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Dumbo46_

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So over time I have found myself daydreaming about other men. Not a real life one just the one in my head. I have some one in my life but the imagination fulfills everything he does not. At first it was every once in a while but they become more and more as me and the real life fall apart. I have told him about the wedge he has put in between us and how I am loosing interest in him but nothing has changed.
Is this normal?
Do I have potential to cheat or easily leave him?
 
Is having fantasies about either other people or imaginary characters normal? Yes absolutely.


Are you likely to cheat or leave him? I don't know are you?
 
Fantasies are normal and I believe that they're healthy, but if you're constantly fantasizing to try to gain something that your relationship is lacking, I think it might be a sign that something's wrong. Either you're unhappy/dissatisfied, or your partner is refusing to pay attention to your needs. You should try to talk to your partner if that's the case, and communicate to him what you want/need.

As far as cheating goes, these feelings probably do cause a lot of people to cheat, but whether or not you do it is your decision.
 
It's okay to fantasize about others.

Do you love the guy you're with? If so, you probably won't cheat on him. YOU are the person that makes the decisions, if you're going to cheat or not.
 
I would not cheat. if I ever completely lost interest and felt it was really worth leaving and giving I up I would. I do love him nothing tells me I do not. but I just feel bad I mean i feel like these fantasies are equivalent to me wanting some one else. I want to be with him but what if he never fulfills those things I would be partially unhappy and I feel like it would be a slap in the face like hey I am fantasizing. I mean how do I tell him that without it coming off as him being insignificant or subpar and him not thinking that the second i meet someone that does what he does not I wont leave. I don't want him to end up feeling insecure or doubtful. But I also feel like it is a slap not telling him though I have to him my dissatisfactions
 
It's not like you have to tell your boyfriend EVERYTHING. Unless you want to.
 
Everybody fantasies about other people, variety is the spice of life.

Every relationship I have had I have fantasized about other people and other styles of sex whilst mastubating. It's normal, I wouldn't worry about it.

My ex partner was very submissive and I did enjoy being dominant, but I also had the fantasy of being dominated myself but he could not endure this roll unfortunately even after I asked him to. Perhaps he would like to try and please you but he could be feeling a little pressured maybe? Ease him into it, if he loves you enough he will try. It might just take a little time :)
 
ilovecrystal said:
I also had the fantasy of being dominated myself but he could not endure this roll unfortunately even after I asked him to.
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That's quite unusual.

I tend to prefer being dominant most of the time, but I do also like to switch and be pushed down (I pretend that I'm not strong enough to push them off) and be teased by the girl until I'm begging her to sit on my cock.
 
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