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i never compliment girls

why they hell you dont compliment girl,if you like some female theres definately things to compliment if your not completly retarded


express vocaly your apriciate firm ass like that,or her voice....
 
why they hell you dont compliment girl,if you like some female theres definately things to compliment if your not completly retarded


express vocaly your apriciate firm ass like that,or her voice....

Yeaaaah not quite sure telling a girl she's got a firm ass is gonna do you that much good...
 
yeah i don't compliment girls either; i find it weird. If they are musicians and i like their stuff then i'll obviously compliment on their work/style/sound or whatever but that's just natural. I'll do that for guys too and i'm not trying to fuck them. I agree with that whatever you say should be natural and not forced or used as a means to manipulate a girl.

And if you're actually trying to manipulate that girl then shoot her self esteem down big time, be like 'wow your hands/feet are really big!" she'll think you're an asshole and that she's not good enough, perfect position for manipulation, it's called negging as those assholes put it in 'Game Theory' lol but IMO it works. If you say she has really nice hair/shoes/dress you're going to sound like you're gay.
 
^Does that actually work?! If a guy threw a cheap insult like that my way, I'd just figure he was a dick and wouldn't bother with him anymore...
The best compliment I was given by a guy other than a boyfriend was that he loved my accent. Dunno why, but it was a huge turn-on. It's little things like that that'll really make girls appreciate you, and it's not exactly too difficult to say :)
 
How does Tucker Max's advice apply to a girl who is beautiful and smart?

Most people tend to have one quality that they define themselves by. If a girl is a doctor she's probably been judged on her intelligence her whole life so you tell her she's beautiful. If a girl is a model you tell her that she's smart. Let her know that she's different and that she stands out.

Do not use this as a form of manipulation and tell dumb girls that they're smart (sincerely, anyway). This is only meant for girls deserving of compliments.
 
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K, like my S/O, she's very cute, and takes her aesthetic seriously and puts a lot of effort into it, and is otherwise quite dedicated to looking good. So, one could say that's a defining quality of beauty/cuteness/style/something along that line.

But she's also very serious about her science/school, as she's enrolled in the most prestigious university in the country doing a double major in immunology and pharmacology on the path to med school. So, one could also say that she has a defining quality of intelligence/scholastics/tl;dr shit about Regulatory T cells in C57BL/6 mice.

And, in my personal experience, it's not uncommon to meet women who are both fucking stunning and give you an insta-boner and can kick your ass at matrix algebra or correct you on fine details of how myelin functions to increase the rate of signal transmission in your nervous system... Which then renders that approach invalid since they're obviously both cute and cerebral, and they know they're both.
 
^ even if he doesn't actually mean it?what if you don't think they're smart? then just lie to them?

a compliment is meaningless if you just copy something 'nice' to say about somebody from the internet to try to get somebody to like you...

think of something you like about the person. tell them sincerely. what's so hard about that?

alasdair

I think what is meant is to compliment them on something that isn't noticed as much. Let's say a girl is a model, breathtakingly gorgeous, etc. She probably gets compliments on that all the time. So complimenting her on something else is "different" (in a good way). I mean, surely there is something else awesome about this girl if you're interested in her. It doesn't have to be limited to looks vs. smarts. But I still like the idea of it. Just like, if a girl is super smart, complimenting her on something other than her brains would likely stand out for her. Instead of being one of the many guys that says "wow, you're really smart". That is, of course, based on the fact that she has more than one good quality about her, which I think is pretty likely :)

But IMO, if you *genuinely* like/admire/respect a girl enough that you'd want her as your S/O, then compliments should be self evident and flow naturally. If you don't see self evident good things about her, why do you want her? If you do, just tell her those things.

That is true as well. If you really like a girl, I'm sure there are quite a few things you like about her. Compliment her on those things.

And if you're actually trying to manipulate that girl then shoot her self esteem down big time, be like 'wow your hands/feet are really big!" she'll think you're an asshole and that she's not good enough, perfect position for manipulation, it's called negging as those assholes put it in 'Game Theory' lol but IMO it works. If you say she has really nice hair/shoes/dress you're going to sound like you're gay.

That whole manipulation thing would not work on me. If someone insults me, I'm not going to like them. That may work with girls with low self esteem and if you're only into a hookup. But that's a mean thing to do, so I definitely wouldn't recommend it!
 
^yeah maybe not but you'd be surprised, it's not like obvious manipulation, it is getting deep inside your mind. The smarter and more resistant girl you are the better these techniques work, not making an absolute statement, just a general one there.

