I have purposely avoided posting in this thread only because the question of whether someone is born gay or not, to my mind, is always a loaded one. I dislike it when someone asks me that question as if a) i have the authority to speak on behalf of everyone else who just so happens to identify as gay and (b) as if homosexuality is so rigid that i even know if i myself was 'born' gay.
Are people born gay? Who knows. More importantly, however, who the fuck cares! To say things like " gay people don't choose who they are attracted to" implies that gay people have to justify the fact that they like cock/love men on the basis of some innate desire, thereby it being 'natural' (read: acceptable). By contrast, such a heavy reliance on the naturalness of homosexuality implies the act is so inherently disgusting that no one could never
choose to love/fuck a person of the same sex
![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
I know a lot of people don't mean it to sound offensive, but it plain is. As offensive as when I hear other gay people justifying their 'lifestyle' in such a way. And not because i am specifically gay, but because i find biologically deterministic arguments moronic, overly-simplistic and problematic for people who choose not to define their sexuality.
Who knows if people are gay. More importantly, the impetus should be placed on not
caring if people are born gay. I mean, really, why does it matter whether someone is born with lots of poofiness in their bones, or if they just so happen, at the age of 50, to decide that they want a cut of smelly man sex. By posing the question of whether someone is born gay or not, implies there is something to be understood in the first place.
NEWSFLASH: there isn't.
Some people like men; by choice, by biology, by the fact that they smoked too much meth last weekend. Who knows? For far too long, the GLBT liberation movement couched homosexuality in the context of 'not being able to help it.' I understand why that argument was necessary back in the highly prudish culture of middle-America, circa later half of last-century. However, i think it is important that we move on from this justification of not being able to help loving men.
I like telling people specifically that i
can help it. But, more importantly, that i am not fucking going to 'help it' because there is no reason why i should have to :D
I say this to people and they insist that they don't mean anything by posing the question. I understand this. However, i cannot help but feel that even if they themselves don't mean to offend, the fact that the question
is still being asked is offensive. Primarily because it is indicative of the deep-seated aversion that Western society has to all forms of deviant sexuality (and by contrast the superiority of 'normal' heterosexuality).
Yes yes, i know this may sound like an angry wankfest. But talking so definitively about something as fluid as our sexual desires/preferences is stoopid.
IMHO,of course
