I'm crushed!

[MiraLuv]

I'm sorry this might be long! I have been on and off with my sons father for 3.5 years he also has a 4 year old daughter we are both recovering addicts. About 3 weeks ago he stopped texting and calling me. So I got the feeling he met someone. Well I found out on Facebook he got into a relationship on dec 16 on Christmas Eve. Then he told me they moved in and signed a year least together this past weekend after 2 weeks! I'm so shocked and hurt. I don't know her. He knew from na meetings and was crying.telling me he loves me but needed his own place and I wouldn't let him move in with me. Well we fought a lot because after a few months of dating he got mean and controlling and jealous and abusive. He said he changed and his new relationship won't be like that cuz they have good communication and she appreatriates him but we were like that at first and a month or two ago he was still screaming at me and treating bad. I know I'm being dumb but I am hurting and I still love him. Does this sound like its going to last with them? I'm in need of some help

 

[Black Rabbit of Inle]

You shouldn't be worrying about their relationship, it's only going to make things harder for you. I know it's hard when someone you still have strong feelings for move on to another relationship, but from the sounds of it, your relationship with him wasn't a very good situation.

Getting out of a controlling and abusive relationship leaves you with a kind of Stockholm Syndrome, where you simply cannot imagine life without that person. But maybe it's time for you to start anew and move on, finding your own path without him. Meet some new friends and maybe even another partner.