I'm a man, but I might think I'm a lady

[paranoid android]

So? I often think of myself as a girl too... I think of myself as all sorts of things. Self images change like that. Enjoy it.

I use my girl side for a lot of relationship stuff and project that self image when I am doing it, and I also use my male side too.

What he is experiencing sounds alot different from what youve described. What you described pretty much everyone gets most just don't admit it. I mean ive always gotten along better with women then with guys as a rule and years ago this would be considered being abit on the gay side 8) . Yeah despite the fact that im straight and am quite comfortable in my hetrosexuality . With him it sounds alot deeper then that.

But since i have no clue really about gender issues besides knowing the occasional person who is a t-girl or whatever i can't really give any advice.

Become gay.

Or get a sex change.

This isn't really all that unusual.

Your going to have to be honest with yourself because heterosexual relationships aren't going to work if you openly admit to being feminine right down to the core.

Did you read his post? He didnt say he was gay or wanted a sex change in fact he didnt mention being attracted towards the same sex at all. And you can't just become gay in case you don't fucking know you either born gay, straight or bi. You can't just turn around one day and be like im going to be gay yay! Or better yet im going to be bi so i can have twice the fun . It just does not work like that at all.

I don't think your post is serious to begin with but i just had to point that out. If for no other reason then to stop such ignorant comments from filtering out unchallanged.

 

[Bojangles69]

During this trip, the crazy girlfriend made me very aware of my sexuality. I'm young and in pretty good shape. I somehow came out of the trip thinking I was becoming androgynous. I've identified that as a lack of sex drive and feeling jaded when it comes to relationships.

CURRENTLY:
Anytime I think of myself in any kind of social aspect, I see myself trying to be kind, caring, sensitive, gentle, honest, and...what the hell...I'm a woman. Not just having the characteristics I identify as female, but I am a girl in my mind's eye. I mean, I'm a pretty girl, but still...I'm a girl lol.

I don't understand how she made you aware of your sexuality. Its impossible to address this with any degree of help because you just jumped from your meeting her to you thinking you're a girl.

Also, about the characteristics you wrote, those are merely the ones you choose to acknowledge in yourself. I can pick almost anyone man or woman who shares those characteristics. I myself am caring, sensitive, gentle, honest, passive, etc.

But I can also be aggressive, stubborn, cold and insensitive. If I were to identify my sexuality by my dominant features however, I'd likely be closer to a female than anything. Yet the fact exists that when I look down, I see a penis, thus I'm not a female. I also don't put makeup on, or enjoy shopping, nor do I have any temptation to do so.
If you identify yourself as a female, then do you do girly things? Get your hair done? Pluck your brows? Shave your legs? Even a tranny who identifies themself as female tends to share or engage in many female behavoirs.

What I don't get is how you look in the mirror and see a female. That is fundamentally and biologically incorrect. I just need to hear more compelling evidence as to why you see a female. Especially when you're looking in a mirror and have no breasts, no hip to waist ratio like a female, no vagina, and no urge to be with men.
There seems to be a massive piece of this puzzle that is missing. Did you feel uncomfortable in your years of percieving yourself as a man? Were you molested at a younger age?
I literally do not understand WHY you made that transition. Because your caring and honest? No, theres something much more fundamental that should exist that is anchored to that identity. Do you not get along with men? Were you made fun of by men in your childhood for acting like a girl?
I'm not dismissing the drugs as the cause because I find it odd how many transvestites share drug use as a common pasttime. We have no real clue what drugs do to the brain regardless of what we think we know. For w/e reason in the world, I'm going with the opposite explanation of Ocean.
I don't think drugs removed the psychological apprehension to view yourself as a female. I think drugs opened your mind to the point where you have no fundamental identity anymore. And why would you need LSD to take away those inhibitions? Why not the first time you got drunk?

Something just doesn't add up here. There is something more fundamental anchoring female to your identity. Even most transexuals will say they never made a good man or woman when they were young or what have you. I honestly think you are just confused, and should stay away from all psychelics for 6 months. Maybe its too late, but if you plan on persuing being female as a lifestyle, at some point you will most def wanna stop the drugs.

 

[greenberryhaze]

I have since talked that over with my sister, my mom, my aunt, my brother, and a lot of friends.

So, you seem to have no problems forming healthy relationships with friends and family, you are attracted to women and have no desire to have sex with men. On the kinsey scale you are probably a 0 maybe a 1.

The ability to imagine oneself as a woman is most likely an evolutionary adaptation, part of our capacity for empathy. This ability is probably the most important trait that separates us from other animals. It gives you a reproductive advantage. If you have a deep understanding of female psychology you will attract mates more efficiently and have better sex. I imagine it is part of any heterosexual's psychology, male or female; It's just that it's usually constrained to the unconscious mind. It's not terribly unusual to have access to cognitive processes that don't come to the surface for the most people, consider it a gift.

In short you shouldn't think of this as a problem, as long as it doesn't negatively affect your relationships with others. Accept it and be free.

Disclaimer: I am pretty fucked up right now, and am in the midst of a total mental breakdown, so the above may be complete garbage and make no sense whatsoever