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Imaginary Arguments With People

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There have been times in my life where I've met someone, or worked with someone, or had a class-mate that has made me so angry to the point that I will envisage an argument taking place between myself and that person in my head. I normally think about and designate words and rehearse whilst running through in my head what is likely to happen [With me being the eventual 'winner'].
Funnily enough, I have never had the great pleasure of experiencing the argument [as far as I planned in my head] - normally I end up becoming friends with the person or getting along at least.

The latest incident at University backfired and though I almost made the argument happen, it died in the ass - [And now we're friends], and I guess what I'm trying to ask is: Has anyone actually had an argument that has gone to plan relative to how it was imagined in their heads?
(I realise it can't go completely as planned - But enough so that everything you wanted to say - Was Said).

I know some of you know what I'm on about and I hope that I explained it well, please share your feelings.
 
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nah, nuffin like that....

but what i find strange is when i have an argument with someone in a dream, then next time i see the person, i am angry with them, but can't work out why....
 
^ hehe

And yes yes yes. I often imagine arguing with someone because it helps me plan what I'm going to say. I generally try to imagine what their comebacks will be and then think of counter-arguments etc. That being said it never works because when I argue I just get emotional and my reasoned, rational argument flies out the window. I normally end the argument with something cutting and original like 'WANKERS!' a la the guy who gets kicked out of the gambling ring on Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels.

It's not just arguments though... I often try to play out how any situation is going to go.
 
I do the same thing. Normally in a situation where I feel that I will need to confront the person at some stage and become ready for what I want to say. Strangely enough it never comes out as I had imagined. I also dream often of having arguments with people. I think the thinking side of things, the imaginary side is normally.

shals :D
 
i do this all the time. it's probably more because i'm just horribly argumentative and always try to pick fights with people (especially if they strike me as either 1- particularly opinionated, 2- bigoted or something similar, or 3- a combination of the two), but it's fun to go through the argument in my head, particularly if i never get the chance to do it properly.

sometimes they go to plan: if someone's really easy to read then it can be a pretty good way to pre-empt them. if you can figure out what they're going to say in a particular argument it's always nice to have a well-thought out response to them. i just like to argue :)
 
Oh and I forgot to mention I enact arguments in my head with people who I know I will never confront... just for the hell of it. It actually often works in getting rid of any anger I have towards them. I plan all these witty one liners and awesome slap downs and imagine their face crumpling in defeat. heh. I need to find more important things to think about.
 
Haha. Unfortunately, you are only having an argument with yourself, and this will do little to prepare you for an argument against someone else who may think completely differently than you do. Spend your mental energy wisely - and you should never have to argue with people in the first place.

On a positive note, those with overactive imaginations often create these imaginary situations because their mind is seeking more stimulation, which means these people are intelligent and have a lot of potential if they learn to control this thinking to their benefit.
 
Hehehe... I do this too.

Not so much arguments with people, but diatribes. In my imagination, the subject of my heated monologue simply sits and listens... I don't attribute any comebacks to them. Which, in reality, obviously wouldn't happen ;)

Isn't it amazing how eloquent and calm you are in these imaginary arguments? It's like I've swallowed a dictionary, the words and phrases that flow =D . I agree with up all night, it does help you process the situation. I actually go so far as writing an actual letter sometimes, then delete it.
 
yup i also have these arguments in my head, like up all night said, helps in letting go of any anger or frustration you have anyway.
 
lost_boi said:
yup i also have these arguments in my head, like up all night said, helps in letting go of any anger or frustration you have anyway.
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:) so happy 2 noe dat im not the only one experiencing arguments wif myself.. biggest difference, i dont juz hav it in my head, i actually verbally voice dem out.. dis sounds weird, but i dono how to explain it... :\
 
I think I'm the only person here who doesn't do this...I'm way too spontaneous, I usually don't know I'm gonna have an argument with someone till it actually happens, and then it's only later that I sit there being all "damn I shoulda said that!"
 
Not just arguments, but I have plenty of imaginary conversations in my head. I think it stems from the years of swimming training. There's not much to do when you're swimming laps other than making up little scenarios about all the people you know.

I avoid conflict like the plague. Hence imaginary arguments are very necessary for me. I'm always thinking about what I could've said hehe.

The problem with planning arguments is that you rarely get to say what you plan, cos the person never responds with what they said when you were going thru it in your head ;)
 
Originally posted by katmeow
The problem with planning arguments is that you rarely get to say what you plan, cos the person never responds with what they said when you were going thru it in your head ;)
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Very true.
I don't think that if I ever have such an imaginary argument - that it will turn out this way for this very reason. Even if you think you know the person well enough, you don't think about a 'plan B' to counteract what they say - sometimes perhaps you're too confident about expecting people to say something. It certainly does help you 'process the situation'. I find that doing this can sometimes make you aware of the fact that the argument is actually over something insignificant - you review or assess it a little more and make a decision.
 
Originally posted by onetwothreefour
...i just like to argue :)


^Hehe, I can vouch for this. ;)
What was that mammoth argument spawned over? Radiohead?
How on Earth did it end up touching on War and Philosophy? =D
 
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