Yes pagey they do work, not on everyone but there's certainly a large percentage of girls that this kind of thing will work on. You can't be an asshole the entire time but just to get their attention enough that you can charm them later on. You don't want to treat girls like shit and manipulate them just for your own purpose. The goal in using these techniques is to get a smart/nice looking girl and keep her, not just toss her away when you're done. But of course different people have different goals. You can use the same techniques in business to further your career or to penetrate social groups or whatever you desire. It can be used for good and evil and it's up to the person to decide how they will use their techniques to manipulate people.

There's plenty of info on this stuff out there and it takes an extreme amount of practice and effort to perfect these things. I am just an amateur in comparison. I'm also in a committed relationship so do not practice these kinds of things anymore except when i'm dealing with people. You can learn to get instant rapport with a stranger pretty easily and that comes in handy.
 
neggin only works on stuck up gals, who need bringing down a peg - those examples are fair - a smudge on her face, aa ladder in hr tights, or poorly applied foundation will sort them out right.

Nothin wrong with complimenting on shoes, hair or dress if you have noticed, and think they look good - I've wondered if we might sound gay, when saying these tings, but hey women appreciate it. I'd much rather sound a bit gay and get balls deep, than not sound gay and get nothing - the fear of sounding gay is just fear taalking - that's not going to help you out at all.

Rangrz - Tucker Max fucking RULES (in a horrible sorta way) - I like to occasionally use his one where you hit on the least attractive member of a group of chicks - the other females are shocked and compete for your attention - put this into practice a few times, it works like a charm...considering trying it soon again, to bring THAT GIRL's true colours out.
yeah i don't compliment girls either; i find it weird. If they are musicians and i like their stuff then i'll obviously compliment on their work/style/sound or whatever but that's just natural. I'll do that for guys too and i'm not trying to fuck them. I agree with that whatever you say should be natural and not forced or used as a means to manipulate a girl.

And if you're actually trying to manipulate that girl then shoot her self esteem down big time, be like 'wow your hands/feet are really big!" she'll think you're an asshole and that she's not good enough, perfect position for manipulation, it's called negging as those assholes put it in 'Game Theory' lol but IMO it works. If you say she has really nice hair/shoes/dress you're going to sound like you're gay.
 
does that decrease my chance of actually getting a girlfriend because i will be seeing as a friend? basically when i talk to girls, i talk about anything and give them advice but never flirt or compliment them. i never compliment because i don't like doing that just like that.
if you never flirt or compliment them, how are they supposed to know your interested?

Give a couple of compliments you stingy basard :p

They probably spent considerable effort making themselves look as good as possible, a simple compliment wins you serious brownie points for this reason. Bonus points if you give the compliment in earshot of her friends.
 
^Does that actually work?!
yes. you don't just insult someone and they are like, "oh god, take me now".
it is a subtle process, you need to say negative things and positive things. you are shaping someones perspective, so that they will like you.
its like army boot camp. break down the man, and build up the solider.
you break down the woman, and build up the woman that will sleep with you.

basically you fuck with peoples confidence and self esteem, in order to exploit women sexually. it is the same social technique that men who control abusive relationships use.
 
^yeah maybe not but you'd be surprised, it's not like obvious manipulation, it is getting deep inside your mind. The smarter and more resistant girl you are the better these techniques work, not making an absolute statement, just a general one there.

Yes pagey they do work, not on everyone but there's certainly a large percentage of girls that this kind of thing will work on. You can't be an asshole the entire time but just to get their attention enough that you can charm them later on. You don't want to treat girls like shit and manipulate them just for your own purpose. The goal in using these techniques is to get a smart/nice looking girl and keep her, not just toss her away when you're done. But of course different people have different goals. You can use the same techniques in business to further your career or to penetrate social groups or whatever you desire. It can be used for good and evil and it's up to the person to decide how they will use their techniques to manipulate people.

There's plenty of info on this stuff out there and it takes an extreme amount of practice and effort to perfect these things. I am just an amateur in comparison. I'm also in a committed relationship so do not practice these kinds of things anymore except when i'm dealing with people. You can learn to get instant rapport with a stranger pretty easily and that comes in handy.

basically you fuck with peoples confidence and self esteem, in order to exploit women sexually. it is the same social technique that men who control abusive relationships use.

exactly ... guys who control abusive relationships DO THIS! (and females who control abusive relationships ... anyone who controls an abusive relationship) They make the other person ("victim") feel bad about themselves so that they think they don't deserve any better.
RobotRipping - the smarter/more resistant the girl, the better it works? Just .... no. The smarter the girl, the more confident the girl, the less it will work. As well, this method will not end up in a good relationship. As kaywholed said before, it is what abusive people do. It will likely end up in a controlling relationship which is not healthy!!!
 
