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Sex I prefer masturbation over sex

If you'll fuck enough you'll switch. Sometimes I tend to get used to a girl and get turned on by her looks and then when u switch it kinda takes time to get fully on. I'm talking casual sex not meaningfull relationships. It's similar with wanking or even what kinda sex you like or fetishes
 
LucasFudge said:
If you'll fuck enough you'll switch. Sometimes I tend to get used to a girl and get turned on by her looks and then when u switch it kinda takes time to get fully on. I'm talking casual sex not meaningfull relationships. It's similar with wanking or even what kinda sex you like or fetishes
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Yes, people have told me about this in regards to my very narrow arousal template and associated sexual fantasies. do you honestly think I can switch to enjoying normal sexual intercourse once I lose my virginity. basically, at the moment, I only desire for young women to trample me with their bare feet and spit in my face as well as using my face as a foot rest. I don’t find vaginas, buttocks, boobs or any other part of a woman’s body attractive in the slightest. I could literally stroke woman’s naked body without the slightest bit of arousal, whilst just the thought of her bare feet touching my skin or the sound of her spitting could send me into overdrive.
 
-=SS=- said:
Have you considered being a chair instead?
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Not really, it wouldn’t make sense because I don’t find buttocks arousing so it will just be very uncomfortable and a waste of time for me. also, if a girl is going to bring me pleasure, it has to be with her bare feet and by that I mean no footwear whatsoever, not even socks. I find women’s cold Bare feet most attractive. of course, I don’t like just any woman’s feet, I have to be attracted to her personality and voice first.
 
-=SS=- said:
Have you considered being a chair instead?
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That suggestion actually made me laugh because I know all my brothers would happily be a chair for a girl they liked? i’m happy to be a girls foot rest and spittoon. I know if my family found out about this, they’d have me taken to a therapist or at least suggest it
 
Neuroprotection said:
Yes, people have told me about this in regards to my very narrow arousal template and associated sexual fantasies. do you honestly think I can switch to enjoying normal sexual intercourse once I lose my virginity. basically, at the moment, I only desire for young women to trample me with their bare feet and spit in my face as well as using my face as a foot rest. I don’t find vaginas, buttocks, boobs or any other part of a woman’s body attractive in the slightest. I could literally stroke woman’s naked body without the slightest bit of arousal, whilst just the thought of her bare feet touching my skin or the sound of her spitting could send me into overdrive.
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Yeah I'm sure of it. Not in a sense that you'll basically go vanilla and missionary full on and only haha Its just by interacting with females, spending time with them or even looking at them you should develop new "ideas" haha and the more sex and relationships the ritcher your "portfolio of fun" will become and girls like it 😉
Sound like you are probably kinky or somehow that way at least so I would guess that you generally might be more driven to kinks and fetishes over life rather just "regular sex".
It was simmilar for me. before I've started having sex I was on about fetishes, just on dominant side of things and I remember being worried about not being able to get turned on or even getting a bonner or when things will come.
I can't remember back then but these days and 20 years later , I feel like it's perfectly justifiable and not embarrassing at all to do not be turned on or even hard by everything at every ocassion.
So yeah man.... sex life will start for you, explore, enjoy, be safe , General advice maybe I could add that some people are insecure and if you open up to them about your sexuality they will laugh you out or even try to damage your image to make themselves feel like they are better than you.
Stay away from those.
There is more females in this world that you will ever be able to handle, will be nice and understanding with you and just open minded to explore sex together , even leave good feelings and memories :) So just try to play and see what happens and things will work out and will keep coming to you :)
 
Although, I don’t know how experiencing sexual intercourse changes sexual preferences, i’m wondering if the idea of mutual masturbation could help in relationships where one partner has a much greater sexual appetite than the other. Mutual masturbation is where any body part of you’re partner but usually the hands are used to stimulate the penis, usually to the point of ejaculation. unlike traditional masturbation, mutual masturbation is allowed in my religion so long as it is done in marriage.
For anyone with fetishes like mine, I would advise you to try and use them to please your partner. for example, after explaining my fantasies to my future wife, I would offer to be her personal footstool and give her daily foot massages. not sure how I could convince her to spit at me on a daily basis, if she is kind enough, she will hopefully do it to please me. assuming this works out, this could keep me satisfied until she feels like intercourse which she can initiate on her own terms. God willing, this will make for a long-term, sustainable and happy relationship.
 
