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Is Having Sex With A Woman That Has A Boyfriend Wrong???

In my opinion, helping someone cheat (when you know the other person is in a relationship) is just as bad as cheating yourself.
Unless of course, her boyfriend is OK with it, like they have an open relationship.

Presuming they don't (because then it would obviously NOT be an issue), you should NOT have sex with someone who is dating someone else. Would you like it if your girlfriend was having sex with some other guy? Probably not. Even if the girl is in a bad relationship, she needs to get out of it before seeing/sleeping with anyone else.
 
if he doesnt know about it or otherwise doesnt condone it, yes, its wrong

SIDE NOTE: When I say wrong I mean is it wrong for me on my end NOT on hers. Obviously she is wrong...

are you a republican?
 
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I've done it before, but I wouldn't do it today. (I'm pretty sure that's the story of my life...)

It sucks, man. I mean, yeah, it can be exciting, and sometimes it can be hard to resist... but it's just not right.

If you want to fuck, then break up with your boyfriend first... is it that hard?
 
Wow.. some peoples position on this issue is quite sad IMO. Why the need to have any cheating in the first place, it's not like there is a shortage of dick or vag on this planet! When I hear people justifying this kind of behaviour it reminds me that i'm living amoungst animals :/ Sex is important but not at the expense of stabbing someone else in the back, regardless of whether you know them or not.. we're all brothers here anyway.

More importantly, why the fuck would you want to have sex with some slut douche who is willing to cheat on her partner? If she was decent she would do the right thing and COMMUNICATE with him first, tell him she's unhappy, try and resolve it.. and failing that dump him. The kind of girl (or guy) who is willing to do that to their partner is not the kind of person you want to sleep with, you may regret it too when she confronts you in a few weeks.. "hey, guess what, im pregnant.. i also have genital warts and herpes sores around my anus". I don't care how hot she is, if she is deficient in soul and moral compass then that is not someone you want to fuck either.

Lastly, have some heart for the guy. You know you would be devestated if it happened to you too. No one wants to find out they've been cheated on, you feel like a total failure. Maybe you have been lacking something but if she was decent she would have told you and not stomped on your nuts.
 
i'm sure you could justify it with moral technicalities, but in the most basic sense it's simply not the right thing to do.
 
Wow.. some peoples position on this issue is quite sad IMO. Why the need to have any cheating in the first place, it's not like there is a shortage of dick or vag on this planet! When I hear people justifying this kind of behaviour it reminds me that i'm living amoungst animals :/ Sex is important but not at the expense of stabbing someone else in the back, regardless of whether you know them or not.. we're all brothers here anyway.

More importantly, why the fuck would you want to have sex with some slut douche who is willing to cheat on her partner? If she was decent she would do the right thing and COMMUNICATE with him first, tell him she's unhappy, try and resolve it.. and failing that dump him. The kind of girl (or guy) who is willing to do that to their partner is not the kind of person you want to sleep with, you may regret it too when she confronts you in a few weeks.. "hey, guess what, im pregnant.. i also have genital warts and herpes sores around my anus". I don't care how hot she is, if she is deficient in soul and moral compass then that is not someone you want to fuck either.

Lastly, have some heart for the guy. You know you would be devestated if it happened to you too. No one wants to find out they've been cheated on, you feel like a total failure. Maybe you have been lacking something but if she was decent she would have told you and not stomped on your nuts.

Well said.

@Larr_E: you said yourself you barely know this girl which should imply she barely knows you. Doesn't it make you wonder how many guys she beds if she's willing to cheat on her bf because she likes your face? Furthermore, she wants to drag you to a George Lopez show. That's the kind of thing the boyfriend is supposed to suffer through. Maybe in her mind you are already becoming the boyfriend, and if that's the truth then she'll find someone else to cheat with when she gets bored of you. You could very well be placing yourself into the same position the old boyfriend is in with regards to you.
 
Wow, wow, wow I'm not trying to date this woman by no streach of the imagination. It would be mostly sexually based as far as I know. I guess i'll just go to lunch with her sometime this week and see what exactly is on her mind...
 
Wow, wow, wow I'm not trying to date this woman by no streach of the imagination. It would be mostly sexually based as far as I know. I guess i'll just go to lunch with her sometime this week and see what exactly is on her mind...

This changes my response. I know you said "affair," but I thought you might really like this girl. When I said you're not responsible for a stranger's feelings, I thought you had a chance at real love.

When it comes to love, most people only have a few such partners in their life, and I think it's always worth going for it. But if it's just getting your dick wet, I'm in line with the many comments on this thread that there are plenty of other fish in the sea.
 
Oh my! It's just bloody sex! You are not as such doing anything to him. As in you are not interacting with him in a direct manner, you are interacting with her alone, any harm to him will come from either her voluntary act to tell him, or his voluntary act to snoop. You can not be liable for someone else's voluntary act if you did not compel them, or you did not directly and materially aid them to do it.

You can't possibly aid someone in speaking, and I doubt you will compel or aid him to snoop.
 
Probably wrong, yeah..but I do it anyway, hah. If I don't see a ring, all bets are off. And even sometimes if there is a ring..But I'm an asshole, so best keep your girlfriends and wives away from me. :sus:
 
Yea put urself in his shoes. Imagine if it was ur gf and u really loved her and found out she was fucking her co-worker it would fuck u up! Id really think bout it before u ruin some guys life. Chances are if shes willing to sleep w u when she has a bf shed cheat on him anyway but I wouldn't want to be the other guy to break up a relationship. Shes probably got aids anyway the fucking whore!

And by some chance it was my gf u bet ur ass id be doing life in prison for a double murder!
 
I have done it before. I didn't see the seriousness in it. If she was not completely happy with her boyfriend and was making a move on me, so why not? But then after 6 months she cheated on me again. This did really hurt. I would never wish this pain on any other human being. So, really, I got back what I deserved. That's the lesson I have learned. I would probably never do it again. It's just morally immature.

We are not just animals that want to fuck each other, we are fellow human beings who should respect each other in the first place.
 
If someone wants to jump you, she's hot... Why not? If she has a man, SHE'S the one doing him dirty. If not you, she can find someone else. It's gonna happen. He'll, you might even be doing they dude a favor... If he wants a lady who will be monogamous she's obviously not the one for him because a cheater is a cheater. No one is THAT special, she's not willing to fuck off her relationship for just you.
 
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