painenduser
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I was wondering if anyone wanted to talk to me about suicide. Not in the way of OD'ing, or putting a gun to my head or anything, but in a way where I jut let my illness take me away. top getting help, and stop looking to get on a liver transplant lit and just let my illness take me to where ever we go when we die. While I think it would be a painful and horrible way to die, I just can't keep on living where I do now, with the people I do now, the way people treat me now. I have no money to move out and find a new place to live. I have no possessions left except for my home theater system, my computers and my cat Darwin. Right now I feel like he is the only family member who actually cares about me, truly. I just don't know what to do and I think just letting my illness take my life, it surely seems like a better place to go then remain in this life I live now. I really have no life actually. My family most of the time blames me for my alcoholism and allowing it to take my health the way it has, my mother gets mad at me whenever my illness gets the best of me and I am too tired or in to much pain to do somethings around the house, like move some dumb ass furniture because she doesn't like the way the living room (which is currently my bedroom) looks so she wants to move things, which to me really has no priority but to her, since it's her house, she says that she want it done. I can't physically do it, and all she does is yell at me about it. She woke me up twice today because I told her yesterday we would go looking for a new cell phone for her today, but I slept because I was in so much pain. I got out of bed and tried to explain how much pain I was in and since she couldnt yell at me about the cell phone anymore, she rather then asking how I was feeling started at me about oh so now once again your not going to help me move the furniture. Are you fucking serious??? I am bend over in sever pain and all she knows what to do i yell at me. I can't take it anymore. This is how I live EVERY SINGLE DAY!!!!!!!!!!!! I get yelled at for one thing then another, she yells at my step dad for one thing or another and when she is in a bad mood because of an argument between them, then he continues to take it out on me. Noone else in my family wants anything to do with me. My sister wont talk to me, my aunt ripped me a new ass in an email I sent to her to try and make amends with her to see if we could try and work on becoming a family and again and if I pasted her reply in here, I think there isnt one person in here would not say WOW she is such a bitch. My fathers side of the family including my father have all passed away except my Aunt and little cousin from that side of the family and while they are on my side there is little they can do, they dont have the room in there house for me to live and I know they would take me in if I asked but their house is so small, there is just no room for me, plus I have no truck anymore because I am being sued by so many company's because I cant work due to needing a new liver, and there is now a levy on my truck and per the sheriffs office I can not re register the truck until my bankruptcy is done and the levy is lifted so I just canceled the insurance on it.
Point of all this is to just let you know a very small part of how my life is and it sucks. There is so much more to the story I just wouldnt know where to start not to mention the post would take hours to write and you read. At this point in time I just dont want to continue my life anymore. I am miserable, physically, and mentally. I sleep all the time because when I am awake, I live with people yelling at me all the time, and then I am told I am being inconsiderate and should be thankfull that I was allowed to live here with my parents. As my aunt said in her email to me..
First of all, what business is it of hers what happens between me and my parents, second of all, I never drove under the influence. She is refering to an accident I for into and they TRIED to say I was under the influence and I was charged with it because I couldnt pass the road side test because I had a broken toe from the accident of which I have the hospital paper to prove it, and I had my pain medication bottle in my jacket pocket. The courts dropped the charges because there was no evidence to say I was under the influence and I passed the breath test. I have been far from demanding, or ungreatfull, Infact, I am using my welfare benifits to pay for all the groceries that come into this house, my parents no longer pay for any groceries because I decided to pay for them as a way to say thank you to them for allowing me to live here, does that sound like someone who is ungreatful??? I am making selfish decisions? WTF is she talking about! I have nothing to make decisions about other then my health care, which I also pay for with my medicaid and what ever little charity care covers. But this is how others treat me and not just my aunt and it because they are all mad at me for being an addict, I did not ask to be an addict! Its a god damn disease and they are throwing me to the curb, mainly because they say because I am doing nothing to get better because I wont go to AA.... WHO THE FUCK CARES IM NOT GOING TO AA, AA doesn't work for me! I relapsed EVERYTIME I went to AA... I am not over 500 days sober with OUT AA!!!! I think that shows I AM doing something to keep sober and make a difference in my life, but my sobriety apparently means NOTHING to anyone but me apparently!!! It doesnt matter what I do, they dont care, my sister is more concerned about how "it makes her look like trailer trash" having me here in this house because I had to call the cops after my step dad came after me with a bat for no reason (most of you read that story and know that I did nothing to cause it, but since I warned him if he ever came after me again I would call the cops and I did! and my mother did have my back that time, but aside from that she is usually to busy yelling at me.
