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If you saw someone with cuts all over?

Josair said:
At the end of the visit he asked me 'what about those scars there?', and my mother promptly replied 'he fell from motorbike while crossing rough terrains and fell on rocks blabla'. He looked at her with pity and said 'those are blade cuts'. Probably one of the most embarassing moments of my life, and something I should have sued the doctor for
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What a fucking cunt that POS doctor.


motiv311 said:
i would be more interested in a person if i noticed anything like that, would want to hear their story
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This. People are too boring nowadays. Fucking clean cut, stay safe, don't do drugs assholes.
 
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If he's a stranger, I would probably flash at it and then look away. If he's a coworker, or if someone besides you drinking at the bar, I would consider asking him how he got it, and if he has a good story for it ( like if it was a war scar ).
 
zombiesarepeaceful said:
I'd just like everyone's personal opinion on this.

So, say you're out in public, and you see someone with (healed, we're not talking fresh open wounds, just old scars) all over their arms. They're obviously old self harm scars. What is your initial reaction? Do you even give it a second thought, or do you just see their arms, shrug, and continue doing what you were doing? Would you avoid that person like the plague or treat them like a normal person?

EDIT: What if they were a coworker? Or a customer you were dealing with at work? Would you still not give it a second thought?
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If I'd see a stranger have those kind of scars, the people close to that person do as well. It's their responsibility in that case. I won't mind a stranger's business.

If it's someone closer to me, I would feel if it is also my responsibility.
I'd wait for a private and quiet moment with the person and talk to him or her.
I've actually experienced it with a girl once, she didn't want to talk about it at first, but we've talked quite a bit later.
I gave her my opinion on handling stuff, even though it could be harsh sometimes and I have seen her get happier by the week.
Sometimes just asking bluntly if she still cut herself, which she didn't find easy to talk about, but when she did talk about it, I could see a weight falling of her shoulders.
In the end, I've dated her for a really short time, but that was a bad idea considering the past, so we split up, still being really close to each other.
Now she has learnt to deal with life on her own, she has another boyfriend and moved abroad :)
 
I usuallt tell people I got in a fight with a lawn mower. My general opinion about cutting is to just not give a fuck. If someone judges me negatively based on past self inflicted wounds then they probably aren't worth knowing.
 
I'd give it a second thought. Depending on what they looked like, it might just be questioning in my head what caused them. If it was obvious, sympathy for whatever caused someone to do that.

If they weren't new, I wouldn't make a big impact on how I treated someone.
 
zombiesarepeaceful said:
I'd just like everyone's personal opinion on this.

So, say you're out in public, and you see someone with (healed, we're not talking fresh open wounds, just old scars) all over their arms. They're obviously old self harm scars. What is your initial reaction? Do you even give it a second thought, or do you just see their arms, shrug, and continue doing what you were doing? Would you avoid that person like the plague or treat them like a normal person?

EDIT: What if they were a coworker? Or a customer you were dealing with at work? Would you still not give it a second thought?
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Met a girl once whose arms were nothing but cuts, it was raw meat butchered up, making them look three times bigger. From wrist to shoulder.

Do it properly, is my opinion.
 
I would never and have never judged anyone based on their appearance. I would just know they cut and it wouldn't go further than that. I don't judge anyone.
 
I wouldn't judge someone for it, although usually when I see people with visible self-harm scars, it triggers me and makes me panic since I've been trying very hard to resist the urge to harm myself. If I see self-harm wounds on someone I know, I do treat them differently if they're new. Though, it's not negative...I'm just extra careful around that person and treat them more kindly, and I also try to hide my own cuts from them.
 
I'd think they were either...

A. A depressed emo teenager.
B. In a black metal band depending on their clothing and if there were any upside down cross scars.
C. Suffering or had suffered mental problems.
D. Were a meth addict who tried to get the spiders out.
 
interesting thread and i am extremely self conscious about my old scars - i cut a bit as a teenager it was dumb and i really regret it..... anyway the scars are not horribly obvious i see them very clearly but i think most other people have to look a bit harder to notice (i hope) anyway i havent had much luck with the creams and oils (they are not doing much for my stretch marks from when i was prego either) - i have thought of looking into laser surgery but not sure the cost - considered tattoos too but they scars are pretty spread out on my arm and i also already have one tattoo i regret and i dont want more lol
 
What would be my reaction? My initial gut reaction would be one of disgust. I have some self harm scars from my teenage years and it's very embarrassing. I have a really thick leather bracelet to cover some of them and am thinking of getting tattoos to cover them because there really aren't that many unlike the many self harmers with a habitual habit of cutting themselves. I honestly find it repulsive and gross aesthetically but on thinking about it more I understand that judging the person really isn't fair because I don't know what they've gone through that makes them do that. I really am in no place to judge in any case but I find it very ugly on myself and when someone is covered in them lets face it, in some sense they've straight out disfigured themself. To me it's on a par with suffering severe burns.

With self harm there's a huge overlap between attention seeking and maladaptive expression of emotional pain so there's difficulty is separating the two, causing people to just think of the self harmer as an attention whore when that's probably true a lot of the time but it's often not the whole story.
 
My 15 year old daughter is a cutter or ex cutter hopefully. She just got out of a residential treatment center. While if I saw someone with cuts that I did not know I probably would not get involved. I would feel empathy for them however.
 
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