Its's like, do I love drugs or do I love my family(my fiance and my unborn baby) But I just want to find that perfect balance. I always have bud so its really hard to quit. I'm around it at work and everything, and I do other drugs for recreation like perc 30s, kpins, xanax, valuim, rarely acid or shrooms, very rare ex (only did once), and beer. I just want to stop doing drugs and save my money wink wink, but I always have something, How can you be around drugs alot and not do them, I love my family so much i would die any day for them but I love to escape my shitty reality by using drugs. Wich cuts my money half or less, buying prescriptions or such, I have severe anxiety and Insomnia how can I save my money and keep my problems under control? Please help.
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I love weed, but I'm about to have a kid
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You actually need more help than you'll find here, I think. You have some serious decisions to make. It's not something for the boards, it something for a professional to help you figure out what is best for you. Escaping your shitty reality is something I can relate to. Many people here can. You are going to be building the reality of your baby. If you don't want a shitty reality for your unborn child, you can work on whatever changes you might need to make.
I do not say that lightly because change is difficult, and life is full of daily crap that I don't like either.
You probably already know that they drug test all babies (born in the U.S. at least) for drugs. If a newborn comes up positive for substances, I read that it goes directly to a foster home and the parents are investigated. That's ALL bad.
I do not say that lightly because change is difficult, and life is full of daily crap that I don't like either.
You probably already know that they drug test all babies (born in the U.S. at least) for drugs. If a newborn comes up positive for substances, I read that it goes directly to a foster home and the parents are investigated. That's ALL bad.
Black Rabbit of Inle
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Get yourself into a psych session and sort your 'shitty reality' out properly. Doing drugs while you're pregnant (or are you male?) can cause serious complications in the newborn. I know that with ice/cocaine/heroin babies the first few days/weeks of their life is constant agony as they go through withdrawls. Is that something you want to subject a child to?
If your reality is so shitty why are you considering bringing another life into that situation? You obviously want the best for your child so do something to change it now. If you have trouble saying clean because of drugs around you, don't be around people with drugs. Stop hanging with them, lose their numbers, throw out your stash too.
If you think you have no money now because of drugs, wait till you have to make the choice between diapers and drugs. What will you do then? For your sake and the unborn childs, I hope you get some professional help with your issues and sort yourself out before you suddenly have another worry on your plate that you can't deal with.
Yet, it happens every single day. I'm starting to think the crazy ones are those who plan every detail of their life. Shit happens, life tends to be pretty spontaneous and it also likes to shit all over plans.
I'm sorry, but that makes absolutely no sense. You love your family to the point you'd die for them, making them a fixture in your reality, yet your reality is so shitty that you need to be high in order to get through your day-to-day? I... I don't understand that logic...
Anyways, the money issue is relative. It depends on what you bring home on a weekly basis. If you make $2,000 a month and spend $1,200 on rent, $350 on food, $150-$250 on utilities, then you'd theoretically have a few extra bones a month to smoke/pop pills/snort shit. It's all a matter of budgeting, but that's from a solely economical standpoint.
Now time for morals (and this is me speaking from my point of view and not trying to generalize).
Personally, when I'm intoxicated I'm selfish as fuck. I won't go into specifics, but everything I do is done to make me feel better (even seemingly selfless acts). In my opinion, parents should be intrinsically selfless, the opposite of what I consider most users to be (there are exceptions). Do you want your child growing up around that kind of behavior? What about illegal drug use? Drug abuse? You say you "always have something" so I'm assuming you profit off of illegal drugs... will that continue after you become a father?
For me, it boils down to this: Drugs are illegal. By myself, I'm willing to take the risk of suffering the consequences of engaging in illegal behavior for the reward of being high. However, if I had an infant to care for, the dynamics would most certainly change. I would never risk my actions having a negative effect on anybody else, much less a life-changing effect on my seed.
If you're getting legitimate prescriptions, the best way to save money would be to go generic and stop getting brand name pharmaceuticals (if that's the case). Have you tried dealing with anxiety and insomnia without medication?
nekointheclouds
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Look this kind of discussion isnt for Cannabis Discussion. Your talking about issues of addition and drug about along side family life and so on. This is really more suited for The Dark Side, they are better suited to help give you advise about if and what you should do about drugs in your life.
Let me know if your cool with me moving this thread, the mood of this post isnt right for CD
Let me know if your cool with me moving this thread, the mood of this post isnt right for CD
Shit! Becoming a parent deserves to be in TDS? Fuck, neko..... that's kind of depressing, man.
GodSpeedK
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lol yeah, it kinda sends out the wrong message about the question asked by the OP.
"We can't possibly handle harsh reality in the cannabis thread, let's quickly remove it and toke up a fatty!"
I mean, I know what she meant but word-for-word it sends a terrible message, man. I'm like 98% sure that she didn't intend for it to sound so fucked up in my mind, though....
slimvictor
Bluelight Crew
This.
Yoga does wonders for both anxiety and insomnia.
Yoga is kind of like meditation + exercise, and both of these also help anxiety and insomnia.
If you really love your family, you will stop taking drugs and spend that time, energy, and money on making your reality a better place, so that you can share it with them.