OK, yes I know that living with an addict is hard on everyone, not just the addict but the family a well, but this is a time where I should be able to come to my family for support and I have NONE! I get blamed for causing such an inconvenience in everyones life. I know i hard on everyone, but come on, the treatment I get around here is ridiculous! Whats funny is when I spent 2 months in the hospital over 2 years ago dying from my alcoholism, EVERYONE in my family was there for me and by my side at the hospital. Now that I am here living with them, its a whole different story, now they dont want anything to do with me, and all they keep telling me is how much of a hindrance and ungreatful I am being. They give me noone to talk to when I need to talk, but they are fine talking amongst each other ABOUT me when they need to talk. Infact, the sad reality is that the only place I get to talk about my feelings and my emotions is here, HERE ON A GAD DAMN FORUMS site! Why? Because noone in my family will allow me to talk to them when I ask to talk!, I asked my Aunt, and well as you saw the quote, that was just part of her response, my sister tells, me she doesnt want to get involved, I have asked her to talk many time, mot of the times he wont even respond to my requests the rest of the times she tells me she wont get involved (I am told it's because its to emotional for her to ee her brother dying from a disease, or rather from letting my self drink myself to death) she doesnt even understand what it is to have to live with this addiction and how I have to fight everyday to remain sober, but none the less she wont talk to me. My mother says she can't talk to me because she has noone to talk to herself (yet she goes and sees a shrink once a month, a luxury I wish I had access too, but with charity care all they let me see if a psychiatrist who doesnt talk to me but just prescribes meds and because I am not labeled an "alcoholic" I am not allowed to be on my pain meds or any sleep meds or anything because she tells me that since I have this label, I am going to get addicted to the other meds a well, regardless of the physical pain I am in she told me if I am not going to listen to her and get off the meds I need just to be able to move with out severe pain then he doesnt want to see me anymore..Great, so no mental help for me, but my mom gets it and she is becoming an alcoholic and even admitted it to me, so I cant talk to her, my step dad is a product of my mother and therefor useles to talk to. So, yeah I have noone to talk to except the forums and THANK GOD for you guys, and my Exwife, she talks to me and she has helped me more then you will ever understand, we may be divorced but she is still my best friend we just arent in love which is why we divorced and it was done very amicably.
All that said and that is still jut a tiny bit of my life, I can't continue to live my life this way, yet I am forces too. This is why I have thought long and hard about suicide, but it would be suicide by ignoring my health, I would not go back to drinking, because I promised myself I would not drink anymore, I am proud of my sobriety and will continue to do so, but I have no want to continue my life like this, and for this reason, I have not made any progress to get on the transplant list. I do not want to go through the surgery to gain more time in life if the rest of my life is going to continue the way it is. I can not continue like this. I am very unhappy, I feel hopeless, I feel VERY VERY alone, I have not been given any reason to make me want to stay alive any longer then I need to. I would not and could not "commit suicide" but just "killing myself" but I have no problem leaving things alone and let myself naturally die. Some will argue whats the difference, in the end your still killing yourself, the difference is, I can not just end it on my own, I havent the balls to do that as I am in some ways afraid to die, and I hope that thing can get better and I will find a reason to want to live longer, but right now I am not finding one.
I just want to hear from people who can relate in someway to my situation if anyone can. I ask that people who respond do not do so by saying Im a jackass or anything. In my opinion, I think I am a wonderful person, and one who deserves to be happy, but thats all fine and good, but if the people who you are closest too or should be closest too just continue to turn their backs and treat me like a leper, then all that wonderfulness, all the good I have to offer is for naught. I would love to find a reason to want to get better, and get on the list and live a wonderful happy life, but as of now, I am finding no reason to do so. I don't see any of this changing anytime soon. I see nothing then misery day after day. I wish I could have my mother read this so she can see exactly how I feel and how she makes me feel, but all that would do would make her mad and give her more reason to not only be mad at me, but then also turn this into a depression on to herself and rather then making her realize that she is making me feel the way she does, she would invert it to how she is an aweful mother, then her drinking will get worse and I dont want to be alive to see that, because then not only would I feel guilty about my choices in life making her become deeper in her depression and alcoholism and I could never live with myself with that.
