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I'm thinking of getting a toupe!

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Need4speed

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I'm mid 30 and been bald since 21 my entire dating life.... I want a change and hats are starting to get annoying


Baldness isn't pretty so please don't sugar coat me

A life as a bald man is very difficult and takes alot of work if i want to be social or date

Anyone here gone the toupe route?


There's some undetectable systems i've been reading up on


I need a breath of fresh air in this life
 
Don't do it. Seriously, why would you even consider this?

I have no experience in such a thing, but I'd imagine women find it much sexier if a man is comfortable with who he truly is as oppose to someone who wears something that looks like roadkill on their head.

Seriously, has anyone ever seen someone with a toupe and not laughed? I sure haven't .
 
my father wore one for most of his life. he just recently, in the past two or three years, got rid of it, and he's 68 now, or so.

we- my family have been trying for years to get him to come into himself.. poking at him about it.

but honestly, i feel bad telling you not to. other than the fact that they're "out of style"... styles come and go, and "normal" is always different... i guess. and you might be someone who can pull it off with no problem. it's all you.
 
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In my eyes, wearing a toupe is a sign of being insecure about yourself. That, to many people, is viewed as a weakness.
 
Don't do it... They just don't look right. Look at Donald Trump I'm not sure if that's a toupe or not but it reminds me of one...that looks bad. I mean do it if it makes you feel better but I think you should feel confident bald or not. I'm just worried that you will get negative feedback rather than the positive ones you're looking for. In the end its your choice! Try it out if you want but don't go cheap cause have you seen a chick with a cheap wig :\ that's just horrible. So a guy with a cheap toupe wouldn't be any better |:
 
I think maybe you are blowing this out of proportion in your mind, I haven't lived your life (obviously :P) but most people I have met would never really notice if someone was bald/balding especially in their thirties. There are even quite a lot of women out there who think it is sexy.

Sorry to say but I don't think this is a very good idea and an 'undetectable' toupee sounds a bit like the emperor's new clothes.
 
Need4speed said:
I'm mid 30 and been bald since 21 my entire dating life.... I want a change and hats are starting to get annoying


Baldness isn't pretty so please don't sugar coat me

A life as a bald man is very difficult and takes alot of work if i want to be social or date

Anyone here gone the toupe route?


There's some undetectable systems i've been reading up on


I need a breath of fresh air in this life
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thinking about this for myself, i would have to end with the conclusion that it will have to come off eventually.
 
from my (29-year old female) perspective, i'd like to encourage you to embrace your baldness; i think toupees are sort of silly and a show of a lack of confidence and honestly, i think most women, including myself, would agree they'd prefer a bald man with confidence than an insecure man with (fake) hair.

also, it's not like suddenly having hair tomorrow is going to make your peers believe your hair loss shampoo is working and as PiP noted, it will eventually have to come off. i would compare a toupee-wearing man to a woman that stuffs her bra. perhaps, her other attributes were so charming you'd have liked her just the same if you'd expected a pair of Bs, but you're expecting a set of DDs - imagine the disappointment, awkwardness, shock and feeling of being duped when her cutlets come tumbling out. it's not that her cup size mattered but what it says of her character that she felt she needed to fool you because she wasn't able to A) accept her self-perceived shortcomings and B) see that she had other, more lasting qualities that more than made up for her chest, or lack thereof.

it seems to me that you were able to manage okay for 9 years - 9 young, critical years. yes, perhaps it was a bit difficult, but as you've reached your thirties, men with full, thick hair are becoming fewer and farther between. i suggest keeping your head shaved, because that whole convertible look so that it appears you have a full head of hair when you have a hat on is only slightly less silly than a toupee, and focus on having a healthier view of yourself. if you don’t now, i'd recommend working out and eating well - change the things you can control without trying to con anyone into believing you’re someone you’re not.
 
I don't see how a toupe is going to help. I've never seen one that looked real and people usually point stare and laugh. If you feel badly about your appearance now wait until you go through the emmotional pain of being laughed at. You say that bald isn't pretty but my sister and some other women I know find bald to be sexy.
 
there are lots of smoking hot women who think a man with either thinning hair, or a totally bald head is sexy. Have you considered just trimming all the hair on your head down to about an 1/8th of an inch?
 
I think the real problem here (as some have pointed out already), is the lack of confidence and not the lack of hair. I think getting a toupe is mostly admitting that you lack confidence, which can never be a good thing.

You might try working out if you think you lack in physical appearance (or do anything else that would boost your self-image).
 
If it makes you feel any better Julius Caesar was bald (or at least balding) and he fucked Cleopatra who was supposedly smoking hot. Just saying embrace your baldness. Hell you don't want to be with a chick who would dump you just because of your physical appearance anyway.
 
freddy47 said:
If it makes you feel any better Julius Caesar was bald (or at least balding) and he fucked Cleopatra who was supposedly smoking hot. Just saying embrace your baldness. Hell you don't want to be with a chick who would dump you just because of your physical appearance anyway.
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I'd imagine he got to fuck Cleopatra because he was, well, Julius Caesar? A man of great power, indeed.
 
^True but I'd like to think there was at least some attempt at wooing by Julius Caesar. ;)
 
Pander Bear said:
Have you considered just trimming all the hair on your head down to about an 1/8th of an inch?
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what he said.

i've been going bald since my late teens. it took me a long time to stop fighting it, and the first time i got a number 1 all over, it was like a huge weight off my shoulders. zero maintenance hair, for ever!

hair is overrated. however, people will never get tired of speculating about your toupe and how ridiculous it looks. don't do it man.
 
I agree with the no-hair train of thought. I have always loved a shaved head on a guy, whether it's to decrease the obviousness of balding, or as a general hair style. :)
 
I was 26 when I finally gave in and shaved it all.

I have been told it suits me, so I don't mind. I do envy a nice head of hair though, especially when a guy takes care of it.
 
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