I just dont know what to do

[andreas]

In march I went halves in a house with my parents and thought, this is awesome we dont have to pay rent anymore. Problem is I was out of home for 5 years and I didnt know they argue ALL the time and its doing my fucking head in. It is seriously fucking with my head, to the point I feel depressed, anxious and nauseous. They're fucking messy and im a clean person, that hates clutter, I walk in the house and want to scream its never clean and I know its not just me coz my friends have said its messy. My mother mumbbles shit to herself like some crazy person but its directed at my dad, they keep coming to me and bitching about eachother........see I could get up and leave and go back to paying rent, but then I would have to pay rent and my half of the mortgage...they wont go to a counselor

I know so many of us here have such bigger problems, but I had a full blown anxiety disorder and mild schizophrenia and I dont want that shit to come back...the suicidal thoughts have started already...seriously is tis worth taking my life over NO, so why think about it...WTF

any advice guys would help.................thanks

 

[Captain.Heroin]

Get your parents to therapy, or at least a doctor. Sometimes couples argue because one or both of them have anxiety issues and could stand to be on some medication IMO.

 

[capsid]

Do you have any money left - or can you refinance a portion of the house?

An acquaintance of mine lived with his mother, couldn't handle it any longer and paid a small sum to have his house modified and effectively split it into two smaller residences.

Otherwise I agree, trying to find them therapy would be a good idea.

Good luck.

 

[Jabberwocky]

Your case sounds similar to mine. I have become depressed living in my parents house because my mum has untreated bipolar / depression / anxiety. She does the same mummbles and my dad just stays mute, waiting for her episode to finish. Hearing this constant rambling and the irrational words from my mum has driven me to the point of wanting to commit suicide as well. I get put down by her as that's her way of talking to people.

All I can say is, get the fuck out of there. People don't change over night you know, especially not at that age. My folks are wogs and they'd prefer to be in denial then admit that they need help. In fact they would tell you that you're the one with the problem. Mental manipulation at its best.

If you are worried about the arguments it may bring, if you do depart, they will get over it. Also maybe you play a part in their arguments as you shift their way of living etc. I know this is the case for my oldies. Our values are definitely different.

 

[andreas]

my old lady has some kind of split personality disorder, she looks so down and out all the time and she talks down to us but gets all happy when her friends come over. when they go its like this switch comes on and the depressed angry person comes back, when she talks its like she has to make a real effort to talk like some one who's really ill. I'v told her this and she told me I was being stupid

So noonoo you are right...a friend said I can go there for a while till my mental state gets better....lets see how things go

thakns guys

 

[Tunnelfission]

Sounds like your parents arent to concerned about their lifestyle affecting you. All I know personally is that I am alot happier on my own and with friends than succumbing to rules and hypocracies and stick in the mud behaiviors.

I agree with the above, maybe talk it out with your parents, get them some help it seems like they've been going on like that for years.

 

[andreas]

well you see when I moved back to the old palce I told them pretty early on I was moving out coz of the state of the place, and they were like oh its coz this place is so small thats why its so messy, but the new place is just the same, I now know its just how they are.Nothing has a place they just dump stuff where ever

im moving out soon even if its for a little while a few friends said I could stay at their place, one is less than a minutes drive to the beach so that should be good

thanks guys

much love

 

[Lolie]

Wise move. You can change yourself and you can change how you react to stuff, but you can't change other people and you can't make them change for you.

Look after your own mental health first and when you're away from your parents issues you'll be able to think more clearly about how to tackle the financial strain.