• The Dark Side 💕 Welcome Guest 💕
    Posting Rules Bluelight Rules
    Notable Threads Urgent Hotlines
    Bereavement Mindfulness
    Suicide Support Anger Management
  • TDS Moderators: AlphaMethylPhenyl | paranoid android

Is god a friend?

pammy

pammy

Bluelighter
Joined
Jul 2, 2011
Messages
133
Location
Eccles,Manchester,England
Im really upset at the moment as my very close best friend is suffering with psychological and physical pain once again,in fact he ALWAYS suffering now i see how much pain he has by his poor lost and hurting are.I m wondering if maybe at the age of now 33 myself now wether or not to still believe that thinking god is good was a big mistake???Its not occasionally i see the heartfelt pain he has to deal with but now its almost as though hes literally being bpunished for being nothing less than a kind,thoughtful,loving the list goes on.He believes hes totally unlovable,hates himself and to have to stand by not being able to help heal all his hurt is killing me so badly.Really you couldnt ask for a more quiet and loving person to harm.Obviously hesn got his flaws no doubt i just cant wait to see him with a break for god sake so i ask people do you think god is a friend in this lifetime?im doubting it myself lately P you know who you are never forget that I Love You X
 
Some bad things happen to good people for which there is no explanation. It makes you question things, ask why god would do that to someone who doesn't deserve it. I have seen a lot of tragedy, to such good people. I have mental issues and it tests my faith. I ask why me, why all of the hurt and destruction in this world.
That's just the way it is. I've been through hell but I don't blame my creator. I blame myself. However I never have lost belief that he exists. I'm very spiritual and i guess everything happens for a reason. No matter how fucked up that reason may seem to us.
My mental issues have caused me great pain but i do try to remain spiritual and yes, god is a friend. He cares, he is loving and will one day bring peace and love back to those who lived good lives. Even those who didn't. I believe everyone on earth goes on to the next step in the journey. Going astray here but like i said i question the reason for why i have recieved the pain and misery i deal with.
You must just not give up. Its not easy, god its not easy but it is what it is and as long as i am breathing i am gratetful that i am. Someone once told me that they spoke to their sponsor(I'm sorry if you don't know or believe about the program) but he said he was depressed. His sponsor said you know how many people i know six feet under. They would have given anything to feel that depression given the chance.
If you read the bible remember the story of Job. He went through the most terrible trials and never lost his faith and was repaid tenfold. We must soldier on, and god is a friend and will take care of us by giving us the ultimate peace and serenity when we move on to the next life.
 
there is always always always someone with it much much worse then your self... so maybe god isn't taking care of your friend but hes downright punishing other people... keep it in mind...


I always feel like praying is a good thing and hoping god will help you out but I think if you believe god can help you he can hurt you and sometimes I think praying simply draws his attention to you then he might be like "hey your a punk take this" then you got to suffer...

god is good.. the world is amazing awesome play its us humans you make it suck not god
 
I don't believe in a god that controls the unfolding of people's lives. A look around the world at any point in time will show you that fairness does not exist. We can create a reality for ourselves to a certain extent by our behavior, attitude etc. but even then we have no control over illness, wars, the societal circumstances of our time and culture, etc. As the above posters wrote, bad things happen to good people sometimes. I would expand it to say that there are rarely any "good" or "bad" people--just people that find balance or lose balance at any given time.

I am really sorry for your friend. It sounds like he is besieged by a lot all at once. The best thing that you can do for yourself and for him is to take good care of yourself so that you can stay positive. Take walks, get outside, remember that the world is full of good and full of peace while it is also full of suffering.
 
Don't stop, believin'
hold on to the fee-eelin'
Street lights
people ooooowhoaaa!

your friend sounds pretty depressed. Isn't there cheap psychiatric help in England that your friend could get?
 
there is a philosophical arguement that goes: god is infinitely wise therefore he knows whats going to happen on and on into infinity so when he made adam and eve he knew that there would be ppl who did not believe and who those ppl were and everything about them yet he made them anyway knowing full well they are doomed. If those people change then he is not all knowing, if he did it on purpose he is sadistic. So basicaly god can either be sadistic or not all knowing.
 
Hes got psychiatric help but waiting to see a specialist in affective disorders hes just such a good person it upsets me to see him in so much pain and suffering i just wish that i could help him more but all i can do is be there for him if he needs me to be he does have one of the best doctors hes trying his best to get him diagnosed properly so hopefully he can then be treated with the right medication,pammy x
 
I Normally get flamed when I respond to post with biblical truths, but hey Jesus was perfect and they crucified him so flame on!

The Age old question that everyone asks "Why do bad things happen to good people"

Well first let me start off by telling you all that most people don't know, or haven't been taught about who the God of the bible is.

The bible makes the answer to this question plain as day. The answer to this question is there's no such thing as a good person. The bible says that we have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. The bible says theres none good, No not one. here is the reference to the bible verses for you.

ROMANS 3:10
New International Version (©1984)
As it is written: "There is no one righteous, not even one;

ROMANS 3:23
New International Version (©1984)
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,

Let me end this post with this. One sin is enough to send us to Eternal hell. One wrong doing is punishable by death.

If people really wanna know about God you need to read the bible, and not just take one scripture and twist it whatever way you wanna. You have to take the whole bible and apply it.

Hope you all have a blessed day!
 
Pammy, I know how hard it is to watch someone suffer from mind patterns and self destructive thinking. It is frustrating because no amount of praise or love seems to have any effect on the self-hatred. There are quite a few folk here in TDS that have described those inner struggles with self-hatred quite eloquently. From the outside it seems so pointless and unjustified but from the inside it feels very real. Getting a diagnosis may or may not mean there is a medication that will actually help. I guess the best thing that you can do is to continue doing what you are doing--loving and supporting this person--but try not to get sucked into the angst yourself. Your calm presence will be very healing.<3
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top