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in love with a girl i cant/shouldn't have.

Think of the repercussions should things go not as intended.

yeah that's the thing - she's 16. the odds of the relationship not ending are very slim, and the fact that you're step-siblings who live together means that end would probably get pretty ugly. there are a lot of great girls in the world, and you need to remember that the reason you're fixated on this one is likely more because of proximity (or, more accurately, propinquity) than the fact that she's your one true soulmate. traveling will help, but if it's possible for you to move out i think that would definitely do a lot to get this under control.
 
yeah that's the thing - she's 16. the odds of the relationship not ending are very slim, and the fact that you're step-siblings who live together means that end would probably get pretty ugly. there are a lot of great girls in the world, and you need to remember that the reason you're fixated on this one is likely more because of proximity (or, more accurately, propinquity) than the fact that she's your one true soulmate. traveling will help, but if it's possible for you to move out i think that would definitely do a lot to get this under control.

True. If you want this to work you should not live together. And you're old enough to get your own place now...
 
I say go for it... Marry her before your parents marry! Ok, I'm kidding about the marriage part, but I would go for it. I've had more taboo relationships. If she's someone you really care about, and she feels the same way about you, screw what society thinks. If there's a will, theres a way. And your families should be able to accept your relationship in time. If not, you only live once, and sometimes if your first love gets away you're never satisfied with anyone else.
 
IV been interested in this girl for a good few years now but in the last 3 or 4 months i think that interest has turned into love as we have spent more time together and got to know each other better. the thing is that she is my dads girlfriends daughter and shes a few weeks off being 17 and im 19 (she is mentally and physically very mature). our parents have been together for a good 6 years and we at the moment we all live together. i cant be sure of her feelings towards me but im pretty sure there is some interest there its just she thinks it would be wrong. The worst thing is that our parents are getting married in september! What should i do? i cant stop thinking about her :?
if you date then break up with her, it will impact on your dads relationship. Dont be selfish.
 
The weight of socially conditioned/sanctioned morality is the big deal. Try to consider the greater social circles upon circles that Mother and Father would have to navigate future. It isn't right to impose our morality on others when no physical harm is being done to anyone, but that isn't pragmatic or realistic in this case and in my opinion.

Well said - but I agree there is no real moral dilemma here.. just basically what cheerio mentioned.
 
I say do what you know is right in your heart. Follow that! Do what all people do in life, ask as many people for advice as possible and then just do whatever the hell you feel like doing. Love for the hell of it and make no apologies or be weary of what it could do to your Dad, if it was me though...I'd do it and my Dad would support me in the end.
 
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