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I want to be with my ex but i wanna have sex with other girls.

ovenbakedskittles

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i need help really badly... its urgent...

I want to be with my ex and she wants to be with me but i also want to live the single life and do drugs and have sex with other women too...

Shes the only person i have had sex with and im curious about how other girls are. She has had sex with one other person and it was after we broke up and i was devastated over it. So that makes me feel like i want to live the single life even more but every time we separate i become depressed and anxious and i feel lonely and i just want to be with her.

But i feel like if we stay together i will never be able to deal with the fact that she has had sex with somebody else. But at the same time i dont want to risk losing her forever to go have sex with other girls. I feel so conflicted and indecisive and i just dont know what to do. what should i do? should we stay together or should i indulge in the single life?

I need your help. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you
 
You say 'every time we separate' - if your breaking up that often then you should think what is wrong with your relationship. It sounds like your both pretty young and your more concerned about not being alone than you are at being in a relationship (that takes work from both sides).

You need to either break up and move on or work stuff out - you can have a few more relationships, one nights, fun etc and then if you both decide its worth another go and you can work on your problems then do so.

To be honest - if your that jealous about her having sex with somebody else and you cannot let go then your relationship is more than likely to fail.
 
Sex is always better when you love the person in my opinion. Chances are you may be disappointed with a stranger. It's awkward and you don't know what each other likes and the feelings of oh my god I just want to crawl inside this person aren't there. You might end up thinking ucht what the fuck am I doing. Of course that may just be a womans perspective! Part of being an adult is being with someone that's had a life prior to you. You can't get hung up on people's prior relationships. No one is a virgin forever and the older you get the more of a past people have.
 
Sex is always better when you love the person in my opinion. Chances are you may be disappointed with a stranger. It's awkward and you don't know what each other likes and the feelings of oh my god I just want to crawl inside this person aren't there. You might end up thinking ucht what the fuck am I doing. Of course that may just be a womans perspective! Part of being an adult is being with someone that's had a life prior to you. You can't get hung up on people's prior relationships. No one is a virgin forever and the older you get the more of a past people have.

I have to say that I've had some incredible sex with strangers, hook ups etc.
 
Sex is always better when you love the person in my opinion. Chances are you may be disappointed with a stranger. It's awkward and you don't know what each other likes and the feelings of oh my god I just want to crawl inside this person aren't there. You might end up thinking ucht what the fuck am I doing. Of course that may just be a womans perspective! Part of being an adult is being with someone that's had a life prior to you. You can't get hung up on people's prior relationships. No one is a virgin forever and the older you get the more of a past people have.
It wasnt prior we were together for a year and a half and as soon as she broke up with me she started having sex with another guy. Ya it would be a different story if she was with another guy before we became a couple but that wasnt the case.
 
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