I have lost relationships and friends. I often ruminate, which isn't good for someone with depression or anxiety. How do you get out of your head?

[ayayron_fsu]

I realize that we often live in the past or future so much, that we forget the present. I often think of old friendships and relationships I no longer have and feel a deep sadness. I have been getting back into shape, and finishing my master's degree. My reddit account, DownvoteDaemon was disabled after two million karma and ten years. I think I was addicted to the attention. I was banned from facebook, and reddit, but I wasn't a particularly controversial character. I think it mostly reminds me we put too much importance on social media. What it portrays isn't often realistic. I only created a new instagram >snip<, to find some of the contacts that I lost. Not everyone had my number.

 

[Painful One]

Hi,
Sounds like yes, you are having too much social media.
Get out there and go to a fair or a park, a zoo, somewhere you like, go shopping, find some girls or guys to talk to in real life.
We have a world to build and it isn’t on the computer.
Try to balance your use.
That is my advise to you.

And as for ruminating over past relationships.
Look, forgive yourself.
Other people forgive.
We all grow in wisdom in life.
It takes two to tango.
So, look, just forgive and forget.
On to new things.
Don’t sweat it.

 

[PtahTek]

Hi, and welcome to bluelight.
Concentrating on the health and well being of others helps me when I get "stuck" in the past.
We lose many of our contacts over the years so this is normal but can understand the point of feeling alienated and the isolation.
We are here and imo far more than any other "social" site... so dig in and make some new contacts.
Any drug use by chance? No judgements just wanted to see if we had anything in common. lol
Best wishes

 

[Painful One]

Hi, and welcome to bluelight.
Concentrating on the health and well being of others helps me when I get "stuck" in the past.
We lose many of our contacts over the years so this is normal but can understand the point of feeling alienated and the isolation.
We are here and imo far more than any other "social" site... so dig in and make some new contacts.
Any drug use by chance? No judgements just wanted to see if we had anything in common. lol
Best wishes

How is the isolation feeling going for you sweetheart?
I don’t want you to feel lonely inside.
I did hear you.
I know how it feels too.
* hugs

 

[CFC]

I have been getting back into shape, and finishing my master's degree.

Those two things are absolutely massive. Really. I can't imagine you would have much time to do anything else BUT live in the present with those going on. Maybe you should delve even deeper into them as a way of getting sucked back out of your ruminating mind and into a present day focus?

 

[AlphaMethylPhenyl]

Staying busy would probably be my top recommedation.

 

[Eligiu]

Try to find some hobbies that you enjoy.

I like making Lego and playing animal crossing with @mal3volent.

 

[PtahTek]

Man bluelight is the shit to get outta my own head and get into others instead.
But working at a real job can be effective as hell, too.
Best always
p

 

[Nas47]

Before get out with shrooms.trippin'.now more balancin' somehow....it's ok to go out of ur head sometimes.even neccesy...'cause u got another point of view....