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Internet addiction
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panic in paradise
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maybe start by using the internet for what you
need to know.
educational informative information.
thought provoking ideas that make you want to explore your world.
and then, the web is a great place to learn more about what you learned in nature, society, literature, architecture, the arts.
not obsessively searching for things that really dont matter after a few hours.
if you stick to it, you will start noticing your freaking body is actually sick of staying in so many postures also.
need to know.
educational informative information.
thought provoking ideas that make you want to explore your world.
and then, the web is a great place to learn more about what you learned in nature, society, literature, architecture, the arts.
not obsessively searching for things that really dont matter after a few hours.
if you stick to it, you will start noticing your freaking body is actually sick of staying in so many postures also.
maybe start by using the internet for what you
need to know.
educational informative information.
thought provoking ideas that make you want to explore your world.
and then, the web is a great place to learn more about what you learned in nature, society, literature, architecture, the arts.
not obsessively searching for things that really dont matter after a few hours.
if you stick to it, you will start noticing your freaking body is actually sick of staying in so many postures also.
Nah I can't focus on anything useful things on internet, not even enjoyable things, I just mindlessly check forums and other shit and press F5 all day long untill I'm depressed.
malakaix
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Me either.. i've been heavily addicted to the internet since i was 13, im now 21. I'm a massive gamer and addicted to information.. so i doubt this will ever cease entirely for me.
What i would suggest is, observe what you frequent.. then evaluate if it's necessary to access that so frequently, or if you need to at all.. you might find that your going around in loops without even noticing, a structured routine of habit that's developed over time. Once you eliminate the unnecessary aspects of your usage.. you're pretty much forced to go do something else other then be on the internet.
I did this with facebook, what existed as a large part of my life.. for seemingly pointless information which took up alot of my time, i deleted my account and havn't touched it in over 3 weeks.. after that im left with bluelight a few other websites, and games. I still use the internet alot.. but i noticed just how much of a chunk facebook took up for what was more or less just reading status updates... pssh.
I find this to be a sign of boredom, cause i do the exact same thing when im bored... i did it alot with facebook, refreshing every 5 mins.. lol. Solution is to find something meaningful/productive to do.. not always easy, but it'll definitely help.
What i would suggest is, observe what you frequent.. then evaluate if it's necessary to access that so frequently, or if you need to at all.. you might find that your going around in loops without even noticing, a structured routine of habit that's developed over time. Once you eliminate the unnecessary aspects of your usage.. you're pretty much forced to go do something else other then be on the internet.
I did this with facebook, what existed as a large part of my life.. for seemingly pointless information which took up alot of my time, i deleted my account and havn't touched it in over 3 weeks.. after that im left with bluelight a few other websites, and games. I still use the internet alot.. but i noticed just how much of a chunk facebook took up for what was more or less just reading status updates... pssh.
I find this to be a sign of boredom, cause i do the exact same thing when im bored... i did it alot with facebook, refreshing every 5 mins.. lol. Solution is to find something meaningful/productive to do.. not always easy, but it'll definitely help.
calmAnimal
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no friends? family? no other hobbies?
what if tommorow u make a conscience decsion to not use the internet just for that day?
see how it goes
what if tommorow u make a conscience decsion to not use the internet just for that day?
see how it goes
Ixchellian
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read the dictionary & thesaurus, then make a really real pen pal
I don't like to be with people and I have hobbies, usually in episodes like 1 month I go do some sport and other stuff that I am in that moment interested then another month I just don't have motivation or intrest to do anything, and then another month again I have motivation for things. So thats how it goes for me.
Yeah It seems to be boredom. I've tired to do something productive like reading books but after a while I just get "damn it" and then go back to browse some stupid chans in internet.
ChickenScratch
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not to make light of your situation but everybody posting in this thread is being an enabler. myself included.
Hehe, not that it would affect in the end. :D
Nah I don't like to be around people, most likely I would get isolated just like now.
Ixchellian
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![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
blahman8000
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Learn an instrument. Read. Exercise. Take walks. Write stories or poetry. Learn to cook.
Get yourself in the habit of being around people, even if it's hard at first.
Get yourself in the habit of being around people, even if it's hard at first.
No I can't keep my interest long enough.
littlegirlblue
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Attention and literature...
