I have the urge to sleep with a guy even though I am with a girl.

[Lunchboxor]

Now this isnt a question of my sexuality. Im a Bisexual male and I love it. I am also a Crossdresser and I enjoy sex while I crossdress with another guy. Ive long accepted and come to this conclusion, besides that, its a shit ton of fun! =] Also the girl I am seeing knows and is accepting of me crossdressing, she would just rather not see it done, which I respect.

But ive been seening this girl T for a few months. Met her in july, and have been chillin with her non stop since. Started having sex two or so months ago. At the moment there is no label on our relationship, but its pretty obvious what the label should be considering she sleeps at my house every single night and weve both said I love yous to eachother a handful of times over the past few weeks.

Ive recently had the urge to hookup with a guy again, a guy I was having strictly fun with about six months ago hit me up recently and wants to hookup. Ive been kinda feeding him in on it as well.

T and I have spoken about sleeping with other people around last month. We both agreed that it was acceptable to have sex with some else, but, not to allow it to be known or hinted at in the slightest. And recently she said asked me if I had been thinking about getting laid by a guy. At the time I hadnt, so I said no. This has changed in the present, I really want to get fucked soon, and I dont know what I should do.

Should I supress the urge to do so? Do it now before shit gets alot more serious and were actually in a relationship? Should I try and bring it up in conversation prior, or just completely leave her in the dark about it and tell her I want to have a night bymyself to crossdress alone?

 

[Tude]

Well, she said if y'all were to sleep with someone else, not to talk about it. So there ya go :D

 

[Bearlove]

Is she not giving a mixed message here - Firstly it's ok to have sex with other people as long as as you don't let it known' and she is also asking if your thinking about getting laid. If you had have been with a guy and said so then according to rule one she would not be happy?

If you care about her and your relationship that you have with her then this is something worth mentioning again just to make sure there is no misunderstanding and nobody gets hurt. You both seem very open about these things so dropping it into conversation shouldn't be that big of a issue.

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

Is she not giving a mixed message here - Firstly it's ok to have sex with other people as long as as you don't let it known' and she is also asking if your thinking about getting laid. If you had have been with a guy and said so then according to rule one she would not be happy?

If you care about her and your relationship that you have with her then this is something worth mentioning again just to make sure there is no misunderstanding and nobody gets hurt. You both seem very open about these things so dropping it into conversation shouldn't be that big of a issue.

^Do this.^

Talk, talk, talk, and talk. Communicate more. Establish rules or ask her what else you should or should not do besides just being discrete or not telling her about your sexual experiences with men when you have them.

Ask her if she's OK with you both having an open relationship, tell her how you'll have safer sex and use condoms for anal sex, and dental dams if you do rimming, and I'm not into cross dressing but I know some bisexual men who are and when they're with a woman or man they'll wear panties or play dress up but they both like this.

Good luck!

I am a bisexual man and my male ex and I had an open relationship but we also talked a lot and for both of us it was more important that if either of us were with someone else that we were having safer sex and we told the truth about what happened like how sometimes people will slip up with having safer sex-it hasn't happened to me but I have friends who've done this, and we were not going to keep secrets from each other. This is what worked for us, it's different for different people. I didn't care if I heard about other people he'd had sex with and he found the other people who I dated or slept with entertaining when I'd tell him about them.

 

[Biandcantshowit]

I'm a bi male and I have a girlfriend. My ex got me into it by bringing up and I agree and I enjoyed it. After two years we broke up. I have a new girlfriend now and we live together. I still like ailing a dick once in a while and getting fucked. My present girlfriend isn't into this what so ever. How do I go about it?

 

[B1tO'RoughJack]

T and I have spoken about sleeping with other people around last month. We both agreed that it was acceptable to have sex with some else, but, not to allow it to be known or hinted at in the slightest. And recently she said asked me if I had been thinking about getting laid by a guy. At the time I hadnt, so I said no. This has changed in the present, I really want to get fucked soon, and I dont know what I should do.

Should I supress the urge to do so? Do it now before shit gets alot more serious and were actually in a relationship? Should I try and bring it up in conversation prior, or just completely leave her in the dark about it and tell her I want to have a night bymyself to crossdress alone?

why would you suppress the urge? You have discussed it and come to conclusions. Do what you feel you need to do/want to do/is right.

 

[Pagey]

Well no, don't talk to her about it, it sounds like she was pretty clear on that point. She did say it was okay so if you really want to so you don't have anything keeping you back - do consider, however, that she might not have been 100% truthful when saying that, or she might have entirely meant it but could have difficulty if the situation did occur. Even if she doesn't know about it, since you love her you might want to consider the potential this has to hurt her. Honestly if I were in your shoes I wouldn't. But I don't think you'd be doing anything 'wrong' as such.