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I found out who raped me

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I have been talking to my counsellor & psychiatrist about it ever since I had the courage to bring it up, a few months after it happened. I've been doing cognitive behavioral therapy for my PTSD which has been helping a little. It's just such a long process. I do know I've been making some progress but it's frustrating to see how much it's still affecting me, and learning who did it feels like a major setback. I know it should probably give me some peace but seeing how he's just living a normal life with friends and all, sickens me.
I like the idea of putting posters with his name up in his neighborhood. I think I might do that, actually. I really, really don't want to confront him nor to have anyone I know do it for me, but if he can still pay for it a bit that way.
I'll also file a report as soon as I'm back in Paris, as I've moved to a different country since this happened.
Thank you again everyone.
 
Anonymously post a picture of the p.o.s., description and a vague form of the story on fliers and post them around town / internet. That way you don't have to go through an expensive trial, any discomfort you might have from being open to strangers about it and embarrassing him giving him nothing short of what he deserves.

I mean really an eye for an eye he scarred you he deserves the same.. I've seen it done before.. I've even seen rival cash for gold places post mugshots, background checks and descriptions of what they have done ( all sorts of sex crimes ) in their own store.

Also I am sorry that this has happened to you and I couldn't imagine the day to day struggle. I was with / in love with a girl for four years ( well I still love her ) that was raped three different times and I tried all I could to help her / comfort her but it was hard / complicated so I could never imagine and I would love to be the person to dish out the revenge but in that case she didn't know the people, wouldn't tell me or it was someone close to her.. All I can say is there will be better days and karma happens all the time.
 
I know you were raped but are you sure that this is the guy that actually did it? Either way file a report with the police or authorities and let them do their job. Don't put fliers up but instead go to the police and get help.
 
^I'm absolutely positive. I can remember every detail of his face and this is definitely him.
I'm planning on going to the police but the thing is there's no proof at all of what happened so as people have been saying, it's unlikely they'll be able to do anything other than file a report, and I really doubt that's going to give me much peace of mind since it's unlikely he'll experience any consequences from that, for the time being anyway. I just want to find a way to make him suffer just a tiny portion of what I've been going through since that happened to me.
 
DrunkardsDream said:
I know you were raped but are you sure that this is the guy that actually did it? Either way file a report with the police or authorities and let them do their job. Don't put fliers up but instead go to the police and get help.
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Did you even bother reading the OP?

I'm absolutely sure it's him.
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How is reporting it to the authorities going to get any justice, when there's no evidence? SMH
 
Pagey said:
^I'm absolutely positive. I can remember every detail of his face and this is definitely him.
I'm planning on going to the police but the thing is there's no proof at all of what happened so as people have been saying, it's unlikely they'll be able to do anything other than file a report, and I really doubt that's going to give me much peace of mind since it's unlikely he'll experience any consequences from that, for the time being anyway. I just want to find a way to make him suffer just a tiny portion of what I've been going through since that happened to me.
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Go to the police, continue getting help for yourself, and forgive him.
 
Whatever you do, Pagey. You know we're here to hear you bitch, cry, whatever. He's an asshole and I can't say what you should do to him. He's a POS.
 
Pagey said:
Why the hell would I do that? That's messed up.
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Trying to get hypothetical 'revenge' yourself on this guy, not getting help for being raped or having PTSD, using heroin and opiates to numb the pain, and not going to the authorities is more messed up and a lot more dangerous and self destructive. This guy is someone to stay far away from and the proper thing to do is go to the police and tell them about him and how he raped you, and do not approach, contact, or go near this dangerous guy.
 
DrunkardsDream said:
Trying to get hypothetical 'revenge' yourself on this guy, not getting help for being raped or having PTSD, using heroin and opiates to numb the pain, and not going to the authorities is more messed up and a lot more dangerous and self destructive. This guy is someone to stay far away from and the proper thing to do is go to the police and tell them about him and how he raped you, and do not approach, contact, or go near this dangerous guy.
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Brilliant post. Couldn't have put it better.

You must file a report, in consideration of other people that he may prey on (If he rapes you and gets away with it, chances are he may strike again). Even if you can't provide proof, making the police aware of him may help someone else who has/will report him.

But taking the attitude of "getting revenge" will not help anyone, especially yourself. Be upfront, bring the issue to light... and he'll meet his downfall at somepoint. Then forgive him and move on.
 
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Drunkard and raas are fucking trolls. They only skimmed through a couple posts, clearly didn't read the whole thread.
OP IS filing a police report, AND getting help for PTSD. Unfortunately the justice system never prevails in cases like this. I think posting flyers is a much less harmful "revenge" than any other method I can think of. Bottom line it's a community service informing people about these types of people. It's no different than the sex offender registry, really.

Come on fucktards, don't troll up this serious thread. Read all the posts clearly before posting ...
 
DrunkardsDream said:
Trying to get hypothetical 'revenge' yourself on this guy, not getting help for being raped or having PTSD, using heroin and opiates to numb the pain, and not going to the authorities is more messed up and a lot more dangerous and self destructive. This guy is someone to stay far away from and the proper thing to do is go to the police and tell them about him and how he raped you, and do not approach, contact, or go near this dangerous guy.
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Have you even read my posts?!
You've literally got every single thing in there wrong. I AM getting help for my PTSD. I AM going to go to the authorities. And you've got absolutely no idea why I use heroin, and in fact the very major part of the reason has got nothing to do with this, so don't pretend like you do.
I also never said I intended to go near him, in fact I think I made it clear I don't want any sort of contact with him.

raas_2012 said:
Brilliant post. Couldn't have put it better.