So, thats all my finger can type right now, I hope that someone out there can understand and maybe give me some advise I can use. I doubt that there is much anyone can say that would make me change my mind and give me some spark to say hey I should get the transplant and try to live a happier life, because sadly there is nothing anything you guys can do that will change the conditions in which I live and that is what needs to change before I can find that peace I need but, I am willing to give it a go and see what yall can offer, or help me with my feelings, but right now, the hopelessness is just running so deep in my veins, and I dont really know where to go from here.
thanks for listening, or reading I should say. I appreciate it in advance for anything you guys can offer. If I don't get back to replying or talking to any of you before the new year then I wish you all a happy new year, and I hope that all your new years resolutions for the new year will come through for you and I hope that 2012, will bring you all much happiness and peace, and I wish you all the very very best.
Your fellow Bluelighter, Thank you.
Pain
Point of all this is to just let you know a very small part of how my life is and it sucks. There is so much more to the story I just wouldnt know where to start not to mention the post would take hours to write and you read. At this point in time I just dont want to continue my life anymore. I am miserable, physically, and mentally. I sleep all the time because when I am awake, I live with people yelling at me all the time, and then I am told I am being inconsiderate and should be thankfull that I was allowed to live here with my parents. As my aunt said in her email to me..
"Since the time that you began living at your mother's house you have been, in my estimation, demanding, appear ungrateful and have continued to make selfish decisions that hurt others, I.e. driving under the influence of pain medication and rear ending another car. You had no regard for the life of the person that you hit or for your mother and Roger, who, I am sure, paid your legal fees."
First of all, what business is it of hers what happens between me and my parents, second of all, I never drove under the influence. She is refering to an accident I for into and they TRIED to say I was under the influence and I was charged with it because I couldnt pass the road side test because I had a broken toe from the accident of which I have the hospital paper to prove it, and I had my pain medication bottle in my jacket pocket. The courts dropped the charges because there was no evidence to say I was under the influence and I passed the breath test. I have been far from demanding, or ungreatfull, Infact, I am using my welfare benifits to pay for all the groceries that come into this house, my parents no longer pay for any groceries because I decided to pay for them as a way to say thank you to them for allowing me to live here, does that sound like someone who is ungreatful??? I am making selfish decisions? WTF is she talking about! I have nothing to make decisions about other then my health care, which I also pay for with my medicaid and what ever little charity care covers. But this is how others treat me and not just my aunt and it because they are all mad at me for being an addict, I did not ask to be an addict! Its a god damn disease and they are throwing me to the curb, mainly because they say because I am doing nothing to get better because I wont go to AA.... WHO THE FUCK CARES IM NOT GOING TO AA, AA doesn't work for me! I relapsed EVERYTIME I went to AA... I am not over 500 days sober with OUT AA!!!! I think that shows I AM doing something to keep sober and make a difference in my life, but my sobriety apparently means NOTHING to anyone but me apparently!!! It doesnt matter what I do, they dont care, my sister is more concerned about how "it makes her look like trailer trash" having me here in this house because I had to call the cops after my step dad came after me with a bat for no reason (most of you read that story and know that I did nothing to cause it, but since I warned him if he ever came after me again I would call the cops and I did! and my mother did have my back that time, but aside from that she is usually to busy yelling at me.
