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Mental Health if you can't be happy in your life anymore, because the game is over

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I can't deal with the fact that i didnt have normal youth like most of the students. Sex, party, travelling. I alived almost nothing until now. I had 6 one night stands and last month one fuckfriend for a month, but i dont see the point of meeting her anymore, because she will be always over me. I dont see point of dating any other girls (i could), because they will be always over me, because of those normal things they alived in the most importand years of life (16-26). I am now 29 and have alived only so much like an average 17 year old maybe. I can't be in company of young people, because all i think of are those things. How they enjoy their youth and i didnt. And there is nothing i can't do now. All those cute girls on street have regular sex and get orgasms and do basic things we see in porn. How can i be on their level? There is no way out... they enjoyed youth, i didnt...game over :(

I dont have motivation for anything, because of my unequality, which will be there forever.
How can i be equal to a girl that had regular sex since 18 and i had it only maybe 20 times? She will be always over me because of that, because she did it in the prime years of the life. Some have it 5 times a day sometime in their youth.

Sex in the present and future doesnt mean nothing, if others already won the game of life (this means enjoying youth like media tells you).
 
That is just a bull shit media is telling you. There are plenty of people who were (and are) virgins in their late twenties and not because they were ugly or religious. Not everyone have had 100+ partners before turning 30.

Not all things in life is about sex.
 
All cute girls we see on street have regular sex. Especially those who are dressed sexy. You think those girls didnt have sex? Come on...they enjoy life and show they confidence with their little dresses.
Most of cute girls have normal life and can get a guy for sex any day they want.
 
Andreass, this is the third thread you have posted about this same topic over the last year. In each thread people respond by telling you that you are buying into a mind-set that is not healthy for you. You are harboring an obsession about other people's lives based purely on assumption. Instead of obsessing about this comparison you feel compelled to make between yourself and others, why not try to actually connect with people as friends, neighbors, family members or even just acquaintances?

I am trying to understand what are you wanting to get from these threads?
 
You cant connect with people if you are bellow them, this you normal people dont understand. Because having regular sex is totally normal for you. Having the biggest thing in life, as if its nothing special.

There is no point doing things with people if you know that every cute girl on street you see had better life then you. Is at home enjoying sex, having orgasms, having the biggest pleasure of life and you cant compete with her.
 
Stop worrying about the life experience others have, don't fall victim to envy. Just be yourself and be positive and go out and have those experiences. Your mindset is what is keeping you from enjoying life. Don't worry about what you missed out on, don't worry about the past and just be present in the moment. Go out and have some nasty sex and enjoy it. It's never too late to start having a fulfilling sex life, there are people who hav married young, had sex with the same person until their 40's or 50's and started going to swingers clubs an partaking in orgies and achieving sexual fullfillment through those means.

All of our journies are unique and we are all faced with unique challenges. Finding happiness requires identifying the areas in life that you struggle with and overcoming them. Adapting theough diversity. Its usually us as individuals who sabotage our own happiness, you are so concerned about assuming what everyone else has enjoyed or accomplished that you just shut yourself down.

Learn to let go and stop caring.

It's only your perception that you are below them that allows you to be below them.
 
You cant enjoy present if all women had much more from life and they beat you in joy in life. And this is what counts in life at the end of day. What you have experienced in youth when you were at peak with your look. Beautiful fresh skin. It is a success to experience it all at 20 not at 30. If it would be at 30, we would see mostly 30 year women in movies in porn and at parties, not 18.
 
Oh my god. Fuck the media. Fuck societal expectations drilled into our brains by the media. It is as fake as it comes. There are people out there born without any limbs or as dwarfs and they will never have this idealized look of beauty, they go through life with essentially a handicap and they have to learn self acceptance and to make the most of what they have. There are people who have no possibility of living a normal life and they adapt and find happiness, live good lives. I understand maybe having low self esteem and suffering from mental illness, neurotic anxiety and caring too much about what people think, or what people might be thinking but it's all a projection of ones own insecurities and unrealistic expectations. It's toxic as fuck. You need to learn to let go, never mind all this bullshit about age. You can make this the prime of your life if you let yourself.

There is happiness out there, you just have to find what makes you happy. Maybe go see a psychologist or something and work through some of these mental blocks that you have, that are keeping you wallowing in this negativity. Once you get past that you will open the floodgates and start seeing things differently. You will see opportunities where you previously saw "fuck it, im old".
 
I know what makes me happy. Sex with various beautiful women. But i can't have then now anymore, because they are on a higher level, because of all the things they did. They had success in life, i didnt.
 
I have to be honest andreass Im reading your post & replies and I'm seeing a bunch of red flags and as hard as I try to understand your point of view I can't help feeling a bit disturbed. Most of the mass shooters had feelings of being rejected and feeling as not a part of. I'm worried your going to act on this feeling of unfairly being deprived of sex as a youth. And this obsession causing you to project these feelings & insecurities onto a unsuspecting good looking young woman..
 
I'm closing this thread. The OP has started many threads like this and no amount of advice to seek help has made it through to him. OP, your continued thoughts like this are dangerous.
 
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