All three of the guys I dated long term have severe ADHD 8) and I was still able to help them find pieces of writing they could escape into from boredom
I am 100% certain that you could find at least one writer that you would be enthralled by, if not en entire genera if you would attempt to get into a multiple of books.
If the thought of finishing a full novel/memoir/etc is overwhelming, there are other options too. Compilations of short stories like Poe's that are swift and engaging. Books of Hunter S. Thomson's or Lester Bangs' articles. Poetry volumes by Bukowski, e.e. cummings, Sylvia Plath.
Have an interest in any random aspect of life at all, like hiking or football or antique furniture? There are well written books that explore any topic you can imagine. Hell, there are even great reads all about drugs and drug culture, like "Disco Bloodbath 2000" or "Already Dead." Prefer completely factual accounts? Try "Ecstasy Cowboys."
You can even go with the classic graphic novels like "The Watchmen" (much better than the abortion of a movie) or manga like "Vampire Hunter D" (same as above!).
Feel free to PM me if you want more specific suggestions...
Books are my favorite escape, exceeded only by sex and preceded closely by drugs. Good luck man%)
All three of the guys I dated long term have severe ADHD 8) and I was still able to help them find pieces of writing they could escape into from boredom
I am 100% certain that you could find at least one writer that you would be enthralled by, if not en entire genera if you would attempt to get into a multiple of books.
If the thought of finishing a full novel/memoir/etc is overwhelming, there are other options too. Compilations of short stories like Poe's that are swift and engaging. Books of Hunter S. Thomson's or Lester Bangs' articles. Poetry volumes by Bukowski, e.e. cummings, Sylvia Plath.
Have an interest in any random aspect of life at all, like hiking or football or antique furniture? There are well written books that explore any topic you can imagine. Hell, there are even great reads all about drugs and drug culture, like "Disco Bloodbath 2000" or "Already Dead." Prefer completely factual accounts? Try "Ecstasy Cowboys."
You can even go with the classic graphic novels like "The Watchmen" (much better than the abortion of a movie) or manga like "Vampire Hunter D" (same as above!).
Feel free to PM me if you want more specific suggestions...
Books are my favorite escape, exceeded only by sex and preceded closely by drugs. Good luck man%)
MeddieFrac
Bluelighter
I just get on here when I'm bored with nothing to do (most of my day.) Nah, I try to find things to do and keep myself busy, and only get on the internet for a few minutes here and there as just another activity to make the time go by.
That's what my life is reduced to, just trying to make time pass by without getting real depressed and trying to keep my anxiety at bay. And roxies most every day help but I'm going to take a week break from that and just stick with my prescribed xanax and k-pin.
That's what my life is reduced to, just trying to make time pass by without getting real depressed and trying to keep my anxiety at bay. And roxies most every day help but I'm going to take a week break from that and just stick with my prescribed xanax and k-pin.
MeddieFrac
Bluelighter
Actually, I used to have a really bad internet addiction, and would spend almost the entire day in my room on the internet/playing games.
But I'm past that phase now. I just keep going through all these phases, and I am waiting patiently for the phase where I am happy and content
But I'm past that phase now. I just keep going through all these phases, and I am waiting patiently for the phase where I am happy and content
Lysis
Bluelighter
This thread is interesting. I used to have a huge fucking WoW addiction, but I dated a guy who played with me, so it was OK for a time. He wanted to quit playing, I still played and it put a strain on our relationship.
Forums, working on the Internet and all that jazz has put a strain on my last relationship. It sucks. I was accused of being cold and never wanting to be intimate. There were reasons why I was like that, but for the most part, I preferred Internet company to listening to his pothead rants.
The WoW addiction was the worst though. It wasn't until he left that I finally woke up and quit playing.
Forums, working on the Internet and all that jazz has put a strain on my last relationship. It sucks. I was accused of being cold and never wanting to be intimate. There were reasons why I was like that, but for the most part, I preferred Internet company to listening to his pothead rants.
The WoW addiction was the worst though. It wasn't until he left that I finally woke up and quit playing.
Bojangles69
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Even though I essentially stopped watching tv because of the internet (so much of cable tv is lame/boring imo) and am on the computer every day sometimes 8-10 hours straight, I still don't think I'm exactly addicted.
Computers have become tools for a lot of people to kill time with. If I'm not at school, working, or basically outside the house in general I can pretty much guarantee I'm on the computer. But I also use this same computer for producing music so it goes hand and hand.
