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Is sex a need?

I've been celibate this last year. Totally given up. I'm technically bi, but steer clear of men..the pandemic doesn't help, nor does the fact I'm stupidly in love with a straight female friend...
 
Sex really depends on allot of variables and what I like to call Little bit of White Magic. Two people who really find each other attractive and then huge desire to be one, best way I can describe it and that can be enhanced by so many things. Alcohol , drugs, atmosphere and mood too.
I think it's a need for at least half the world's population. Has to be alluring to both sexes because allot of Porn for guys and loads of advertising of sexy clothing for women and aspiring to look like super models out there. :banana hump:
 
Oh yes it is a need as in it's a biological imperative! Unless you believe in immaculate conception, of course. Then its a guilty pleasure
 
Only for procreation.
No sex for years and it seems to make one more empathetic, ime. Well... maybe some.
 
It's definitely a physical need. When you say 'people who don't have sex but lead fulfilling lives' I'm presuming you're not saying they also don't masturbate. You don't need to have a sexual relationship with another person, but you need sexual release. It may not be a drive of the same order as the requirement for nourishment etc, but it's a fundamental primal drive nonetheless.
 
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TheUltimateFixx said:
It's definitely a physical need. When you say 'people who don't have sex but lead fulfilling lives' I'm presuming you're not saying they also don't masturbate. You don't need to have a sexual relationship with another person, but you need sexual release. It may not be a drive of the same order as the requirement for nourishment etc, but it's a fundamental primal drive nonetheless.
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You don't need to have sex or masturbate to have a fulfilling life. Yes, it's a "fundamental primal drive", but so is, say, hunting, but a lot of people have fulfilling lives without doing that. At least for men, your body will also auto-sexual-release if you don't engage in it yourself for a while.
 
S.J.B. said:
You don't need to have sex or masturbate to have a fulfilling life. Yes, it's a "fundamental primal drive", but so is, say, hunting, but a lot of people have fulfilling lives without doing that. At least for men, your body will also auto-sexual-release if you don't engage in it yourself for a while.
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If I suffered an accident or illness that rendered me totally incapable of experiencing physical pleasure, I'd straight-up consider life no longer worth living.

Also the hunting comparison doesn't fly. Yes our ancestors were hunter-gatherers, but you don't have to stop your kids randomly chasing after animals in the park like you do with a dog. It's not instinctive at that level.
 
RhythmSpring said:
In this thread:

Women: It's not a need exactly...

Men: It's a need!!
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I’m a woman and I emphatically believe sex is a need, on multiple levels. Physically, when I go too long without sex, I end up having orgasms in my SLEEP, which is a completely involuntary thing. And emotionally, people need that kind of intimacy, the touch of another human. So yes, it’s a need. I know there are people who are asexual but variations exist in every human being and sometimes for a physical or psychological reason a person may not be able to enjoy this activity…but I think this is the exception rather than the rule, no?
 
cowardescent said:
I've always heard many people say that sex is a basic need alongside food, water, shelter, and clothing. I think that's B.S. Sexual desire is a very strong want, but a want nonetheless.

Sexual reproduction is necessary for the survival of the species but not the individual. I would say human contact is more important for a functioning human being. Even though it won't kill you, a person would be essentially stunted without it. Many people in solitary confinement go insane without human contact.

I know plenty of people who don't have sex but lead fulfilling lives.
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there's this pyramid model about basic needs, which holds pretty true, think that was maslow

maslow-pyramid.jpg

if a need on the bottom is not fulfilled, you cannot progress through the pyramid, i.e, will not have needs higher up the pyramid
So it's not even close to a physiological need, such as food or water

as you see, sex is not even part of this, only intimate relationships, which does not necessarily include sex.
there is such a thing as asexuality, ppl.
 
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So the people who say that sex isn't a need: do you guys masturbate?

Sex in my opinion is a part of our biology, and if I'm not regularly having sex then I'm always craving it.

Of course it's not as important as food and water, but once you have all those base needs, most people want sex as well. Asexual people are of course an exception, but they are in the minority, right?
 
xtcgrrrl said:
I’m a woman and I emphatically believe sex is a need, on multiple levels. Physically, when I go too long without sex, I end up having orgasms in my SLEEP, which is a completely involuntary thing. And emotionally, people need that kind of intimacy, the touch of another human. So yes, it’s a need. I know there are people who are asexual but variations exist in every human being and sometimes for a physical or psychological reason a person may not be able to enjoy this activity…but I think this is the exception rather than the rule, no?
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God no, especially among older women. There are plenty of all ages who've never had an orgasm.. Not with a man or by themself.

I've got a close friend in Zurich and we've always wondered if we're asexual. I could pretty easily go the rest of my life without it (at least without another person). It's different if I'm with a guy I'm attracted to, but I wouldn't seek it out.

I was sitting at my dad's one night (they'd gone away). He lives close to the city with a nice house and I'm sitting on the balcony having a drink by myself, thinking it might be good to have company. I had $500 cash on me and thought about male pro's.. For about 20 seconds haha. No way would I pay for it.

My daughter and her friends are pretty indifferent as well, in their early 20s. They want guys (or girls?) but get annoyed by the pressure to have sex. My daughter told me how one night her bf kept asking and she kept saying no, and each time he'd get angrier and angrier lol, until about the fourth time - at which point she left ☺️

LOLLL.. This is true btw, I looked it up

 
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