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In a delima, found out my younger bro starting shooting up

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fulgore15

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I am no saint by any means, I like my alcohol, weed and hookah. I found out through my cousin that my brother started shooting up (he is cooking down painkillers). He has had minor drug issues for years, and I know that he has been snorting painkillers for a while. He is a real nice guy though, good kid and is holding down a job. I always have fun hanging out with him. Hell me and him have even snorted a couple painkillers together before years back, but I have the discipline to only do it once in a blue moon.

I swore to my cousin that I would not say anything to my brother and I gave him my word but I am very worried. I have known a few people indirectly that have died from heroin overdoses. I know he is doing this because he is depressed but I really don't know how to approach the situation. He would not listen to me even if I called him on it. He is only 22 and way too young to be getting his life in trouble with this junk. He is spending his money on this crap instead of saving up for a car.

Any suggestions?
 
You should talk to him. That's what a loving sibling should do. You know your brother better than we do, and I think you should def. think out what you wanna say, but saying something seems necessary

Offer to give him help, or talk about alteriors like suboxone or methadone he can go on. Think it's important to have him realize the consequences that can come of this, and that he isn't immune from anything. If it goes further you should consider speaking to your parents about it

I'm sorry that your brother started shooting, but I think it's the right thing to help. He may reject it at first but you should understand it's the best thing you could do. Hell I mean if it gets that bad you could always ensue an intervention

Some people just don't get it until they've lost everything, that's how it was with me

Good luck
 
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it can sometimes be very very hard to approach these situations, but you are his older brother. do what you have to do. if you are genuinely concerned for his well being and safety tell him. tell him what it is doing to you. but whatever you do don't talk down to him. treat him as your equal and show him your not there to be like a parent.

my older brother was a junky for years in and out of jail, i could never do anything about it for the simple fact he was never around so i guess i never really noticed. but i knew the problem was always there. you can do something about it. i guess it's up to him but if he doesn't see how it is affecting others then maybe it is to late. sometimes they live so far in there own world you can never get through to them. goodluck.
 
There's nothing wrong with bringing up the issue and expressing concern. There's a difference between lecturing/criticizing and expressing that you are genuinely worried about somebody. It doesn't mean that he will stop, but knowing that you care may be helpful for him.

It can be hard watching somebody engage in dangerous behaviors but if you express yourself in a way that does not push him away he may be more willing to turn to you when he is ready to stop and is looking for support.
 
Try to catch him in the act, pretend you are a bit surprised, then ask him if he has any more painkillers for you (don't consume them), and play along, that way he will not be surprised, he will feel empathy and you can take part of his dose from him.
Then start to talk. Don't tell him right away you are worried as you say he will just shut everyone out. You may start by telling him: "hey do you remember John Whatever? the poor bastard od'ed and just died... Do you know what are you doing?" then something like: "Ohh, and how do you feel when not high?" "Oh then you've been feeling a little sad lately"
You can get a common good friend to do that for it is harder for someone to face issues in fron of his family. The plan is to face him and his issues but somewhat indirectly and to show him you are no judging him, you can demonstrate this by talking normally and telling him about when you use drugs.
Well that's my idea.
Best of luck for you and your brother.
With such a good sister/brother as you he will get over this, I'm sure ;)
 
Thank you so much for all the help so far guys. I really appreciate it and am taking it to heart. Obviously I need to get involved somehow. He is my only brother and I care about him from the bottom of my heart :)
 
Charles Ferdinand said:
Try to catch him in the act, pretend you are a bit surprised, then ask him if he has any more painkillers for you (don't consume them), and play along, that way he will not be surprised, he will feel empathy and you can take part of his dose from him.
Then start to talk. Don't tell him right away you are worried as you say he will just shut everyone out. You may start by telling him: "hey do you remember John Whatever? the poor bastard od'ed and just died... Do you know what are you doing?" then something like: "Ohh, and how do you feel when not high?" "Oh then you've been feeling a little sad lately"
You can get a common good friend to do that for it is harder for someone to face issues in fron of his family. The plan is to face him and his issues but somewhat indirectly and to show him you are no judging him, you can demonstrate this by talking normally and telling him about when you use drugs.
Well that's my idea.
Best of luck for you and your brother.
With such a good sister/brother as you he will get over this, I'm sure ;)
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That is just terrible advice.

You are his older brother and if the only things you do regularly are weed and booze, that is pretty normal. You should definitely be telling him to knock this shit off and if you catch him doing it again there will be big consequences. And I mean get in his fucking face and make it a big deal and let your concerns be known
 
Roger32 said:
That is just terrible advice.

You are his older brother and if the only things you do regularly are weed and booze, that is pretty normal. You should definitely be telling him to knock this shit off and if you catch him doing it again there will be big consequences. And I mean get in his fucking face and make it a big deal and let your concerns be known
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The problem is that I live in Austin and he lives back in South Louisiana, so it is hard to look over him. I am going down there to visit before I start my new job and I have got to bring this up. I am not gonna be a dick about it, I will let him know I am concerned. That is all

I have had way too many family and friends fucked up with drug and alcohol problems, it sucks ass. I just wish people could enjoy a good time like me and not get addicted to shit :(
 
Theres nothing wrong with IV'ing unless you have an addictive personality which if thats the case then get him away from pins asap.