You must file a report, in consideration of other people that he may prey on (If he rapes you and gets away with it, chances are he may strike again). Even if you can't provide proof, making the police aware of him may help someone else who has/will report him.

But taking the attitude of "getting revenge" will not help anyone, especially yourself. Be upfront, bring the issue to light... and he'll meet his downfall at somepoint. Then forgive him and move on.
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How do you know it won't help me to get revenge?
Especially considering the number of MUCH worse things I wish would happen to this guy. I'll make sure he hasn't ruined my whole life but he's certainly ruined a part of it, I'm sorry but he doesn't get to simply walk away. The chances the police will be able to do anything are minuscule and I see no reason why I shouldn't do a bit more to make sure he feels some consequences.
I've got the same answer for you as for the other guy.

severely etarded said:
Drunkard and raas are fucking trolls. They only skimmed through a couple posts, clearly didn't read the whole thread.
OP IS filing a police report, AND getting help for PTSD. Unfortunately the justice system never prevails in cases like this. I think posting flyers is a much less harmful "revenge" than any other method I can think of. Bottom line it's a community service informing people about these types of people. It's no different than the sex offender registry, really.

Come on fucktards, don't troll up this serious thread. Read all the posts clearly before posting ...
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Thank you.

And I agree, this is meant to be a serious thread so if you're not actually going to read my posts or take them seriously I don't really see why you're answering.
 
^Etarded^ No I read the whole thread. Re-asserting the point that she should file the report, for the sake of others.

I don't think revenge is going to help anyone. Making it known what he did to the public and authorities would be a more mature way of dealing with him. Hope you find your justice, whatever.
 
^'Making it known to the public and authorities' is EXACTLY what I'm talking about.
I really feel like you're just not reading my posts.
 
^ Was a bit tipsy when I posted (apologies, but it's a drugs forum, what do u expect ;)) but I do think Drunkard had a valid point. If you become angry and vengeful towards the guy it may end up getting the better of you. Glad you're reporting him, let us know what happens...
 
8o OH SHI--- I never caught this. Poor you. :(

Fucking dickhead - I'd *ick the ish outa him.

If I was you M, I would confront him personally, accompanied by a good friend and tell him you are going to press charges, to watch him squirm - I honestly believe this would help you put the whole traumatic experience to rest, and empower you in the deepest way possible - to show his act of dominance only made you stronger.

Unless you were smacked out at the time(could be hard to prove it was him...unless you record the confrontation I suggest, and take it to a voice analyst who could prove to teh court beyond a shadow of doubt whether he is lying or not - job done, fucker in prison), then court should be no problem at all.
 
Pagey said:
Have you even read my posts?!
You've literally got every single thing in there wrong. I AM getting help for my PTSD. I AM going to go to the authorities. And you've got absolutely no idea why I use heroin, and in fact the very major part of the reason has got nothing to do with this, so don't pretend like you do.
I also never said I intended to go near him, in fact I think I made it clear I don't want any sort of contact with him.



How do you know it won't help me to get revenge?
Especially considering the number of MUCH worse things I wish would happen to this guy. I'll make sure he hasn't ruined my whole life but he's certainly ruined a part of it, I'm sorry but he doesn't get to simply walk away. The chances the police will be able to do anything are minuscule and I see no reason why I shouldn't do a bit more to make sure he feels some consequences.
I've got the same answer for you as for the other guy.



Thank you.

And I agree, this is meant to be a serious thread so if you're not actually going to read my posts or take them seriously I don't really see why you're answering.
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Pagey stop beating yourself up for being raped it was not your fault. Getting any sort of 'revenge' on this guy, approaching him, putting up fliers, or doing anything other than waiting for the police and authorities to do their job is putting yourself into danger, going to tell this rapist that he's being watched or known about-and gives him time to go to an excellent lawyer- and not going to do any good for you. I did read all of the posts in this thread. To be honest I do not care why you abuse heroin but it's typical addict bullshit excuses on your part, and even you know that you have a problem and don't want to continue using heroin.
 
DrunkardsDream said:
Pagey stop beating yourself up for being raped it was not your fault. Getting any sort of 'revenge' on this guy, approaching him, putting up fliers, or doing anything other than waiting for the police and authorities to do their job is putting yourself into danger, going to tell this rapist that he's being watched or known about-and gives him time to go to an excellent lawyer- and not going to do any good for you. I did read all of the posts in this thread. To be honest I do not care why you abuse heroin but it's typical addict bullshit excuses on your part, and even you know that you have a problem and don't want to continue using heroin.
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Okay, here I see your point. Thing is I don't live in the same city anymore, not even the same country, so even if I do put up flyers in his neighborhood (which is far from where I lived) he really couldn't find me again, especially since we don't know each other; and I do really think it would help me get some peace of mind instead of waiting for judicial retribution which might never come.
My heroin use really isn't pertinent to this thread and I've got no idea why you're bringing it up as it's another issue entirely.
 
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