I would greatly appreciate any advice

[LazyEllis]

Hello, my name is Ellis. First time on here. I'm posting this for drug related reasons, obviously, so I'll just cut to the chase.

I personally haven't had any issues with addiction for many years. This post isn't about me though. It's about my fiance. He is having a
seriously hard time right now. Has been for several years now. I really don't know what else to say. Things are a mess. He does up to
5 opana 40's a day. He makes good money so he can afford it, but not much of anything else. We struggle paycheck to paycheck and
they're gone within hours paying off spots and buying more of whatever happens to be around. There are even several loans out right now.
One of which a couple weeks ago that was going to be used to fix his car. It's not fixed and every cent is gone.

I really don't know what else to say or ask. I've tried offering emotional support and encouragement. I continue to. He refuses to do any
outpatient in order to get subs or something because of the meetings he'd have to attend. He really doesn't want to go. Aside from that
they would also cut into work hours. People there are rather snobbish to put it lightly. I don't think he could be fired for missing work for
rehab specifically because that's like medical leave I guess? That doesn't mean they might not fire him over some other reason though.
Either way he refuses to even try.

I'm really at a loss. He's not well physically or mentally. He refuses to get help for almost anything. I'm watching him slowly die and it's
driving me insane. As for the aforementioned refusal to do outpatient therapy, I'm not sure it would even help. He doesn't seem to want
to quit. Not as much as he wants to be high anyway. The methadone or subs he'd get from there would just be yet another hookup.

I guess I'd just like to hear from people who've been in similar situations. How did you help them? How did you cope? I'm really not handling
this stuff well at all x..x. I don't want him to die.

I'm sorry if this isn't the right place for this thread. It seemed the most appropriate.

 

[engineercchad]

I'm very sorry for your predicament. "Change the things I can, accept the things I cannot change, and the wisdom to know the difference." It's all affecting your own mental health. You sound as though you need someone to authorize you to worry about yourself? If he doesn't want to quit and is taking 5 Opana 40s a day? Methadone or subs would be just another hookup? It is bad business, indeed. It is okay to worry about yourself. I wish you luck in learning this before this situation morphs into much worse for your person.

 

[twistedhunter]

hi, im sorry about your predicament. do u use drugs your self? ive never been addicted to opiats but to other drugs so i understand addiction. it sounds like a unhealthy relationship. if its not making u happy then maybe u should think about why u continue to be in a relationship with someone who sounds unhealthy. im sober now, but your bf is kind of like how i was when i was using. so my parents were going crazy because of me, so they backed off and said if i wanted to be a part of the family i couldnt keep using drugs. i eventually quit drugs. idk not telling u what to do just my thought and how my family reacted with me and my use. if you want to talk more im here