I want to show him how much he means to me

[Not_A_Drug_Addict]

My boyfriend and I have a great relationship but have been hitting a little rough patch. I just want to really really show him that no matter what I love him though. I write him little letters telling him how much he means to me once in awhile and I'll probably write another one but any suggestions on what else I could do? Maybe your significant other has done something it's for you in the past? Or maybe something you have do for them? Any feed back is appreciated! I'm just trying to be romantic and meaningful ?

 

[WannaBeSub]

What's up? What's going on that make you feel you're going through a tough patch? Is it between you guys? Or is it because of external factors? How long have you guys been together?

 

[Not_A_Drug_Addict]

What's up? What's going on that make you feel you're going through a tough patch? Is it between you guys? Or is it because of external factors? How long have you guys been together?

I don't really want to go into detail with all due respect. At least not all of them. We have been a thing I guess you could say since October of 2015 and we're basically always talking since then and finally started becoming a label a few days before 2017. Everyone saw it coming everyone knew we were already pretty much a thing. The vibe was always strong and present even when we would try to hide it either from ourselves or others. Anyway I think a big issue here is I don't give him enough space. I'm pretty clingy to him even when I see that it can be an issue at times but I'm really trying to fix that issue. I know men need their own alone time and I need to respect that and stop being selfish even though it's difficult for me. We have honestly been through ALOT together. I know the timeline doesn't seem like much but don't let that fool you lol and even though some of the things we have been through are pretty intense I think that it has taught us certain things and we have became stronger because of it. Recently some intense stuff has happened and has created tension between us but I don't think it's anything we can not work through which we are working through. But I want to better show him how much he means to me and that even though we go though stuff sometimes, big or small, he's the best thing in my life.

 

[WannaBeSub]

I understand. I didn't mean to be intrusive. I just feel that you can deal with things differently if the stress comes from outside the relationship or from within.

I'm guessing if you've been through so much already, he will know how much he means to you and how much he can count on you. Sometimes time is the best proof... when you look back and think "wow, we've managed to go through that and survive as a couple!".

As you say, going through rough times make you stronger. It will definitely reinforce the bound between you. Try not to overthink it. Just be yourself, be there for him when he needs support and give him some space when he needs me time.

I went through many rough patches with my husband. Many times we have been on the brink.... But 14 years later we are still together, stronger than we've ever been. There are always ups and downs, we still get rough patches.... But over the years we've learnt to know and understand each other and going through tough times seems easier....

 

[Not_A_Drug_Addict]

Oh no I didn't think you were intrusive don't worry ? I feel like most of the issues are from within the relationship at the moment. And 14 years is so impressive. I know that a lot of people think relationships are meant to be easy if it's with the right person but I think that's why so many relationships fail because of that expectation. Do you have any advice based on how long you guys have been together?

 

[bomber]

Personaly, the best way for a girl to show me her love is to break some of her rules for me. For example a woman who avoids dating younger guys dating me, or some very self disclipined and law obeying woman following my outlaw yolo way of life at least for a while.
As for me, I never managed to properly show a girl I realy loved how much I love her even if I tried. I just don't know how to do it so this thread is kinda intresting for me.

 

[zephyr]

Whrn Im in love with someone, I dont mind doing their ironing for them or doing stuff for them just to do something nice.


I havent been in love in years and last guy didnt deserve it.

 

[Not_A_Drug_Addict]

Like I said above, typically I will write him little love notes (little as in a few pages front to back lol). This time I made him couples coupons which i think is ganna be an extra fun way to show him how I feel ??

 

[David Wooderson]

My boyfriend and I have a great relationship but have been hitting a little rough patch. I just want to really really show him that no matter what I love him though.

Dote on him, be traditional, hold him accountable and yourself, know your place and play your position.

Not being mean but if you follow that advice then only an asshole or a homosexual will not want you.

 

[Not_A_Drug_Addict]

Dote on him, be traditional, hold him accountable and yourself, know your place and play your position.

Not being mean but if you follow that advice then only an asshole or a homosexual will not want you.

Can you be a little more elaborate please? And I don't think you're being mean or rude etc

 

[WannaBeSub]

I know that a lot of people think relationships are meant to be easy if it's with the right person but I think that's why so many relationships fail because of that expectation. Do you have any advice based on how long you guys have been together?

Relationships are never easy, especially if it's the right person.... from my opinion... It takes a lot of hard work and dedication. In my opinion, people give up to easily and at the first hurdle, look for someone else. But everytime you pass this hurdle, your relationship becomes stronger, you understand each other better, your bound is deeper....

It's hard to advise you not really knowing the nature of your relationship and the nature of the issues.

What I would say is, just ride the wave and the sea will calm down eventually and the sun will return. Just be there for him, be supportive, but if you feel like he needs space, give him that too. If you feel like being clingy is an issue for him sometimes, give him breathing space. I am sure he knows how much you love him.

Bomber's point is a valid point. Breaking your rules to please him, be different, do something unexpected....

 

[WannaBeSub]

Dote on him, be traditional, hold him accountable and yourself, know your place and play your position.

Not being mean but if you follow that advice then only an asshole or a homosexual will not want you.

Are you suggesting a submissive role? Or is it just me seeing something that is not there?

 

[pofacedhoe]

Whrn Im in love with someone, I dont mind doing their ironing for them or doing stuff for them just to do something nice.


I havent been in love in years and last guy didnt deserve it.

yeah for me i agree that actions speak love louder than words.

someone who will pick you up from work and make you dinner is better than a red rose and some duff talk