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Impossible to find friends..

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I feel like it is so freakin' hard to find friends.. I have moved to a new town, pretty small.. and feel completely isolated. My drug use has become just me getting high alone all the time and it gets old, quick. I need a change, any advice?
 
Not sure how to get you started but keep in mind when you do start meeting people keep yourself protected its hard to meet trustworthy people in the drug world
 
Just go out. Isolating yourself is counterproductive when it comes to finding friends.
 
Not sure how to get you started but keep in mind when you do start meeting people keep yourself protected its hard to meet trustworthy people in the drug world

Go out and meet people that aren't into drugs; you won't have to keep such a constant level of vigilance against people you want to surround yourself with all the time!

No drug will be able to give you the emotional satisfaction a relationship will be able to give you.


Except maybe MD.

EVEN THEN THAT IS BETTER WITH PEOPLE!


Have you tried joining a club/hobby meet up place? Jobs?

Just say hi to someone or strike up a conversation with anyone if you can, not all hope it lost, the world is a big place and even online dating sites people go on there strictly for friendship too (inb4 have u been friendZoned on there).
 
Just go out. Isolating yourself is counterproductive when it comes to finding friends.


this! my brazillian friend met our group in a bar in my home town and she became one of us pretty quick . get out have few beers and maybe you'll meet someone. also join classes

it takes years in a place to build up a friendship base. its not easy. sitting at home doing drugs is the worst idea
 
Although meeting people in a small town is more difficult than meeting people in a city, there are still ways that you can do it!

First, get out! Go out and do things. Work, volunteer, join clubs/activities. Go to events in the town, even small events. Library? Park?

Also keep in mind that drug use gets out FAST in small towns so be careful about trusting people. I remember, where I grew up (back when I was anti-drug), there was this group of people who smoked weed and EVERYONE knew. It was a huge deal, really weird how small towns are.
 
Yeah, what llama said! Friends are not going to come to you. Get out, even by yourself and make yourself approachable. Join a group...that is what I did over a year ago and now I have more great friends than I ever expected. Make the choice to get out there, and then do it!
 
The drug use clearly isn't helping.. so you may want to consider dealing with that first.

But, as far as meeting people.. you just have to get out there. Go to bars, bookstores, coffee shops, etc. and just start talking to people.
 
with that attitude it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. of course its so much easier said than done but you have to get out of your comfort zone and have a positive mindset. and nobody wants to be around a sad druggie loser
 
I have the same problem. Even if you get out alone, you should make a point to get out. My town isn't huge, so I struggle with finding friends, too, but look online for meetup groups or people with similar interests. You have internet, put it to good use! I got involved with a group of people that share my faith and I never even thought they existed in my town, it seemed like everyone here were Christians of some sort (which is fine with me, but they aren't as understanding toward my faith, usually).

Do you like to exercise or do physical activity? Check out Craigslist or somewhere similar for a workout buddy. Online personal ads usually have a "platonic" section for people just looking for friends. Those can be places to look for people in the same situation. There's plenty of people you can talk to online first before meeting if you have some kind of anxiety problem keeping you from getting out more. Introducing yourself to the neighbors is also a good step, but I noticed living up in Northern USA people don't do that much, so maybe that's just the Southerner in me speaking. :) I'm not sure of your location.

As for using, I second what others said, that you should keep your drug use to yourself until you are good friends with a person and either know for a FACT that they are 100% okay with it or that they also use. Small towns are the worst, that was one reason I left the town I ended up coming back to. Make a couple of innocent mistakes and everyone will know. Just be careful about who you trust, but do give yourself the chance to find to some new people to interact with. Sitting alone at home just leads to being depressed and using more because you're sad and lonely all the time and want something to fill that hole. Something I'm very familiar with. I had to almost force myself to meet new people, but it led to much better things for me and I feel much better for doing so.
 
you gotta get out htere and do things to make friends. put yourself out there and make an effort to engage people
 
I have the same problem. I thought it got better after high school, but im even more alone now than ever. Almost suicidal at this point. If I was a couple years older id hit a bar and try talking to women but come on, a book store? Itd feel weird walking up to a chick and saying "hey id enjoy social interaction with you"


A meaningless life is the same as already being dead.
 
I have the same problem. I thought it got better after high school, but im even more alone now than ever. Almost suicidal at this point. If I was a couple years older id hit a bar and try talking to women but come on, a book store? Itd feel weird walking up to a chick and saying "hey id enjoy social interaction with you"


A meaningless life is the same as already being dead.

You wouldnt say that though you'd just say something natural as you walk by her or while you are looking at books near her or something
 
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