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Introducing mdma to le girlfriend. Tips?

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Cevain

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Hi,

My situation: I got a girlfriend for some time now. She doesnt do any drugs (except for alcohol from time to time). Personally I do some drugs (she knows about it, but not in alot of detail). Anway I always had the urge to introduce her to mdma. I think it would benefit our relationship (not that we are having any troubles) and get us closer together. I always have these amazing talks with friends, so I figured this would be great to share with my girl.

Now ofcourse this isn't really the walk in the park because she isn't familiar at all with anything drugrelated. I didn't tell her about it yet either; I probably have to convince her as well so I'd like to make no mistakes.

Then again I think mdma is one of the more forgiving drugs that has a nice feeling almost guaranteed. I havent seen too many people react badly on clean mdma (and at least I know mine is clean so thats good).

So what I was wondering, are there any people that maybe been in this situation before, or have any tips?
 
Does she know you roll? If so it shouldn't be too hard. Tell her about the pros and cons and let her decide. Don't force anything upon her.
 
Bring it up, inform her, make sure she knows the facts and not just what you want her to know. If she's down from there, go for it. But if she says "no" then don't pursuit it any further.
 
I am a girl. Here is my 2 cents he he :) Seriously my advice is:

If she shows even the slightest interest in doing it with you - Educate her fully. If she then says yes then take care of her and listen to her during the roll ! Get everything ready beforehand. Test if you can or at least trust your MDMA source. If she gets sick that will be the end of it dude.

Blankets, glow sticks or lights, music, comfy clothes, lotion, water, Tums in case shes gets nausea and gum. A camera is nice to have on hand to capture the beauty of the roll on the come up if she isn't shy. Roll at home alone - just the 2 of you. She will love the massages.

Setting will be crucial for her - she has never taken a drug before. Start her with half a pill. You can increase dose but you can't cut back on dose once ingested. Let her decide when to add more. Be her trusted guide.

Eat light 3 - 4 hours before - like salad or soup. Have an alcoholic drink 1-2 hours prior to dropping but not during the roll. If she has trouble falling asleep on the comedown - if you can - have lots of sex !! A drink on the come down is nice too. You should have nothing planned the day after except after glow alone together - eating when ready, vitamins if you wish, water and sleeping.

My first real true experience was what I suggested above to do. Then boyfriend now husband asked if I wanted to roll and when I said yes proceeded to tell me everything there was to know - the great ( openness, intimacy, dancing, blowing up, sex, touch, music, euphoria etc - and the not so great ( upset on come up, sweating, next day feeling rolled out and the dreaded sometimes happens Suicide Tuesday) We ate light early, went out for 2 drinks, went back to his place, I changed into his t shirt and shorts, dropped our pill and heaven began shortly there after !

I started out with one low does clean roll. They were Green Playboys from 2008. He was on his 3rd and final pill of the roll and I asked for my second on my own. I knew I was ready ! One of the best nights ever of my life. Hard to believe that was 3 years ago. Time flies when having fun and I hope you both do.

Oh and one more thing. If she says no don't push her. The seed will be planted and if or when she is ready , she will let you know. Remember you are doing this for her first and then for the both of you. Trust before during and after is essential. Good luck ! Keep us posted.
 
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Cevain said:
I probably have to convince her as well
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You really should never have to 'convince' anyone into taking drugs - share your experiences with her, share your knowledge and leave it at that.

If she wants to try it then thats her choice!

Lets just say you 'convince' her into taking MDMA (or any drug for that matter) - she has a nightmare experience (for any reason) its going to be your fault.
 
Just remember MDMA isn't a magic drug that will guarantee repair in your relationship. If the potential to repair the relationship is there from both parties then it will happen. Honesty is the key, tell her that you have taken MDMA a few times. Ask her to attend a night out with you at a club or rave or whatever, and ask if she's interested in trying MDMA.

Outline the pros and cons of MDMA, explain to her how it is a relatively harmless drug, and you will be with her every step of the way. DO NOT force it upon her, if she disagrees then so be it. Leave it, don't ask again, find another way. Let her know however it is a very powerful drug that will open up her mind, and will make her feel like nothing on this earth can.

My $0.02, hope it works out for you. Thankfully for me, my Mrs. rolls as hard as me and keeps up with me. Hope you both get your relationship back on track and enjoy this wonderful experience with eachother.

Cheers,

kroniic..
 
I would just try and explain to her why people do MDMA in the first place. If she's open to new experiences, she'll eventually want to try it once you explain to her how awesome it feels.

And make sure to make that her set and setting is perfect when she drops.
 
I have definitely been in this situation before - although I was the girl who had never used before. Aha. She knows you use, right? I'm not sure exactly what you do but keep it to just weed and mdma. If you use coke, psychedelics, other stuff ... don't overwhelm her! Seriously. If I had found out my bf was a huge druggie (psychedelics, weed, mdma, ketamine, coke, and a gazillion more), I probably wouldn't have listened to him quite as much and just presumed he was a drug addict.

Inform her of the facts. Send her some links on mdma. Like online. Get her to read them.

Honestly, using mdma with a girlfriend/boyfriend is the best thing ever. I wouldn't use mdma without my bf. It just wouldn't be as good. It helps you really bond. My boyfriend and I have never had any serious problems. On occasion, we argue, although that's usually my mood swings and then I realize it and we're good. Like a small argument once a month. Basically nothing. Mdma just helped us be more open with each other. It has really helped our relationship go from being "good" to "amazing".

WHEN she decides to try it with you - do it in like your place or her place or something. Have everything prepared. Glow sticks, back rubs, etc. The ideal setting :)
 
All you can do is share your experience with her, the experience of others, and let her know of any side effects you have experienced. Beyond that there is nothing you can really do. Convincing someone to take a new drug is wrong, and isn't necessary... if she likes what she hears then she can give it a try. Almost nobody is completely against MDMA after trying it, but many (including myself) had no idea what to expect before ingestion.
 
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