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If Im not careful, Im going to slip back into my depression. Help!

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goku4ever

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A long time ago I got very depressed and it was caused in great part due to an online (drugs) community I was a part of. I dunno why but I became really close to some users on there and when I got left out of their activities (i.e. meeting up in person) it drove me to a suicidal state.
Anyways, I left that community and cut contact with everyone there, except for one user. Because she was newish, and was cool to talk to I kept talking to her.
But on facebook seeing her add friends on facebook that I know are of that old drug community, it does something to me. Im getting all paranoid again that the same thing is happening, especially as she just to me that she'll be up my way a lot more recently, I know there was a few users of the old community near my way and I can't help but think shes meeting with them. I don't even know why I care. I don't want to just cut her out of my life, as we've been speaking for months. But I have *just* come off my anti-depressants and am finally starting to feel normal. I don't want to go back to being depressed.

One example of my paranoid actions is when she adds a friend on facebook, Ill check out their profile to see if I recognise any of their friends from the old community (as I used to have quite a few on there)

Thoughts?
 
I think maybe you need to let her off as well. It seems like you won't be able to get past those thoughts and it will just hold you back in a way. Perhaps you developed a specific neurotic behavior with just that group for some reason or another and finding a new niche will be different for you.

Your mental health is most important. Protect it.
 
^^ Agreed.

goku, it's quite easy to get completely caught up in the online world, to the point where we neglect socialising in real life. Are there some friends that you know from non-internet affiliations that you can hang out with more, to take your mind off the group of people from the forum? If this girl who is possibly friends with those forum people, maybe it's not such a good idea to associate with her at all if it's going to upset you...?

Maybe try some new social activities so that you can meet lots of new people, like, join a sports team or start going to a book club or something like that (I'm not sure what your interests are). Does that sound like something you could do?
 
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