⭐️ Social ⭐️ Is it possible to truly be the best partner to your SO without beating drug addiction

[DeathIndustrial88]

this might sound like singling out certain drugs so anyone feel free to correct me if I’m wrong. I think this is a great point you make. If opioids were as freely available as SSRis….i think people on opioids would operate pretty functionally into society unnoticed just like people on SSRIs.

If you got a bunch of ppl physically dependent on SSRIs (which they are) then suddenly made them highly restricted like opioids are; I guarantee you would have ppl stealing for them and trafficking them and doing all the crazy shit opioid addicts do to avoid withdrawal.

If we go to the current fentanyl tranq drug at street level; this is very different than heroin or oxycodone or something, I think it would make people less efficient and useless and just sleep like zombies all day. I find oxy and heroin to be almost stimulating like a light dose of adderall; it’s very different to be on these despite them being opioids.

Then alcohol is a definite No answer. If you’re an addict of that you’re a mess.

Meth? It could go either way depending on how resilient the individuals mind is to the drug. Some ppl lose their minds and others are normal.

Crack. No. You will be a mess on.

So yes some has to do with the legality societies view on the drug and some of it is intrinsic to the specific drug and some of it depends on the individual. So think these are the variables that matter to answer the original question

Absolutely!

My partner has no problem with me being dependent on opioids. Hell I'm sure he gets tired of hearing me talk about & glorify them all the time, but it's not something that stops him from being able to love or care about me. I'm not out stealing or selling my body for them or anything either. So a lot of it really ends up dependent on what drug is in question & the person's behavior surrounding that drug.

I find heroin very stimulating too. Not like stimulant-stimulating, but more of just a clean feeling of increased energy & increased motivation. Where as stimulant-stimulation feels more forced, anxious & acute. But with opioids, I can be feeling like complete shit & have absolutely no energy to do anything & then I can do some heroin & suddenly I wanna get up & clean & get stuff done. Cleaning & exercise use to be some of my favorite activities to do on heroin (and various other stimulating opioids). So I don't think my partner really has a problem with me wanting to clean or exercise or anything. lol

If I was still a drunk though, my partner might not like that as much & I wouldn't blame him. Especially since alcohol makes me crazy & violent & suicidal.

I keep kind of forgetting that the original question of this post was "can you be your best self" rather than if relationships can work. But I think being your best self can be difficult even if you're a sober person. But I have seen it work where people can be addicts/drug users & still end up in long term relationships. Especially if both are using.

In the case of opioids, I'm actually able to be my best self while on them. I'm a much more pleasant person to be around on opioids, versus when I'm completely sober. lol

One of my best friends is an alcoholic & it affects her ability to drive or do shit without being a drunk. But her boyfriend is also a drunk, so it sort of works out for them. lol

A lot of my family members & friends are also potheads & casual users of drugs & many of them have been together for 20+ years at this point.

So yeah, I think these variables are definitely important.

 

[AngelsandFairiesarereal]

But I think being your best self can be difficult even if you're a sober person.

Yea this is so true. A person can be sober but not emotionally sober … if that makes any sense. I have some family members that are easier to be around if I’m a little high because they’re kind of outta control (even tho’ they are ‘sober’ … oh my, they are NOT emotionally sober lol)

 

[LucidSDreamr]

Absolutely!

My partner has no problem with me being dependent on opioids. Hell I'm sure he gets tired of hearing me talk about & glorify them all the time, but it's not something that stops him from being able to love or care about me. I'm not out stealing or selling my body for them or anything either. So a lot of it really ends up dependent on what drug is in question & the person's behavior surrounding that drug.

I find heroin very stimulating too. Not like stimulant-stimulating, but more of just a clean feeling of increased energy & increased motivation. Where as stimulant-stimulation feels more forced, anxious & acute. But with opioids, I can be feeling like complete shit & have absolutely no energy to do anything & then I can do some heroin & suddenly I wanna get up & clean & get stuff done. Cleaning & exercise use to be some of my favorite activities to do on heroin (and various other stimulating opioids). So I don't think my partner really has a problem with me wanting to clean or exercise or anything. lol

If I was still a drunk though, my partner might not like that as much & I wouldn't blame him. Especially since alcohol makes me crazy & violent & suicidal.

I keep kind of forgetting that the original question of this post was "can you be your best self" rather than if relationships can work. But I think being your best self can be difficult even if you're a sober person. But I have seen it work where people can be addicts/drug users & still end up in long term relationships. Especially if both are using.

In the case of opioids, I'm actually able to be my best self while on them. I'm a much more pleasant person to be around on opioids, versus when I'm completely sober. lol

One of my best friends is an alcoholic & it affects her ability to drive or do shit without being a drunk. But her boyfriend is also a drunk, so it sort of works out for them. lol

A lot of my family members & friends are also potheads & casual users of drugs & many of them have been together for 20+ years at this point.

So yeah, I think these variables are definitely important.

Great points and your life and relationship situation mirror mine. My wife has never even been drunk in her life and got engaged to me while I was still an active IV user (and this gave me the impetus to permanently put down the needle almost 15 years ago)

These days I’ve gotten off of drugs altogether many times and the consensus seems to be that I’m actually easier to be around and a more loving partner on certain drugs….but she does hope I can ultimately get off of all drugs completely like I dream of accomplishing because that’s what I want and she knows its what I want and supports that despite me being more of a dick not stoned on weed.