TDS its complicated....

[sconnie420]

Soo recently I've been going thru a lot (see my thread in slr)..I mean my whole world is falling apart.. a little about myself.. I'm pretty shy, introverted, and a whole lot more..I'm on anti depressants and have very few friends..I want to do some extreme life changes..be more outgoing and extroverted...I'd like to start by trying something new and extreme..parasailing, skydiving, suggestions are very welcome as I don't get out..somethng to get a massive adrenaline rush..then I'm going to start meditation and yoga to try and calm my mind..I need to make some extreme changes for the better, I need to find peace and happiness I'm just not sure where to start exactly..

I guess I dnt know where I'm going w/ this. Maybe looking for suggestions or just someone to listen..anyone ever been thru this?

 

[herbavore]

Those all sound like really good ideas sconnie. Meditation can be daunting for some people in the beginning. One thing that I like are guided meditations where you are in a group and there is someone kind of leading it, suggesting ways to bring the mind back and focus on your breathing. I used to go to a Buddhist retreat center for those but you can download podcasts etc. Yoga is fantastic as a way to strengthen and tone your body while totally relaxing your mind. I've been getting deals for local yoga classes on groupon lately--otherwise it gets expensive.

I've never been one for adrenaline rushes but if you are then go for it! My son is going skydiving for the first time next week and he's thrilled.

I think the best thing about all this is that you are doing things for yourself. losing a longterm relationship s devastating. The best way to deal with it is in developing the strength and independence that allows you to be happy in or out of a relationship. The bonus of doing that is it makes the next relationship that much healthier.

 

[sconnie420]

I couldn't agree more..I'd even consider skydiving right now even tho I've nevr been on a plane
..I've never really been on for adrenaline rushes but I wana try it..anything to get rid of these negative feeli ngs I have now..I do still hope w my entire being he comes back but I'm forcing meself on.. its just such a sad sick feeling.I lost my bestfriend.