 
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bennyZA said:
I'm a straight up klepto. My advice is going to be bad advice, but it's what I think and you asked for opinions...

Forget about it. Has anyone asked you or confronted you about the missing pills? It's one thing if you were going to do this continuously, but basically you want to cover your old tracks. Just go about your business like you never took the pills. Act natural, do your thing. Come up with some lie in the back of your head in case someone asks you, but essentially just say "I have no idea what you are talking about." Or say "Why would I take my grandma's old person pills." Make them think you don't know they're pain killers. My guess is that you will never be confronted. Someone will notice, be curious, and then just move on. I think if you go out of your way and do something drastic, that's when people will get suspicious.
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This.
 
Just dont steal anymore of them ,would i tell her ,likley i would not .

No point in upsetting her ,the pills are gone ,you did a bad thing ,dont burden others at their expence to clear your self .
 
I really wouldn't worry about it too much. Just learn from your mistake, obviously if you are gonna get this worked up over stealing some weak ass opiates then you shouldn't bother doing it again. I used to steal pills from my family a lot and then I wizened up and realized it was not worth the guilt.

Where is the OP anyway? I haven't seen him post since like a month ago. Shouldn't this be closed or something? lol
 
Ozekat said:
Where is the OP anyway? I haven't seen him post since like a month ago. Shouldn't this be closed or something? lol
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OP was a guest, may have lost track of where the thread went.

There's no reason to close this, it doesn't violate the guidelines. I mean, he's already stolen the pills. *shrug*

Personally, I'd never even consider stealing pain meds from my family. I know what it's like to go through unexpected withdrawals when I'm short on a script, it's not something I'd want to put my 75yo grandmother or 54yo mother through. Sure they may not be used now, but if complications occur and she needs those extras, then I wouldn't be able to live with the knowledge that I'm such a piece of shit.
 
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