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caseface99 said:
Soo I had an interesting night last night to say the least.


Another house mate I let myself become friends with relapsed last night. He came home blacked out drunk, I talked to my roommate in the apartment across the street and he was cool with it so I got him out of the main house and into my apartment and basically baby sat him and talked to him about shit all night. Tried to talk to him about shit anyway he was pretty wasted... I did manage to get him honest at one point though and he was talking about a really fucked up experience when he was homeless recently, and I don't really know what to do now - He told me that a couple months ago he was walking around the city looking for somewhere to sleep for the night when some guy came and started trying to fuck with him. Apparently this guy was trying to touch/molest/rape him or something like that and next thing he knew< he claimed there was heavy violence> but some of the pieces were sort of out of sync as he was really drunk and I couldn't get the whole story put together. I don't know what to do though. He's still asleep and I know I need to talk to him again once he wakes up and he's sober, but this is actually pretty serious shit and I'm not sure how to approach the situation from here. I don't know if he's even going to remember telling me what he's told me so far. So i don't know what to do right now...

Another awesome night at sober living. :\
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That's a tough one Case but the thing is he is too intoxicated to even remember everything am I correct? Would it also be possible that he was just imagining this, making up this story or was he dead serious?

If he has committed a crime then he has to face the consequences. How close are you to him? I am not sure if this is the best advice but I am a courageous one and I will ask him right of the bat if something had happened or if he remembers telling you what he has told you. If he said yes and told you what really happened then you are lucky and try to give him advice. If not, then that will be tough but unless you really want to find out the truth and if someone was really murdered you are going to have to go digging. It really depends on how much you want to help out and if you can handle the upcoming stress of it.
 
Yeah, thanks guys, I don't know.

@Maya- Sort of hard for me to give my response to what you said because I can't be specific, but the simple answer is that I disagree about "him needing to face the consequences". That's not happening and it wouldn't help anything or anyone. It would just totally destroy another life and rip apart a family. What's done is done, plus it sounds like self defense and he does't deserve life in prison. And also there's no chance he was making shit up. His tone, the look on his face, the way he was describing what had happened not just with words but sort of acting out some aspects of it, especially the final moments.. It was graphic and I have no doubt really happened. :\

@NSA - I think I may just do that. I was thinking about bringing it up with him after he sober's up and having a real conversation with him about it, but at this point I don't think I want to know anything about this anymore. I already know too much... I don't want to get involved with something like this and be an accessory after the fact. I'm just going to try and forget about what he told me. I'm not qualified to deal with this shit.


Edit- On a brighter note, before all this happened I met this girl at a meeting and brought her over. She stayed the whole time until we were able to get him to go to sleep and I think she was kind of into me after seeing how I handled the situation cause she ended up spending the night with me. We didn't hook up but Im pretty certain she wants to, and she's coming back over tomorrow night. I'm not really interested in a serious relationship with this girl but if she's down to just hangout and have some fun I think it will be really good in terms of getting over my ex. So that's a plus. :)
 
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caseface99 said:
Soo I had an interesting night last night to say the least.


Another house mate I let myself become friends with relapsed last night. He came home blacked out drunk, I talked to my roommate in the apartment across the street and he was cool with it so I got him out of the main house and into my apartment and basically baby sat him and talked to him about shit all night. Tried to talk to him about shit anyway he was pretty wasted... I did manage to get him honest at one point though and he was talking about a really fucked up experience when he was homeless recently, and I don't really know what to do now - He told me that a couple months ago he was walking around the city looking for somewhere to sleep for the night when some guy came and started trying to fuck with him. Apparently this guy was trying to touch/molest/rape him or something like that and next thing he knew< he claimed there was heavy violence> but some of the pieces were sort of out of sync as he was really drunk and I couldn't get the whole story put together. I don't know what to do though. He's still asleep and I know I need to talk to him again once he wakes up and he's sober, but this is actually pretty serious shit and I'm not sure how to approach the situation from here. I don't know if he's even going to remember telling me what he's told me so far. So i don't know what to do right now...

