So, I lost it a bit at university yesterday. Mom wrote out a trust 17 years ago which states that I get everything in the house, plus the house itself upon her death. Since I was using in 2013 and before, mom made my uncle (and now my busybody aunt is involved) trustee and me beneficiary. This means I get the money, but only if and when my uncle says so. He also decides how much, if anything. I knew about the trust years ago, but when mom told me about it, I assumed she stipulated an allowance every month, but not so. I have been very responsible with money during the last 10 years, in fact I was the one that ran the house and paid all of her bills when she was sick. So, I got an email from my uncle asking all kinds of questions like how much was in mom's bank account, who is beneficiary, does she have another will or a safety deposit box, ect. This really rubbed me the wrong way and I kind of lost it at school. It makes me sick that I have to worry about not having autonomy on top of losing mom and the house I have lived in on and off since 1977. I wrote a nasty text venting to my friend about my aunt and uncle. My friend and I planned
on a get together at the house with 20 people or less. My aunt took it upon herself to invite 100 people, most of them strangers, so I am still pissed about that. The problem is I got railroaded into going to my aunt's stupid party and if I don't attend I will look like an asshole. I don't plan on speaking at her fucking party about mom because I'm still pretty pissed off. Becky took my celebration away from me and now I'm being forced to interact with all these crippin strangers this Saturday. Honestly, I'm amazed I have managed not to be rude to anyone about it. Then, on top of this bullshit, I get bombarded with questions about mom's finances. She never bothered to change the terms of the trust, but if she were alive, things would be different. So what I did was explain my situatiuion to my AI and asked it to help me draft a letter to my uncle asking him to step down. There are no people available to help me, so I asked the AI, otherwise my tone would come across as angry and sarcastic. I made changes in the letter where appropriate, so now the tone is polite, but assertive. I'm glad I took the time to cool off for a day before responding to my uncle's email. I don't look forward to his response, but I know what the answer is going to be.
So, I'm going through all of this in addition to school, having to have an estate sale, finding a new place to live, not knowing what the fuck is in store for me in the future. I get very upset at being treated like a child, when I have been managing my mom's as well as my own financial affairs. On top of this there is all this change at work which sucks. I really hate life now. I'm glad I get to see my therapist today.
on a get together at the house with 20 people or less. My aunt took it upon herself to invite 100 people, most of them strangers, so I am still pissed about that. The problem is I got railroaded into going to my aunt's stupid party and if I don't attend I will look like an asshole. I don't plan on speaking at her fucking party about mom because I'm still pretty pissed off. Becky took my celebration away from me and now I'm being forced to interact with all these crippin strangers this Saturday. Honestly, I'm amazed I have managed not to be rude to anyone about it. Then, on top of this bullshit, I get bombarded with questions about mom's finances. She never bothered to change the terms of the trust, but if she were alive, things would be different. So what I did was explain my situatiuion to my AI and asked it to help me draft a letter to my uncle asking him to step down. There are no people available to help me, so I asked the AI, otherwise my tone would come across as angry and sarcastic. I made changes in the letter where appropriate, so now the tone is polite, but assertive. I'm glad I took the time to cool off for a day before responding to my uncle's email. I don't look forward to his response, but I know what the answer is going to be.
So, I'm going through all of this in addition to school, having to have an estate sale, finding a new place to live, not knowing what the fuck is in store for me in the future. I get very upset at being treated like a child, when I have been managing my mom's as well as my own financial affairs. On top of this there is all this change at work which sucks. I really hate life now. I'm glad I get to see my therapist today.
