KlatuBarataNecktie
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Haha when I was 17 I was more focused on getting some as opposed to falling in love. Falling in love this early would be a mistake anyway.
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I'm scared that I will never find someone
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llama112
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Agreed... most people change a ton from age 17 onwards, I mean it's more about learning about yourself instead of trying to find the person you're going to be with forever.
endlessnameless
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Definitely have to agree with the last two posts.
WithMyLife
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i appreciate what you say the main reason i made the post was because i dont really want to talk about this stuff to my friends because i was scared of getting similar replies to what got here aha
Hah! 17 isn't very long to have been interested in such things. It's not like you can say "I haven't had a date in 10 years" because most likely you weren't interested in dates as little as 5 years ago. Too short a time to worry about "never".
dman1995 said:
You find each other
IMO the healthiest way is to keep or manufacture a reasonably active social life so you have the opportunity to meet people, but don't go searching for the perfect girl. If you do meet someone you "click" with or are interested in, great. But there'll be loads of people that you don't, which is normal. Knockbacks are normal. Having it all go well, then realising that it's not "true love" or just isn't going to work out is normal. I don't think it's something you "should" or "shouldn't" worry about -- it's fine to be single and happy, but it's understandable if you're single and don't want to be.
I'm 28, been single for 2 years. Have had some dates and casual stuff during that time, but nothing I felt had potential. I'm happy being single to the point where I'm really quite indifferent towards men -- I could meet an attractive man and show no interest because it just hasn't crossed my mind. So I only get chatted up by guys who don't care that I'm really not interested.... which usually isn't a good sign (either they've misread the situation or they'll try anything). In that way I think I do need to "go looking" more -- as in get back into gauging men as potential mates, and show an interest in the ones that interest me.
It's difficult for me, as nearly all my previous relationships have started with us both drunk or on drugs. Drunk, everyone is a potential mate to me so I got a broad choice. Drugs... just made it easier to spot a potential connection and obviously easier to act on it. It's that initial bit that I find really difficult sober.
I'm 26 still single, educated, attractive, not just saying that to toot my own horn 8) but my guy friends always end up wanting to ... whether we've been friends for 10 years or 1 year. and over the years I've learned the phrase " p*ssy on a pedestal" (from my friends) fits pretty well here. (super sarcastic smile):D I just want an educated guy to reach my pedestal and all would be good here! jk as for 17 and wanting a relationship....your going to mature so much more and look back at the people you dated and believe me, you will 99% not have the feelings of regret or sadness
endlessnameless
Bluelighter
I find myself in the exact same situation except I'm male. Just about every female I've tried to become friends with and/or ultimately became friends with has at one point or another wanted to have sex. I wouldnt mind so much now, but at the time this was occuring I was looking for platonic relationships with females as I just found them better/easier to get along with than males. Theres too much rivalry with males and besides, I have enough male friends as it is and definitely dont want any more.
Pardon me if it seemed like I was hijacking your thread, just noticed the striking similarities to the above post and my own current situation.