Another awesome night at sober living. :\
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Awh case that sucks. I hope your friend can get through this. You're a good friend to take him in like this. I don't know if he'll remember but it'll brilliant that you listened n were there for him, keeping him safe. How are you feeling though? Xxxx
 
^^ look at the post right above that one, but otherwise I mean I'm not feeling too fucked up about it. At first I felt like I always do, like it's something that I have to help fix. But lately I've been getting a lot better at not taking on other peoples problems as my own... I have enough of my own shit to deal with everyone else's lol. Basically it's just a good reminder for why I should not relapse.
 
caseface99 said:
^^ look at the post right above that one, but otherwise I mean I'm not feeling too fucked up about it. At first I felt like I always do, like it's something that I have to help fix. But lately I've been getting a lot better at not taking on other peoples problems as my own... I have enough of my own shit to deal with everyone else's lol. Basically it's just a good reminder for why I should not relapse.
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Awh that's easily done, case. Sorry I never saw the responses until now. I get these through E-mail notifications n sometimes can be slow lol. I think NSA is right, leave it to God. I'm starting to find helping people just gets you hurt n you've you're own stuff to deal with. That's ace that you met a girl. I hope that works out for you or you at least get a friendship out of it xxxx
 
^^ Friendship is all I'm really looking for. Having some fun with her would be nice too and help to put my ex out of my mind, but only if she's down knowing its not going to turn into anything serious cause I'm just not interested in anything more than that right now.
 
I saw picture of you in the photo thread - was she your ex? I'm so sorry that happened. Sucks breaking up n it's good you are doing what's best. Some end up jumping with another straight away bringing more hurt. Take time for you to heal n sort your life out. What's happening with the accommodation? xxxx
 
^^ Yeah the picture of me with the girl in the TDS photo thread is my ex, the girl I was dating up until a month ago. She's still the first and last thing I think about every single day, and It wouldn't be fair for me to get serious with anyone else right now still feeling like this about her. Plus I've been in a serious relationship with one person or another consecutively since I was 16, I'm 22 now - it might be time to do my own thing for a while regardless of feelings for my most recent ex.

Also, part of my 4th step was a sex inventory and writing out my "sexual ideal" and my "long term ideal", and this girl I'm hanging out with again tonight doesn't fit the long term ideal - so that right there is enough for me to not get seriously involved if I'm being honest with myself.

However, none of this means I can't have some fun as long as she's cool with that. :)
 
Exactly, Case. You have a good head on your shoulders. You're probably right about being single for awhile n working on YOU, finding out what it is exactly that you want. Of course there's nowt wrong in having fun if you both know the score ;0) xxxx
 
caseface99 said:
Edit- On a brighter note, before all this happened I met this girl at a meeting and brought her over. She stayed the whole time until we were able to get him to go to sleep and I think she was kind of into me after seeing how I handled the situation cause she ended up spending the night with me. We didn't hook up but Im pretty certain she wants to, and she's coming back over tomorrow night. I'm not really interested in a serious relationship with this girl but if she's down to just hangout and have some fun I think it will be really good in terms of getting over my ex. So that's a plus. :)
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Yes. I didn't want to say it in your other thread because it could have been seen as a bit...well, you know...but this is absolutely the most effective way to get over a bad breakup. Now get your phone out and invite that girl over tonight!
 
caseface99 said:
^^ Yeah the picture of me with the girl in the TDS photo thread is my ex, the girl I was dating up until a month ago. She's still the first and last thing I think about every single day, and It wouldn't be fair for me to get serious with anyone else right now still feeling like this about her. Plus I've been in a serious relationship with one person or another consecutively since I was 16, I'm 22 now - it might be time to do my own thing for a while regardless of feelings for my most recent ex.

Also, part of my 4th step was a sex inventory and writing out my "sexual ideal" and my "long term ideal", and this girl I'm hanging out with again tonight doesn't fit the long term ideal - so that right there is enough for me to not get seriously involved if I'm being honest with myself.

However, none of this means I can't have some fun as long as she's cool with that. :)
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Keep us updated!! :D


An update on my ex- I found out yet anther lie that he told during the relationship. He was chatting with this girl (his friends ex) for 2 years behind my back. And when he went to the state that she lives in with his friends, I have no doubt in my mind he visited her. That was the final straw for me to block him. So happy the iPhone let's me block people right on the device now. I HATE LIARS.
 
^ ad lib...save it and make it your desktop background!

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P.S. I am sorry that I didn't perfectly center the circle. It is already diving me mad.
 
Thank you for that RL! I am going to make that my desktop background, and my phone background :D
 
^ yay! Our phone backgrounds match :D we can get past these toxic people being in our lives. I know we can
 
ad lib said:
Keep us updated!! :D


An update on my ex- I found out yet anther lie that he told during the relationship. He was chatting with this girl (his friends ex) for 2 years behind my back. And when he went to the state that she lives in with his friends, I have no doubt in my mind he visited her. That was the final straw for me to block him. So happy the iPhone let's me block people right on the device now. I HATE LIARS.
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Oooo how does iPhone block? I've iPhone 5 n I'd love to know.

His actions have shown that you've done the right thing in moving on from him. Even if you were friends with him it wouldn't work because he's broke trust with you by the constant lies.

Onwards n upwards, eh xxxx
 
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