If you are basically selfish and love your family less than you love yourself, it makes more sense to go on taking drugs and worrying about you, individually, and not about how your drug-taking is affecting those in your family.
Just my opinion, but the fact is that it is dangerous to a fetus for the mother to take drugs (assuming that you are pregnant).
nekointheclouds
Bluelight Crew
lol. I didnt mean that. I dont have any personal issues with the morality of using weed.
Its TDS material cause we arent talking about weed, or necessarily about having a baby. This is all about the morality of drug use.
And there nothing depressing about that at all. Its just a personal choice. I'm not sending any kind of bad message by sending this thread there. I only ask because CD isnt the right place to have a legit conversation about the morality of drug use, because its not an easy awnser.
T. Calderone
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OP didn't mention how far along she is. It's one thing if you just found out you're pregnant, realising the need to quit. It's another thing to continue using drugs (she mentioned using other drugs too, not just weed) knowing the risks involved. Instead of saying "I want to quit drugs so I can save some money" It should be "I want to quit drugs so I can have a healthy baby."
Being around people at work that use drugs all day might make this a challenge. Stop hanging out and partying with them. Having a baby should be the happiest time of your life. So you have to decide what's more important.
Being around people at work that use drugs all day might make this a challenge. Stop hanging out and partying with them. Having a baby should be the happiest time of your life. So you have to decide what's more important.
velmwend
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It's all about balance. When you have children your priorities will all change and you will grow a lot, both mentally and spiritually. You will also get *very* tired during the first year so you need to be of optimum health. You also need to understand that you still have your independent life to live and your own wants and needs, apart from those of your partner and newborn. Don't fall into the trap of denying yourself a life just because you have another burgeoning life to nurture. Saving money to spend on your newborn is a great way to make a start now and say, "Right, are there any excesses? What am I spending too much on? What do I need to cut back on?" Saving money and optimizing your health are two of the best things you can do, in the run-up to the birth and afterwards. Balance! That's the key! Hope your family has a happy and healthy future 
PriestTheyCalledHim
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Get into meditation that will help the anxiety and insomnia. If you're pregnant stop using all drugs.
saif1311
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Just grow the stuff. keep it ultra stealth and tell no one ever and youll be absolutely fine =) i would deffo stop with the other more harmful shit though. shrooms are cool. but i heard somewhere LSD can abort a baby so idk if its the same with shrooms.
Artificial Emotion
Bluelighter
I agree, don't be a financial slave to the dealer. Get cheaper, much better quality bud by growing it yourself. You coupd easily just set up a 250W HPS grow and get enough for personal use with just a few plants. It would be cheap to run, easy to do and really fun. You might even get hooked on growing if you fall in love with it like me. It certainly will give you the chance to try strains you would never get from any dealer.
As controversial as this might sound I don't personally believe weed is likely to be particularly harmful to your unborn child or whilst breastfeeding. I could be wrong but there is some evidence, both direct and circumstantial that it isn't particularly harmful. It certainly can be very helpful for childbirth.
People drink one or three glasses of wine in the evenings when they have kids & nobody bats an eyelid. So smoking responsibly when you havee kids is fine IMO. Just be sensible - dont get so wasted you can't function in an emergency for example.
I would add that using any drug to escape your problems is risky and maybe a sign of a drug problem. It's something to think about.
As controversial as this might sound I don't personally believe weed is likely to be particularly harmful to your unborn child or whilst breastfeeding. I could be wrong but there is some evidence, both direct and circumstantial that it isn't particularly harmful. It certainly can be very helpful for childbirth.
People drink one or three glasses of wine in the evenings when they have kids & nobody bats an eyelid. So smoking responsibly when you havee kids is fine IMO. Just be sensible - dont get so wasted you can't function in an emergency for example.
I would add that using any drug to escape your problems is risky and maybe a sign of a drug problem. It's something to think about.
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samnslumberland
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I'm not promoting that you continue to smoke marijuana when you have your child (I'm assuming that you're male?), but my dad has been a cannabis consumer since he was 12 years old (he's now 52). He continued to smoke during my mom's pregnancy and after my birth, and he was the best dad. He was so involved in my life and was always there to catch my fall and encourage me to grow all throughout my childhood. Had I not been informed that he's been smoking since age 12, I'd assume that he was clean and only picked up the habit in recent years. Take from that what you will.
darthjello
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IMO, it is all about your mentality and how strong willed you are. For instance, if you can smoke weed on occasion with your buddy's, when you don't have anything to do, and have the extra cash, GO FOR IT!!!! There's nothing wrong with wanting to unwind. But it's all about prioritizing and responsibilities. If you need diapers, food, etc, obviously don't go blow your money on drugs. But if you have everything you need, and have some extra cash, go for it!!! Congratulations on the baby by the way!!! I have a one year old daughter, and I love her to death. It is a lot of fun!!! But it has it's stressfull moments. GOOD LUCK Chaos21!!!!
Chainer
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it sounds like your solution is to not be around drugs then.
Change your shit up. And I'm with Neko, this is TDS material simply due to the fact that so many other drugs are being factored into this convo - this hardly pertains to weed at all
Change your shit up. And I'm with Neko, this is TDS material simply due to the fact that so many other drugs are being factored into this convo - this hardly pertains to weed at all