exactly ... guys who control abusive relationships DO THIS! (and females who control abusive relationships ... anyone who controls an abusive relationship) They make the other person ("victim") feel bad about themselves so that they think they don't deserve any better.
RobotRipping - the smarter/more resistant the girl, the better it works? Just .... no. The smarter the girl, the more confident the girl, the less it will work. As well, this method will not end up in a good relationship. As kaywholed said before, it is what abusive people do. It will likely end up in a controlling relationship which is not healthy!!!

no. intelligence does not guarantee confidence. and it even works on girls that are confident, as negging works to break down confidence and seed self doubt.
 
no. intelligence does not guarantee confidence. and it even works on girls that are confident, as negging works to break down confidence and seed self doubt.

And you get a partner with confidence issues. Whats the point.
 
if someone insults me that's it. i been with fools who try to put a negative slant on everything. i dont find it an attractive trait because why would i want someone who feeds on chunks of my self esteem.

friends can be negative for a joke and a bit of banter but where love is concerned i dont have to tolerate being made to feel small.

its is true though that if you big someone up to much it turns them off you- either because they think they're better and could do better or simply because it makes the complimenter seem needy and lacking
 
if someone insults me that's it. i been with fools who try to put a negative slant on everything.

being a pessimist is different. the adherents to "game theory" use proven manipulation techniques because they work.

it is not as simplistic as insulting a woman and then she loves you. there is a push, and a pull. break down the old, build up the new. fresh meat for the army gets broken down, then built up as a solider. players put down a girl, then build up a woman.

eg.

negative statement: "wow, the colours of those shoes, and that dress are terrible"
not directly insulting, but definitely creating self doubt in the woman's mind.
positive statement: "but you make them go together wonderfully"
reinforcing positive feelings, thus creating the connection with the complimenter.

i think its funny when girls say, 'that wouldn't work on me', because those are the ones who typically are currently falling for it, or have in the past.


And you get a partner with confidence issues. Whats the point.
s e x
 
being a pessimist is different. the adherents to "game theory" use proven manipulation techniques because they work.

it is not as simplistic as insulting a woman and then she loves you. there is a push, and a pull. break down the old, build up the new. fresh meat for the army gets broken down, then built up as a solider. players put down a girl, then build up a woman.

eg.

negative statement: "wow, the colours of those shoes, and that dress are terrible"
not directly insulting, but definitely creating self doubt in the woman's mind.
positive statement: "but you make them go together wonderfully"
reinforcing positive feelings, thus creating the connection with the complimenter.

i think its funny when girls say, 'that wouldn't work on me', because those are the ones who typically are currently falling for it, or have in the past.



s e x

Expend so much energy trying to headfuck someone into sleeping with you, to get a root you feel you are unworthy of. Wether it works or not, doesnt sound like a recipie for happiness.

Being nice works just as well.

And besides, switching between flirting and being platonic is equally effective without the need to be a cunt.
 
exactly ... guys who control abusive relationships DO THIS! (and females who control abusive relationships ... anyone who controls an abusive relationship) They make the other person ("victim") feel bad about themselves so that they think they don't deserve any better.
RobotRipping - the smarter/more resistant the girl, the better it works? Just .... no. The smarter the girl, the more confident the girl, the less it will work. As well, this method will not end up in a good relationship. As kaywholed said before, it is what abusive people do. It will likely end up in a controlling relationship which is not healthy!!!

ah i think you'd be one of the most susceptible to these tricks, i know people think NLP is bullshit but it works, plain and simple. I could totally trick you into thinking i am someone i am not while planting seeds in your head and using memory/visualization tricks to fuck with you and gather info. The person doing this to you is going to be very intelligent as well and you may even find that charming which makes you an easier kill. I am not just theorizing here, i know this in practice and i've seen others do it as well. I am shit at this and can still manipulate the fuck out of people if i want so there are tons of people who are so much better than i am at this, and these people will be able to manipulate you, whether you recognize it or not.

I am just basing this on how stubborn you are lol, that's a big sign. However none of this shit may work on you at all, i don't know you so i can't say but i'm just saying in general. And yes superficial hot girls who think they are smart doing their PHD in psychology are the most susceptible to this kind of stuff, some nerdy under confident girl with low self esteem is not going to fall for these tricks. Again, just general statements, nothing is absolute or universal here.

kaywholed has some good negs posted; sir you must know your game theory.

stuff like, 'have you had your nails done?" is the kind of neg you want to throw out there, not "you are a disgusting swamp donkey' lol must be subtle, then throw in NLP techniques to get in their heads and manipulate away. I miss practicing this stuff on girls.
 
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