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I'm having trouble reaching orgasm..

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Sarahw2015

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I'm having trouble reaching an orgasm. I'm a 16 year old female and it seems whenever I masturbate right before I reach one I stop.. please help.
 
Kaywholed's got sound advice.
For some girls it becomes too much, right? Overwhelming-like? Make sure no one in the house can hear you. Then go for it.

This is a males advice, so.... Grain of salt and such.
 
How about grabbing a partner and instructing them not to hold off on the thrusts/fingers/dildo/whatever when the time comes?

You're gonna give yourself a complex where you tell yourself it's not gonna happen so it won't happen. Don't think so much about it. Just do.
 
I had a recent hookup and the guy couldn't make me orgasm. I've never had one and I feel like I never will
 
Sarahw2015 said:
I've never had one and I feel like I never will
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I think that's what we're both trying to get at you about. For males there's self fulfilling stressing like that..... "Ah, I'm gonna cum too quick!" Or "I jerked off today and now I'm never gonna be able to cum." It can happen once or a few times and then it gets in your head and you believe it is, or isn't gonna happen so it does/doesn't happen.

This is kinda a female version of that. Right? IOW's, you're psyching yourself out.
 
^How about this one, John from India.... What about if your marriage partner masturbates you? Hmmm? What happens then? Tension? Stress? Loss of an eye?
It's a quandary, IMO. And something to ponder on.
 
I agree with Kayholed, don't think about it... Just go with the flow. The more you think about it the less chance you will orgasim.
I'm male and when me and the missus go for it if I concentrate on cumming I can guarantee I will not and keep going till she's dry/red raw, no one enjoys it. If I just go with the flow we both end up cumming and it's a good night had by all.
 
I aslo wanted to point out that you're 16 and often it's quite normal for younger girls to not expereince full orgasm until a bit later in life. Why do you stop?
 
you're young and you haven't yet figured out how your body works in its entirety

with time and experience it will come. do it yourself first. if you stop then obviously its not going to work so wait till everyone is out of the house and you can relax as being relaxed is crucial
 
go to amazon and buy a jackrabbit. Have someone just hold that shit in there and when you are about to cum, just burst. I guarantee if it's that intense you are probably a squirter lol. If you never allow yourself to, you definitely are going to psych yourself out and this will be a problem later on. Get to know yourself, that way when you get a boyfriend you can instruct him on what you want :)
 
Try getting real comfortable first.
You might find that vocalizing a little also helps.
Keep practicing one day you'll find yourself slipping over the edge.
There's no rush.
Some people find that a drink helps let go. Others prefer maryjane
My partner has very intense orgasms if she inhales poppers when she's on the edge.
 
Anything that vibrates works every time...like a charm...speaking from personal experience on this one. Find a massager of some sort...and enjoy :)
 
i used to sleep with a girl like this in college. she refused to let me make her cum, would build up very close and then strongly express all things cease the moment before she orgasms. she was afriad to accept it and feel it. for a long time she even always rejected receiving any oral at all, because it brought her too close to orgasm too easily. she loved giving oral because she diddnt have to worry about that level of intensity happening inside her body, adn felt more in control. she went through all her life having a healthy amount of sex but never experiencing orgasm. i open my mind to the situation and we tried to help her through it for a long time. even when in high spirits, drunk, and perfectly relaxed, she still would instinctively deny herself an orgasm. we were like super close best friends that had sex with each other a lot, never really had any formal relationship structure, but we slept with each over for close to a year. it was at least the tail end of that year before she finally was able to let herself experience that, and she has really learned to embrace her sexuality as a result.

its not difficult to imagine the effects of modern socialization on any person's sex drive, and some people developing a fear of reaching full orgasm, or a fear of completely letting go during sex period.
 
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