i hate it here

i really do not like la. like i really hate it here. as in its an evil, miserable, stupid, ugly, expensive, piece of shit town. my dislike extends into santa monica and anything bordering la. i hate it all and i want to leave.

i am sick of people telling me how great it is. because i think it sucks. and i really do not care what other people think. i am sure i will learn to tolerate it here. but it still sucks ass.

it looks like a giant strip mall broken up by roads, palm tress and shitty apartment complexes. the strip malls are populated by various asian eateries and stores run/for by latinos with a dash of weed dispensaries.

beaches, while nice in theory, are filled with trash, flies and obnoxious people. the water is freezing cold and polluted. parks are nowhere to be found, prolly because everyone is too busy sitting in traffic to ever notice a lack of them.

(i am bitter cause i got a ticket for talking on my phone last night.)

more reasons i am not thrilled here:

• stupid rental places require cashier checks. i didn't know anyone still used the stupid things
• snakes
• palm trees are hideous
• traffic
• it smells bad
• cops

 

Can you move out?!?
When I lived with my parents, I hate it there. Everyone talked about how wonderful the village was. I didn't understand what was so exciting about a village of 1,000 people and absolutely nothing (no mall, no restaurant, no gas station, no grocery store). There was a convenience store, a bank, a park, a post office, and a library. Nothing was within a 30 minute drive and no transit either (except for that city which was a 30 minute drive).

I finally moved out and am *much* happier living in a bigger, nicer area, where there are places and people and stuff.

Sometimes you know you're just not fit for a certain area eh. They are often just good as "vacation spots".

Can you move out at all? Or even move to a different location in the city? (That might help temporarily)

 

my husband and i are moving a bit south of the city this week. i suppose that should help. i just needed to rant about the things i dislike about la.

thanks for the response tho

 

it looks like a giant strip mall broken up by roads, palm tress and shitty apartment complexes. the strip malls

You're not the only one...

Although I've only seen small parts of it, it does indeed sound like a truly awful place populated by obnoxious people, as are most other US cities I've seen. All it took was the fly-over and then the cab ride from the airport to the hotel to give me that impression of LA. I was miserable the whole time I was there. I had a lucrative job offer just outside of LA in Irvine at a biotech company and another one in LA proper. I did not take either for those and other similar reasons.

 

i think you made a wise choice living where you do. one positive to living in socal is that there are cheap flights up to the pnw.

 

i always thought the same of palm trees, they're weird.

hopefully you'll get used to it a little more and find more things you like there soon. i hope the new apartment will help.

 

thanks

it just seems like every time i get something sorted, a zillion things pop up to prevent it from happening. and its nothing greatly major, we have a steady income and can stay at my sister's as long as we need to. so its not like there is a pressing need for anything to change. but i hate not being in control of things or knowing what is going to happen.

i am just frustrated, stressed and anxious. i can't complain to my husband because he really is trying hard and being pretty tolerant of my moods/threats to move myself to seattle/panic attacks. and my sister and her boyfriend are rather hospitable. so i feel even more shitty that i am not thrilled with this place.

i also really suck when it comes to dealing with stress in healthy ways. altho on the plus side, i have been managing to cut back on drinking greatly and i have not touched anything else.

 

have you tried meditating? it can be difficult to get into at first, but it's helped me out a lot with stress and anxiety.

 

i should get back into it. i was doing it for awhile and then i got lazy.

 

I'm not familiar with your story of how you ended up in LA in the first place. Did you move there for your husband's job? You might try looking at it as a quality of life issue. Would you and your husband be happier being poor in a place like Seattle (I think you said you have roots there) with whatever part time work you can get, or would you prefer where you are now just for the job? Maybe you can find some tiny secret neighborhood hidden somewhere where yiou can be happy in the vast megalopolis of LA.

 

the biggest thing is we have different idea of what makes a city nice. he loves the people, the constant activity and general atmosphere. the funny thing is, i can get better jobs in seattle because i already have connections there. but i agreed to try to give california a chance, so i will. i might just complain here for awhile until i get into a groove

but we are moving thursday to a more neighborhoody-type area which i think will help greatly.

 

I know what you mean about having a tough time dealing with stress well. For me, I need to be able to ground myself at home to keep sane, and if things are off, then I'm never quite right.

So I hope that you two can get properly settled soon

 

i think you nailed with needing to feel grounded. i need a space that is my own where i can go to be by myself.

i've realized in recent years that i am an introvert. or, i have realized in recent years that there are plenty of people who are similar to myself and they call themselves introverts.

 

When I saw the title I thought you mean BL. I got my fuck you face on :D