The funny thing is if I get sick of the internet, I wind up just making music... all on the same computer.
I think the #1 problem is if you are a drug addict/anti-social the computer can too quickly become your new best friend. It allows anti-social people to socialize themselves. But if you have an addictive nature to begin, it can obviously get out of control.
The ONE thing that has helped me control this was when I realized how being on the computer for hours and hours actually winds up effecting my mood. Its been proven that there is a direct correlation between hours spent on the computer everyday and depression. But it took my a while to notice in my own life.
Recently I noticed on my days off I would wake up, have coffee, and go right on the computer. Somehow by 10 oclock that night I'd STILL be on. And when it was time to go to bed I was in a TERRIBLE MOOD. I had accomplished nothing (although I tell myself all the time I'm "learning" online) didn't eat, didn't go nowhere or do anything interesting at all. And enough days like that can make a person feel worthless.
So now on days where I know that tendency can surface, after I make my coffee I usually force myself in the car to go ANYWHERE. Go walk around home depot, barnes and noble, mall, ANYWHERE you like. If you don't like people take the dog for a walk in a park (parks by me are usually always empty for w/e reason), go to a beach, get on a bike and go for a run, go fishing, theres plenty of isolated things you can do by yourself.
But you should try to at least notice what its doing to your mood. I would notice almost everytime I left the house to do anything I felt better, and the days I stayed inside all EVEN THOUGH I like the computer, I always wound up depressed.
You really got to divide up your time and try saving it for later in the day maybe. When the sun is out try to get outside your house, its hard, but it will help. Even going outside for a cigarette for 5 mins makes me feel better. Humans weren't meant to live inside sheltered houses for hours and hours on end. Remember a lot of our early evolution was spent mostly outside, thats how we LIVED. So when you are couped up inside all day you make trick your subconscious into thinking your dead... or disabled... or who the fuck knows what I'm talking about lol.
Computers have become tools for a lot of people to kill time with. If I'm not at school, working, or basically outside the house in general I can pretty much guarantee I'm on the computer. But I also use this same computer for producing music so it goes hand and hand.
The funny thing is if I get sick of the internet, I wind up just making music... all on the same computer.
I think the #1 problem is if you are a drug addict/anti-social the computer can too quickly become your new best friend. It allows anti-social people to socialize themselves. But if you have an addictive nature to begin, it can obviously get out of control.
The ONE thing that has helped me control this was when I realized how being on the computer for hours and hours actually winds up effecting my mood. Its been proven that there is a direct correlation between hours spent on the computer everyday and depression. But it took my a while to notice in my own life.
Recently I noticed on my days off I would wake up, have coffee, and go right on the computer. Somehow by 10 oclock that night I'd STILL be on. And when it was time to go to bed I was in a TERRIBLE MOOD. I had accomplished nothing (although I tell myself all the time I'm "learning" online) didn't eat, didn't go nowhere or do anything interesting at all. And enough days like that can make a person feel worthless.
So now on days where I know that tendency can surface, after I make my coffee I usually force myself in the car to go ANYWHERE. Go walk around home depot, barnes and noble, mall, ANYWHERE you like. If you don't like people take the dog for a walk in a park (parks by me are usually always empty for w/e reason), go to a beach, get on a bike and go for a run, go fishing, theres plenty of isolated things you can do by yourself.
But you should try to at least notice what its doing to your mood. I would notice almost everytime I left the house to do anything I felt better, and the days I stayed inside all EVEN THOUGH I like the computer, I always wound up depressed.
You really got to divide up your time and try saving it for later in the day maybe. When the sun is out try to get outside your house, its hard, but it will help. Even going outside for a cigarette for 5 mins makes me feel better. Humans weren't meant to live inside sheltered houses for hours and hours on end. Remember a lot of our early evolution was spent mostly outside, thats how we LIVED. So when you are couped up inside all day you make trick your subconscious into thinking your dead... or disabled... or who the fuck knows what I'm talking about lol.
Lysis
Bluelighter
Bo, I think you're pretty dead-on. I try to take a long walk in the sun now during the day. I don't get to always do my thing, but just getting out in the sun has an incredible positive effect on your mood. For me, I can see where too much Internet time can depress you. It's just not the same as interacting with someone face-to-face. I am generally anti-social, but you just can't beat a nice dinner with someone. It beats sitting on forums all day, although I am truly addicted to it. LOL