But for me I have personal experience with IV use and I have never become hooked on doing so and it has always been a once in a blue moon thing but I guess other people arent so fortunate to have such good self control.

But seriously my older brother went mad at me when he found I was IVing a couple years ago, now I havent touched a pin in a couple months and never once got a habit on it and I had some good times just my view from a different perspective.
 
bighooter said:
Theres nothing wrong with IV'ing unless you have an addictive personality which if thats the case then get him away from pins asap.

But for me I have personal experience with IV use and I have never become hooked on doing so and it has always been a once in a blue moon thing but I guess other people arent so fortunate to have such good self control.

But seriously my older brother went mad at me when he found I was IVing a couple years ago, now I havent touched a pin in a couple months and never once got a habit on it and I had some good times just my view from a different perspective.
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lol, talk to him asap fuck your cousin. The sooner you get to him the less of him that will be gone.
 
Charles Ferdinand said:
Try to catch him in the act, pretend you are a bit surprised, then ask him if he has any more painkillers for you (don't consume them), and play along, that way he will not be surprised, he will feel empathy and you can take part of his dose from him.
Then start to talk. Don't tell him right away you are worried as you say he will just shut everyone out. You may start by telling him: "hey do you remember John Whatever? the poor bastard od'ed and just died... Do you know what are you doing?" then something like: "Ohh, and how do you feel when not high?" "Oh then you've been feeling a little sad lately"
You can get a common good friend to do that for it is harder for someone to face issues in fron of his family. The plan is to face him and his issues but somewhat indirectly and to show him you are no judging him, you can demonstrate this by talking normally and telling him about when you use drugs.
Well that's my idea.
Best of luck for you and your brother.
With such a good sister/brother as you he will get over this, I'm sure ;)
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The problem with this is he's probably not gonna listen to anything you say after you just asked him for some of the drugs that your telling him not to do. Youll end up looking like a hypocrite and he probably won't take you seriously
 
It doesn't matter what you promised your cousin, and it definitely won't if/when your brother ODs and dies. You need to talk to him right away. Knowing that somebody cares about what he is doing will be a big motivator to stop. I have gotten friends to stop shooting heroin just by talking with them. You can do it.
 
Hey man if he won't listen to you just start kicking his ass I hate to say this but it might have to be done I know if I had a.lil bro and I found that out I would def do something about it. Hes so young and you obviously love him. Possibly some form of intimidation. I would not hesitate to kick my brothers ass if it had to be done as a last option. I know this may go against the rules of hr but just giving my opinion. Man its going on 4:30 in the morning and typing this on my phone while laying down in my delated select comfort bed with one eye open was sure a challenge lol when I'm nodding I can't read with both eyes open. Well good luck bro with your lil bro bro. Much love
 
Just remember that in the end..you can only do so much. Its ultimately his own life. It sucks to see someone you love do stuff that worries you, but not everyone who starts IVing shit goes down a bad road. It can turn out fine, you never know
 
tough love man... it sucks, but tell him that you don't want any part of him until he changes. it's what my parents did to me, and it hurt like a mother fucker, but now i'm in recovery and they talk to me more now then ever.

maybe your brother has problems going on in his life that he doesn't want to tell anyone. I know in my own experience a massive shit storm was going on when i first shot up. and the needle made the pain go away.

if you don't talk to your brother about the DANGER of the needle then he is going to die. so tell him how it's effecting your life, and if he doesn't stop.. he's going to lose you <--tough love.
 
I got my first car when I was 18 years old. If he's in his 20's and doesn't have a car and is spending his money on opiates, well, he isn't going to have a car for a while.

Let your brother get to a point where he's ready to quit for himself, then be supporting and caring. In the mean while, you can try to locate some Suboxone doctors so when he is ready for help, you know how to get it lined up for him, so you aren't scrambling to get it together at the last moment.
 
Worse comes to worse and he doesn't want anything to do with help, you can contribute by just assuring he's not going to do things to kill himself or w.e. Don't have it get to the point where it can consume your life, but make it known that your always there for support no matter what, but that you still don't agree with what hes doing
 
Like I always say and what is the only thing you can do in these particular situations -
and that is to have a open communication. Talk! Not scream or yell - just talk like brother to brother.

Its this thing that a lot of parents (i know just an exampel) do totally wrong, they scream at their kids and put them in some sort of rehab for a couple of weeks. No, no that is not going to help anybody.

Have a open communication where he has room to get his points across and you too so you can tell him how it feels for you as his best friend and blood brother.

I hope the best for you and your bro!
 
Roger32 said:
That is just terrible advice.

You are his older brother and if the only things you do regularly are weed and booze, that is pretty normal. You should definitely be telling him to knock this shit off and if you catch him doing it again there will be big consequences. And I mean get in his fucking face and make it a big deal and let your concerns be known
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Yeah you could do that too, my objective was harm reduction, not to get him to quit at once.
If you threat him or yell he will just fight you, because he doesn't listen and is high.
 
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