Dextro .45 said:
Slowly wean off the SSRI if medically advisable and doc said ok

Loosing the use of your c@ck and experiencing powerful sexual pleasure is a crime against humanity

It’s the most pleasurable experience of natural life

SSRI totally kill sexual pleasure, just as benzodiazepine do….which I’m weaning off of now, cause it’s effecting my sexual pleasure experience

Hell fckn no
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Idk man, I really relate to the op, I enjoy masturbation ore than sex, and I enjoy drugs more than masturbation. Orgasms just aren’t that great, especially if you’ve experienced drug cocktails, like meth and opium.
 
F.U.B.A.R. said:
I tend to agree with the OP on this subject. And the only conclusion I can come to is that I'm a lazy cunt.

Let's face it, sex is fuckin hard work.

Having a wank is a lazy gratification.

Kind of explains why being called a 'wanker' is an insult...
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Not just easier, but also probably more rewarding and obviously takes less effort, so it can be repeated again and again.
Because I don’t watch pornography, when I used to masturbate I could fantasise about whatever I wanted including extreme taboos and feel as if I was really in those erotic situations without any real-world consequences.
Of course, the same benefits of masturbation are exactly what make it problematic in the long term as one is less likely to go out and actually try and build a relationship. as I said before, in my experience, masturbation becomes more and more rewarding the longer you do it to the point where it eventually feels better than real intimacy.
 
Wow…..really.

Sexual climate is gods natural speedball…all the pleasurable endorphins, oxytocin, dopamine, etc are released in the brain …..it’s why human reproduction happens. Palatable food, sex, drugs all target the same pleasure centre of the brain
 
Dextro .45 said:
Wow…..really.

Sexual climate is gods natural speedball…all the pleasurable endorphins, oxytocin, dopamine, etc are released in the brain …..it’s why human reproduction happens. Palatable food, sex, drugs all target the same pleasure centre of the brain
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You are bang on there mate. But that is reserved for 'normal' people - not the fuckups you find frequenting Bluelight...
 
Masturbation is only better than sex if you have a high maintenance, expensive, bitchy girlfriend that does your head in.

Better to be single and jerk off. Get some good lube, smoke a joint and go for it. And you avoid all the BS after.
 
xtcgrrrl said:
Interestingly enough, it seems like for females, masturbation doesn’t affect us the same. Not too long ago I was researching how to become multi-orgasmic, and one of the articles I read stated that you should start with making yourself cum. (Link to the article for anyone who is curious)

www.marieclaire.com

How I Trained Myself to Have Multiple Orgasms

And how you can, too.
www.marieclaire.com www.marieclaire.com

Then do it several times in a row…it’s like exercising a muscle, you get better at it with practice. And it does seem to be true, at least in my experience. I did this for days on end for a while and it seemed like what the article said was true, the pelvic floor is trainable. And for women, there’s no refractory period. And right now, since I’ve been having frequent sex (YAYYYY) I’ve been able to cum every time, and often multiple times! Part of it is also probably that I’m not on any SSRIs and other meds that we’re having an inhibitory effect. And part is definitely due to the skill of my partner. But whatever the case, women, apparently, can masturbate a ton AND ALSO have immensely satisfying sex.

I think communication is key, here. If you verbalize your wants/needs, then it may make all the difference. Perhaps start by showing her how you prefer to be touched? If you can teach her to masturbate you just like you would do to yourself, that’s a start. It may help make you more motivated to reciprocate, and you can go from there?
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Masturbation taught me how to feel amazing when fucking her (whoever she may be).

And it involves communication that goes like this
" Ok baby I can hold off as long as you need. When you start to feel like you're going to cum start sucking and playing with my nipples and you will make me cum with you!"

I am actually guilty of playing with my own nipples when rolling balls.
 
poppashotta said:
Stop watching porn dude, it will destroy your life.. I was a porn addict since like 14 years old, and by the time of 19 I had first girlfriend, and I couldnt have sex with her, it was not enough, and i jsut wasnt stimulated, shortly after she ditched me. I dove into porn even more, over time i started having different issues with health, but main thing is perversion that progressed, i starte viewing wierd fetishes like old vs young, im so embaressed to even say that, but its what porn does. Dirty thoughts that invade my mind, thinking about porn 24/7 , homosexual feelings which I didnt have that freak me out and depress me as they invade my being and i dont like it im not gay at all , it grosses me out but they still invade my mind..so really you want that? better quit and never look back, yes its hard and its a fight, but its like a disease you dont want it bro, take care
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buddy it is not the porn. do some soul searching.
 
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