OK, yes I know that living with an addict is hard on everyone, not just the addict but the family a well, but this is a time where I should be able to come to my family for support and I have NONE! I get blamed for causing such an inconvenience in everyones life. I know i hard on everyone, but come on, the treatment I get around here is ridiculous! Whats funny is when I spent 2 months in the hospital over 2 years ago dying from my alcoholism, EVERYONE in my family was there for me and by my side at the hospital. Now that I am here living with them, its a whole different story, now they dont want anything to do with me, and all they keep telling me is how much of a hindrance and ungreatful I am being. They give me noone to talk to when I need to talk, but they are fine talking amongst each other ABOUT me when they need to talk. Infact, the sad reality is that the only place I get to talk about my feelings and my emotions is here, HERE ON A GAD DAMN FORUMS site! Why? Because noone in my family will allow me to talk to them when I ask to talk!, I asked my Aunt, and well as you saw the quote, that was just part of her response, my sister tells, me she doesnt want to get involved, I have asked her to talk many time, mot of the times he wont even respond to my requests the rest of the times she tells me she wont get involved (I am told it's because its to emotional for her to ee her brother dying from a disease, or rather from letting my self drink myself to death) she doesnt even understand what it is to have to live with this addiction and how I have to fight everyday to remain sober, but none the less she wont talk to me. My mother says she can't talk to me because she has noone to talk to herself (yet she goes and sees a shrink once a month, a luxury I wish I had access too, but with charity care all they let me see if a psychiatrist who doesnt talk to me but just prescribes meds and because I am not labeled an "alcoholic" I am not allowed to be on my pain meds or any sleep meds or anything because she tells me that since I have this label, I am going to get addicted to the other meds a well, regardless of the physical pain I am in she told me if I am not going to listen to her and get off the meds I need just to be able to move with out severe pain then he doesnt want to see me anymore..Great, so no mental help for me, but my mom gets it and she is becoming an alcoholic and even admitted it to me, so I cant talk to her, my step dad is a product of my mother and therefor useles to talk to. So, yeah I have noone to talk to except the forums and THANK GOD for you guys, and my Exwife, she talks to me and she has helped me more then you will ever understand, we may be divorced but she is still my best friend we just arent in love which is why we divorced and it was done very amicably.
All that said and that is still jut a tiny bit of my life, I can't continue to live my life this way, yet I am forces too. This is why I have thought long and hard about suicide, but it would be suicide by ignoring my health, I would not go back to drinking, because I promised myself I would not drink anymore, I am proud of my sobriety and will continue to do so, but I have no want to continue my life like this, and for this reason, I have not made any progress to get on the transplant list. I do not want to go through the surgery to gain more time in life if the rest of my life is going to continue the way it is. I can not continue like this. I am very unhappy, I feel hopeless, I feel VERY VERY alone, I have not been given any reason to make me want to stay alive any longer then I need to. I would not and could not "commit suicide" but just "killing myself" but I have no problem leaving things alone and let myself naturally die. Some will argue whats the difference, in the end your still killing yourself, the difference is, I can not just end it on my own, I havent the balls to do that as I am in some ways afraid to die, and I hope that thing can get better and I will find a reason to want to live longer, but right now I am not finding one.
I just want to hear from people who can relate in someway to my situation if anyone can. I ask that people who respond do not do so by saying Im a jackass or anything. In my opinion, I think I am a wonderful person, and one who deserves to be happy, but thats all fine and good, but if the people who you are closest too or should be closest too just continue to turn their backs and treat me like a leper, then all that wonderfulness, all the good I have to offer is for naught. I would love to find a reason to want to get better, and get on the list and live a wonderful happy life, but as of now, I am finding no reason to do so. I don't see any of this changing anytime soon. I see nothing then misery day after day. I wish I could have my mother read this so she can see exactly how I feel and how she makes me feel, but all that would do would make her mad and give her more reason to not only be mad at me, but then also turn this into a depression on to herself and rather then making her realize that she is making me feel the way she does, she would invert it to how she is an aweful mother, then her drinking will get worse and I dont want to be alive to see that, because then not only would I feel guilty about my choices in life making her become deeper in her depression and alcoholism and I could never live with myself with that.
So, thats all my finger can type right now, I hope that someone out there can understand and maybe give me some advise I can use. I doubt that there is much anyone can say that would make me change my mind and give me some spark to say hey I should get the transplant and try to live a happier life, because sadly there is nothing anything you guys can do that will change the conditions in which I live and that is what needs to change before I can find that peace I need but, I am willing to give it a go and see what yall can offer, or help me with my feelings, but right now, the hopelessness is just running so deep in my veins, and I dont really know where to go from here.
thanks for listening, or reading I should say. I appreciate it in advance for anything you guys can offer. If I don't get back to replying or talking to any of you before the new year then I wish you all a happy new year, and I hope that all your new years resolutions for the new year will come through for you and I hope that 2012, will bring you all much happiness and peace, and I wish you all the very very best.
Your fellow Bluelighter, Thank you.
Pain